Single-Parenting with Connection (NOT Perfection)
By: Dr. Gila, Single-Parent Coach
Language: en-us
Categories: Kids, Family, Parenting, Society, Culture, Relationships
Single-parenting in a world that’s not designed for you or your beautifully complex kid? Now, there’s a podcast that is! Welcome to Single-Parenting with Connection, NOT Perfection: Your go-to source for science-backed, heart-centered support that honors your messy reality. Join me, Dr. Gila, single mom and psychologist-turned-coach, for relatable stories, inspiring interviews, and practical tools to help you stop walking on eggshells and start actually enjoying parenthood. It’s the support you crave, without the emotional landmines. (And I promise I’ll never tell you to “just tag your partner in”!) Whether you’re divorced, widowed, single mom by choice or s...
Episodes
The First Step to a More Peaceful Home
Jan 08, 2026In the words of Julie Andrews:
đś Letâs start at the very beginning. A very good place to startâŚ
Tune in to hear Dr. Gilaâs take on the first step to creating a more peaceful home, with less snapping, more snuggling, and the joy and ease you crave. She explains why parent self-regulation is such a powerful place to focus, especially for single parents in the thick of it.
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âď¸ [Episode 2] Keeping Your Cool: Emotion Regulation for Parents
âď¸ [Episode 6] 2 Reasons You Can't "Calm" Your Way Out of the Hard St...
Duration: 00:13:44Five Parenting Truths to Remember
Dec 30, 2025In this solo episode, I share five truths I come back to again and again in my parenting and my coaching, especially with single parents who are carrying a lot and quietly wondering if theyâre enough.
These are the truths I invite you to hold onto as we head into 2026, or whenever you need a grounding moment to exhale and re-center. And if that feels hard right now, Iâm happy to hold them for you.
đ Follow the podcast so you don't miss an episode! And please share with your single-parent friends.Â
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Duration: 00:11:00Nervous System First Aid: A Gentle Practice with somatic psychotherapist Meg Tobin
Dec 23, 2025This week's episode is a special gift to help you through the winter holiday season, or any other stressful season of your life.Â
Somatic psychotherapist, and my dear friend, Meg Tobin, LMHC, guides us through a tapping (EFT) tutorial and practice to soothe your nervous system, including modifications and suggestions to fit your unique needs.Â
If youâre brand new to tapping, this episode is a gentle, no-pressure introduction.
If youâve tried it before and thought, âYeah⌠not for me,â you might be surprised by how flexible and customizable it can be.
<... Duration: 00:27:3610 Tips for the Winter Holidays and Break
Dec 16, 2025Winter break can bring joy, pressure, and a whole lot of overwhelm, especially for single parents.
This episode shares 10 realistic tips to help you navigate the holiday season with less stress and more connection. It focuses on why this time of year can feel harder, how to anticipate challenges before they spiral, and what actually helps when routines, emotions, and expectations collide.
Youâll hear:
How to set yourself and your child up for successWays to reduce power struggles and sensory overloadHow to support big feelings without fixing or forcingWhy connection matters mo... Duration: 00:37:18Screens: The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything, with Ash Brandin
Dec 09, 2025Stressed about screen time? (Who isn't?!) What you're about to hear might surprise you...and make this topic feel a lot less scary.Â
In this episode, I'm joined by Ash Brandin, EdS, aka TheGamerEducator and author of the bestselling book, "Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family," for an eye-opening conversation that may just change how you think about screens.Â
 You'll hear:
Why screen-time conflicts feel so charged, and the mindset shifts that instantly lower the temperature. What most parents miss about their kidsâ relationship with screens.Why co... Duration: 01:02:01Being Playful When You're Running on Fumes, with Mia Wisinski
Dec 02, 2025If the idea of âbeing playfulâ with your kid makes you want to crawl into a cave, this episode is for you.Â
Today, Iâm talking with Mia Wisinski from Playful Heart Parenting, who has a seemingly endless bucket of low-effort, high-connection ideas for sneaking silliness into the cracks of real-life parenting⌠even when youâre wiped.
In this episode:
Why play feels so hard for so many of us adults (including me!).How to tap into even the tiniest spark of silliness when you're running on fumes.Why playful... Duration: 00:29:23Is Gratitude Overrated?
Nov 25, 2025Have you had "start gratitude practice" on your to-do list for years, or get eye rolls every time you try it with your kid?
You're not alone, my friend!Â
In this solo episode, I dig into why gratitude can be powerful, why it sometimes backfires, and what to do instead, especially for single parents raising spirited or neurodivergent kids.
Youâll hear:
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When and how gratitude practices help âtrain your brainâ (and the key ingredient for success).
 â ď¸ Common pitfalls (think: toxic positivity) and barriers, and what to do instead.
Power Struggles with Neurodivergent Kids: Beyond the Battles, with Dr. Danika Maddocks
Nov 18, 2025Why does your kid push back so hard, even over simple stuff? And how can you break free of these battles so life doesn't feel like a trek through molasses?Â
Power struggles may be the bane of your existence, but they're also a glimpse into your kid's brain. Join me, Dr. Gila, and my guest, Dr. Danika Maddocks, an expert in parenting gifted and twice-exceptional (2e) kids, for a deep dive into this incredibly common (and incredibly frustrating!) parenting challenge.Â
In this episode:
What power struggles are actually telling you ab... Duration: 00:38:45Aggression Reframed: 3 Things Every Parent Needs to Know, with Tosha Schore
Nov 11, 2025If youâve ever been scared by your child's aggressive behaviors, or hopeless that things will ever change, this episode is for you.Â
Join me for a chat with Tosha Schore about:Â
 The 3 things every parent needs to understand about aggression in kids What aggression is really telling youHow to interrupt the shame-and-secrecy cycleA first step to help you feel less stuck and more connectedResources:
âď¸ Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore.
âď¸ FREE from Tosha: The 10-Day Reconnect
Connect w...
Duration: 00:26:39Why Kids "Lose It": What's Beneath the Big Behaviors
Nov 04, 2025Tantrums, and meltdowns, and rages...oh my! Big behaviors mean big stress for the whole family.Â
If youâre tired of walking on eggshells, wondering when and why your kid is going to "lose it," this episode is for you.
Dr. Gila breaks down whatâs really happening beneath the surface when kids have big reactions, and how understanding those moments can transform the way you respond. Youâll walk away with a clearer picture of what your childâs behavior is trying to tell you, and what you can do to help when emotions run high...
Duration: 00:24:322 Reasons You Can't "Calm" Your Way Out of the Hard Stuff
Oct 28, 2025Youâve done the deep breathing and tried every self-regulation trick in the book...So why does single-parenting still feel so freaking hard?!
In this episode, Dr. Gila shares two often overlooked pieces of the puzzle, and why a parent's self-regulation, while essential, isnât the whole answer (especially when single-parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child!).
Tune in to hear:
⢠The limits of self-regulation (and why thatâs not your fault)
⢠How to find acceptance without giving up hope
⢠The missing âkid pieceâ that changes everything
Resources mentioned in thi...
Duration: 00:17:16Raising securely attached kids in single-parent families, with Aurisha Smolarski
Oct 21, 2025Can kids form secure attachments in single-parent families? Or are they..."screwed"?Â
In this compassionate conversation, I chat with therapist, mediator, and award-winning author, Aurisha Smolarski, LMFT, to answer the quiet fear that nearly every single parent has.Â
We unpack attachment theory and resilience (without the jargon!), and how to help kids feel safe and seen, even when co-parenting is hard or non-existent.
Youâll hear us explore:
What secure attachment really looks like (beyond buzzwords).Whether a child needs two healthy parent relationships to t... Duration: 00:33:39Communicating with a Difficult Ex, with Jill Kaufman
Oct 14, 2025Co-parenting with a high-conflict ex is exhausting, especially when you still have to coordinate about your kids. In this conversation, Iâm joined by therapist and divorce coach Jill Kaufman, creator of Thriving Through Divorce and author of Iâm Getting Divorced, Now What?. We talk about practical ways to lower the drama, protect your peace, and keep the focus on your child â starting with a simple, powerful framework for communication that actually moves things forward.
Connect with Jill Kaufman:
Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going...
Duration: 00:29:17Parent burnout: Radical shifts to survive and thrive, with Amanda Diekman
Oct 07, 2025Parent burnout is real, and itâs not just about being tired. In this powerful conversation with Low-Demand Parenting author Amanda Diekman, we explore what parent burnout really means, and how to find your way back to yourself.
If youâve been running on empty or wondering how to keep going when youâre already at your limit, this oneâs for you.
Connect with Amanda Diekman:
Amanda is a late diagnosed PDA autistic adult, parent coach, and author of the book Low Demand Parenting, published July 2023. Amanda runs a successful coaching...
Duration: 00:37:27Keeping Your Cool: Emotion Regulation for Parents
Sep 30, 2025Snapping at your kids more than youâd like? Or do they keep "losing it," with tantrums and meltdowns that seem to come out of nowhere and leave you walking on eggshells?Â
In this episode, I share my signature framework for understanding emotion regulation (for both you and your child). Itâs a simple visual and a powerful tool for kids and adults alike. And it just might change how you see yourself and your child.Â
For your free guide to understanding tantrums and meltdowns, go to www.singleparentingwithconnection.com.Â
And if...
Duration: 00:25:48You Belong Here. ❤️ (Welcome + Season 1 Preview)
Sep 30, 2025Welcome to your shame-free corner of the podcast world: A space for single parents (or anyone who feels like one) to feel seen and supported as you navigate this beautifully bumpy journey. Whether you're raising a strong-willed, spirited, or neurodivergent kid, or you're simply craving validation, guidance, and community, you're in the right place.
In this premiere episode of the podcast:Â
Discover what this podcast is (compassionate, science-backed support) and isnât (control-based parenting tips, judgmental language, or âjust tag your partner inâ advice that doesn't fit your messy reality). Meet me, Dr. Gila (rhymes with tequila... Duration: 00:38:14Trailer: 🌱 Single-Parenting with Connection (NOT Perfection)
Sep 17, 2025Welcome to Single-Parenting with Connection (NOT Perfection): The podcast for single parents (and anyone who feels like one).
đ Divorced, widowed, solo by choice, partnered but doing it all yourself, or somewhere in between? Youâre in the right place.
đ Parenting a strong-willed, spirited, or neurodivergent kid? Iâve got you.
Iâm your host, Dr. Gila (rhymes with tequila). I'm a single mom myself, a certified parenting coach, psychologist and neuropsychologist, and speaker and educator. And I'm deeply passionate about supporting single parents like you.Â
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