Mindshift: Transforming Perspectives on Parenting & Education

How Much Academic Pressure Is Too Much?

PLSHS Principal Jeff Spilker reveals the "sweet spot" between helpful stress that motivates learning and harmful pressure that paralyzes students. Learn why today's students put more pressure on themselves than parents do, discover practical strategies for when your child fails a test, and understand why both students and parents should "never worry alone" when navigating academic challenges.

How to Navigate Difficult Conversations That Build Trust
Join communication coach Nicole Paul as she reveals why we avoid difficult conversations and how to transform them into relationship-building opportunities. Learn the critical difference between directives and dialogue, why treating hard conversations as one-offs is a mistake, and how to invite (not ambush) people into challenging discussions. She also reveals why conversations create change even when they don't go as planned, offering hope for anyone who's been avoiding an important discussion.

Perfect for parents, managers, and anyone who's been putting off a conversation that matters...

Understanding School Testing: A Parent's Guide to MAP and State Assessments

Join hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson as they demystify school testing with Angie Wright, Director of Assessment at Papillion La Vista Community Schools. Learn what MAP Growth and NSCAS tests really measure, how teachers use assessment data to personalize learning, and practical ways parents can support their children through the testing process. Discover why testing isn't just about ranking but about helping every child grow and succeed at their own pace.

How to Talk to Kids About Death, Grief, and Hope

When 1 in 15 kids lose a parent or sibling by age 18, knowing how to support grieving children becomes essential. In this powerful episode, grief expert Cliff McEvoy from the Collective for Hope shares practical strategies for talking to kids about death, including why using proper words like "dead" matters and the healing power of saying our loved ones' names. Learn about support resources available for families, discover why grief has no linear stages, and hear touching personal stories that illustrate how families can transform grief...

What Holiday Chaos Teaches About Priorities and Connection

Join hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson as they welcome wellness coach Heather Kearney, a 15-year veteran of stress management with military service in both the Air Force and Navy. Discover practical strategies for managing holiday overwhelm, including the powerful breathing technique you can do in your car, tips for communicating boundaries with family, and why prioritizing self-care isn't selfish. Learn how to balance holiday traditions with well-being and show up as your best self for the people you love. 

Why Boundaries Actually Build Stronger Kids

In this game-changing episode, hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson explore why setting boundaries feels so hard, and why the repair after breaking them matters even more. Social work expert Katie Robbins reveals the surprising truth: boundaries aren't about walls, they're about connection. Discover why kids need you to lose your temper sometimes (yes, really), how to repair after you've yelled, and the one family routine that changes everything. Perfect for parents who feel guilty saying no and want discipline strategies that actually strengthen relationships.

Child Meltdowns and Tantrums: Teaching Emotional Regulation Skills

Is your child having daily meltdowns and tantrums? In this essential episode, veteran first-grade teacher Carla Heumann shares 17 years of proven strategies for managing emotional outbursts and teaching kids emotional regulation. Hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson explore why toddlers and children struggle with big feelings, how to recognize dysregulation, and practical calm-down techniques that actually work. Learn why punishment fails, discover the surprising brain-reset power of cold water, and get step-by-step guidance for helping dysregulated children at home and school. Perfect for parents dealing...

The Youth Sports Pressure Cooker: When Does Support Become Too Much?

Remember when youth sports were just... fun? Dr. Lisa Chipps, Senior Associate Athletic Director at Creighton University, joins hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson to unpack the mounting pressures facing young athletes today - and how parents can support without suffocating. Drawing from years working with college athletes, Dr. Chipps reveals the evolution of student-athlete expectations, the difference between healthy pressure and harmful stress, and the critical conversations parents need to have (even when kids roll their eyes). Whether your child dreams...

When your kid says "I don't care" about homework, what are they really telling you? Nick Zadina from the Boys Town National Hotline joins us to flip the script on motivation. Drawing from his work in crisis intervention and motivational interviewing, Nick explains why punishments and fear-based motivation stop working the moment kids leave for college. He shares practical strategies including how to identify what your child actually values, why "gentle pressure constantly applied" beats threats, and when to simply let natural consequences happen. This conversation will change how you think about homework battles, the "I don't care" attitude...

In this critical episode, hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson sit down with FBI Supervisory Special Agent Brian LeBlanc to decode school threats and expose the online predators targeting our children.

Agent LeBLanc, who leads the FBI's Domestic Terrorism and Threat Response Squad, reveals why anonymous bomb threats are almost always hoaxes and explains why students are actually safer staying inside during threat assessments rather than evacuating. Parents will learn how to differentiate between real and hoax threats, why behavioral threat assessment is our best defense against school violence, and what warning signs indicate their...

Content warning: This episode contains discussion of school violence that may be sensitive for some listeners

What really happens when a school goes into lockdown during an active shooter incident? In this powerful episode, Dr. Christopher Villarreal shares his first-hand experience of a school shooting, when he was a third-year teacher hiding under his desk, unable to reach anyone, learning about the crisis through news reports on his laptop.

Now serving as Director of Communications and leading school safety initiatives, Christopher and co-host Dr. Deb Anderson discuss how school emergency protocols have transformed, what actually...

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by device settings or wondered what your kid's school Chromebook is actually filtering, this one's for you. PLCS Director of Technology Matt Moore breaks down the difference between what schools manage and what you can control at home - from iPhones and Androids to gaming consoles and Netflix profiles. He explains where to find parental control tools you didn't know existed, why that "downtime" feature matters for sleep, and the warning signs (like defensiveness or sudden mood swings) that tip him off when his own three kids are testing boundaries. No tech degree required...

Ever wonder why your child loved blueberries yesterday but refuses them today? Jennifer Anderson from Kids Eat in Color joins us to solve the "blueberry lottery" mystery and share game-changing strategies for feeding picky eaters. Learn why putting a cookie on the dinner plate might actually work, discover the simple protein-energy-color formula for balanced meals, and find out why those "three more bites" negotiations might be backfiring. Plus, get reassurance that you're not ruining your child – even when dinner is just five bites of food.

The kids themselves are saying it: "Thank you for putting in a cell phone policy." In this revealing episode of Mindshift, hosts Dr. Christopher Villarreal and Dr. Deb Anderson sit down with Papillion La Vista High School Principal Jason Ryan to explore the surprising reality of phone-free classrooms.

Ryan shares how his school's three-year journey from "phones in pockets" to "phones in caddies" transformed not just grades but the entire social fabric of the school. Students are having real conversations at lunch, finishing homework, and finding relief from the constant pressure of being "always on."<...

One in ten eighth graders has tried vaping in the last 30 days. In this eye-opening solo episode, host Dr. Christopher Villarreal sits down with pediatrician and addiction medicine specialist Dr. Ken Zoucha to decode the vaping epidemic quietly infiltrating our schools.

From understanding why vaping doesn't burn like cigarettes (making it dangerously easier to use) to learning that 60% of teen vapers want to quit but can't, this conversation strips away the confusion surrounding e-cigarettes, Juuls, and vape pens. Dr. Zoucha reveals enlightening statistics and shares practical strategies for talking to your kids about vaping without...

When teens withdraw to their rooms or kids say "I'm fine" through tears, how do you know when to worry? In this crucial episode of Mindshift, mental health expert Julia Hebenstreit joins Christopher and Deb to demystify suicide prevention and trasnform fear into action.

Julia reveals why asking directly "Are you thinking of suicide?" won't plant the idea (that's a myth!) and shares practical tools like creating wellness plans during good times and identifying your "three people" for tough moments. Learn the warning signs and discover how programs like Hope Squads prove that youth are actually leading...

Remember when getting your kid to school was as simple as "because I said so"? Yeah, those days are GONE. In our season premiere, we're diving into the real talk about school attendance – from the 5-year-old declaring "I don't want to go!" to the teenager with the car keys and autonomy. We're unpacking why "life gets lifey" (best phrase ever), how anxiety changed the attendance game, and what actually works when your kid plants themselves in bed at 7:45 AM.

Are we pushing our kids too hard—or not hard enough? In this thought-provoking finale to Season 1 of Mindshift, hosts Christopher and Deb explore the delicate balance of expectations with learning expert Mark Williams. The conversation begins with personal reflections—Christopher feeling pressured about his preschooler's achievements and Deb sharing her grandson's mental health struggles with perfectionism. Mark draws from his experience as both an educator and father of three to offer a middle path: encouraging exploration while maintaining boundaries. He introduces the powerful "never mid-season" approach to quitting activities and explains why scheduled family downtime is non-negotiable in an o...

Is your child's brain melting this summer? It doesn't have to! In this eye-opening episode of Mindshift, we dive into the world of summer learning with library dynamo Kelly Warehime. Forget boring worksheets—discover how counting M&Ms, playing video games as sports commentators, and involving kids in meal planning can spark learning without killing the summer vibe! Kelly debunks the myth that summer enrichment must feel like school, instead offering creative approaches that meet kids where they are—whether they love graphic novels or need downtime after a busy day. Between hilarious personal stories and expert insights, this conv...

In this candid conversation, Mindshift welcomes high school students Taylor and Jacquelynn who pull back the curtain on Gen Z's digital reality. Discover which platforms today's teens actually use, why they maintain multiple accounts for different audiences, and how gender differences shape online engagement. The students speak honestly about navigating online pressure, AI-generated misinformation, and their own strategies for managing screen time. Their straightforward advice for parents—learn the apps and approach technology conversations with positivity rather than judgment—offers practical wisdom for bridging the digital generation gap. This refreshing student perspective provides both hope and understanding for parents navi...

What if your child's different way of thinking isn't something to fix, but something to celebrate? In this enlightening episode of Mindshift, hosts Christopher and Deb explore neurodiversity with special education experts Kaylee Ayala and Dr. Heather Post. Discover what neurodiversity really means, how to recognize developmental differences in children of all ages, and practical strategies for supporting different thinking styles at home. Our guests share personal insights about balancing the "superpower" aspects of neurodivergent thinking with everyday challenges, while emphasizing that all children benefit from routine, high expectations, and the freedom to make mistakes. This conversation offers valuable...

Is screen time stealing our children's innocence? In this compelling episode, SmartGen Society expert Suzie Fogarty reveals the hidden costs of our digital dependence. From surprising research showing why Silicon Valley execs send their kids to low-tech schools to the heartbreaking admission from a teen that social media "cost me my innocence," this conversation transforms how we view technology in our homes. Learn the critical difference between active and passive screen time, discover why co-viewing matters for young learners, and gain practical strategies to ensure devices don't control your family life. Whether you're navigating toddler tablet time or teen...

In a world where some 4-year-olds think Target shopping is free and parents often find themselves hiding money conversations, how do we raise financially literate kids? Join hosts Christopher and Deb as they confront their own money challenges with Cobalt Credit Union expert Kendra Cain. From digital payment confusion to sibling spending differences, this episode delivers practical strategies for transforming everyday moments into powerful financial lessons. Discover how simple activities like grocery budgeting and handling payment cards can prepare children for financial success in today's cashless economy.

Are parents pushing college prep as early as preschool? Dr. Julee Sauer challenges our outdated assumptions about high school education and student success. With refreshing candor from her 34-year career, she reveals why "durable skills" might matter more than perfect grades, and how the landscape of post-graduation options has expanded beyond traditional four-year degrees. Discover what returning graduates wish they'd known and how parents can support teens through productive struggle rather than clearing every obstacle in their path.

Sleep expert Dr. Connie returns to answer your burning questions about getting better rest! From practical strategies for quieting a racing mind at bedtime to the truth about white noise and sleep apps, this episode delivers research-backed solutions for your most common sleep struggles. Dr. Connie busts myths about learning while you sleep, explains why those middle-of-the-night wake-ups happen, and makes a passionate plea to prioritize sleep over trendy health fixes. Whether you're dealing with bedtime battles or your own sleep challenges, discover why protecting your sleep might be the foundation for better health you've been overlooking.

Is "anger management" missing the point? In this provocative episode, therapist Anita Akers joins Christopher and Deb to flip conventional wisdom on its head. The conversation ignites when Deb declares anger management "stupid," leading to a fascinating exploration of how we've misunderstood this universal emotion. Discover the brain science behind emotional reactions, why telling someone to "calm down" never works, and practical strategies for helping children express their feelings appropriately. Whether you're navigating a four-year-old's tantrums or managing your own reactions, this conversation offers a liberating truth: it's not about managing emotions—it's about understanding them.

When divorce transforms a family, what happens to the children navigating this emotional terrain? In this compelling episode, mental health therapist Liz Wollmann demolishes common myths about "damaged children of divorce" while offering a framework for parents facing this challenging journey. Drawing from her extensive experience as a collaborative divorce coach and mediator, Liz delivers game-changing strategies that transform family transition into opportunity for growth. Whether you're contemplating divorce, currently separated, or supporting someone who is, this powerful conversation reveals exactly how parents can protect their children's emotional wellbeing while rebuilding their own lives. Don't miss this conversation on...

What happens when kids forget how to make friends in person? Experts reveal shocking examples of students unable to interact after weeks together—despite wearing nametags! Discover why intentional face-to-face relationships build crucial resilience that screens can't provide, and how adults can model meaningful connections. Beyond the digital divide, this conversation offers parents and educators practical hope for nurturing the social skills young people desperately need in today's disconnected world.

Are you sleeping all wrong? Boys Town psychologist Connie Schnoes joins hosts Christopher and Deb to shatter sleep myths that might be harming your health. With 27 years of sleep expertise, Connie reveals why getting less than seven hours of sleep impairs you like having a 0.08 blood alcohol level and increases your risk of illness by 50-60%. Discover why eight hours is non-negotiable, the truth about melatonin supplements, and why teenagers biologically can't fall asleep early despite school schedules demanding early mornings. 

Ready for better rest? Submit your sleep questions to communications@plcschools.org by Monday, March 24 to b...

What makes a truly kind child? Discover the surprising science behind compassion with researcher Dr. Vicki Zakrzewski from UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. Beyond empty "be nice" commands, learn practical ways to show your child the powerful difference between superficial politeness and genuine kindness. This eye-opening conversation reveals why teaching compassion creates not just nicer kids, but more successful and resilient ones too - perfect for parents who worry kindness might make their children vulnerable in a competitive world.

What if punishment isn't about control, but about connection? In this eye-opening episode, behavior coach Chad Nichols reveals how to shift from traditional discipline to teaching and understanding. Through real-world examples—from preschool meltdowns to teen dinner battles—learn practical ways to help your kids navigate challenges while building stronger family bonds. No complicated behavior charts or guilt trips, just strategies that actually work.

It's not about being the best, it's about being their best. Sounds simple, right? In this game-changing episode, 35-year education veteran Gretchen Kalkowski joins hosts Christopher and Deb to share why this subtle shift in thinking could transform your family's approach to learning. From a four-year-old's basketball adventures to a high schooler's calculus complaints, discover how letting go of the "perfect grade" chase can actually lead to better learning (and happier kids!). Whether you're wrestling with report cards or trying to build confidence in a struggling student, this episode offers a refreshing truth: real learning happens when we focus...

"My grandkids know more about AI than I do!" Is this your fear too? Don't worry - you're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, UNO's AI Learning Lab expert Cassie Mallette returns to flip the script on AI anxiety. Discover why having your child use AI for homework might actually sharpen their critical thinking (yes, really!), and why some students are surprisingly hesitant to use it at all. From classroom 'calculator rules' to future careers, get practical guidance on navigating our AI-powered world. Join hosts Christopher and Deb for a refreshingly honest conversation that transforms the family AI discussion...

'I was talking to my friend Claude about Christmas shopping...' Wait, who's Claude? In this enlightening episode, UNO's AI Learning Lab expert Cassie Mallette joins hosts Christopher and Deb to demystify artificial intelligence in our daily lives. From using AI to plan the perfect family vacation to having it help with tricky homework problems, discover why this technology might be more friend than foe. Whether you're tech-savvy or tech-nervous, this episode transforms intimidating AI concepts into practical family tools. And those Netflix shows you love? That's AI working behind the scenes! By the end of this episode, you...

Think screen time is the enemy? Think again. In this myth-busting episode, school counselors Emily Boisseree and Chris Bowlby flip the script on digital parenting. Instead of focusing on restrictions and time limits, discover why asking "how does this make you feel?" might be more powerful than setting another screen time rule. From turning TikTok scrolling into family bonding time to understanding why your kid loves watching gaming videos, our experts share practical ways to navigate the digital world together. Whether you're wrestling with Snapchat decisions or judging your toddler's YouTube habits, this episode offers a refreshing take on...

Is anxiety always a disorder, or could it be a protective response? In this illuminating episode, school psychologist Vern Davis-Showell and counselor Justine Clemenger join hosts Christopher and Deb to reframe how we think about children's mental health. From turning car rides into conversation opportunities to understanding the delicate balance between physical and digital safety, our experts offer practical wisdom for parents and educators. Whether you're a parent concerned about screen time's impact on mental health or an educator looking to support students better, this episode offers fresh perspectives on anxiety and depression in today's youth.

'Just drink water and eat air' - sound familiar? If you're tired of unrealistic health goals and guilt-inducing resolutions, this episode is your permission slip to try something different. PE expert Kyle McMahon reveals why turning your family walk into a geocaching adventure or letting your picky eater help cook dinner might be more powerful than any strict diet plan. No guilt trips, no complicated plans - just practical ways to make healthy living feel less like a chore and more like play.