New year, same pressure to “change everything.” But what if that’s the problem? In this episode, we talk about daily habits, procrastination, accountability, and the uncomfortable truth about goals we say we want… but don’t really want to work for.

From fitness and productivity to mindset and self-talk, this is a real conversation about starting small, being honest with yourself, and building habits that fit your real life—not some perfect version of it. Especially when life is chaotic, kids are loud, and motivation comes and goes.

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Duration: 00:27:56

We’re talking about love languages beyond romance—with parents, siblings, friends, and the people who drive you a little crazy this season.

Are you loving people the way you want to be loved—or the way they actually receive it? We break down why good intentions still miss the mark and how understanding love languages can reduce conflict, save time, and deepen connection.

As you gather around the table, ask yourself: What if loving differently could change your family dynamic for the better?

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Duration: 00:22:42

Perimenopause hits every woman—but most of us don’t even know it’s happening. In this episode, we sit down with a women’s health educator, Gail Janicola, who breaks down what perimenopause really is, why it starts earlier than you think, and the symptoms no one warns you about.

We talk about why so many women feel like they’re “losing control” of their own bodies. If this is a normal part of being a woman, why are we all walking into it blind?

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Duration: 00:51:18

Welcome to part 2 of this conversation. Therapy is trending, but is it truly helping us grow—or just giving us buzzwords? In this continued episode, we unpack real healing, generational patterns, and why perspective matters. How do you know if you’re doing the work… or just surviving on autopilot? And honestly—do you think YOU need therapy?

We continue the conversation revolving around mental health in our Black communities with Ketayma. If you missed the first part, make sure you check it out before watching this one.

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Duration: 00:32:26

In part 1 of 2 of this episode, we sit down with a friend to talk about something many of us grew up avoiding—mental health in the Black community. We laugh, we reminisce, and we get real about what it means to normalize trauma, function through pain, and still tell ourselves we’re “fine.”

Ketayma opens up about therapy, anxiety, depression, and the moment he realized he was repeating patterns he thought he’d escaped. We also talk about why so many of us confuse survival with strength… and why healing requires more than prayer, jokes, or pushing through.

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Duration: 00:39:55

Thanksgiving is here, and while we love the food, the laughs, and the chaos… being around family can hit some nerves. In this episode, we’re asking the one question most of us avoid: What’s your role in your family—and is it really who you are, or just what you do?

We unpack the labels families give us, how those roles stick, and why some of us feel out of place when life changes. Before you walk into that family gathering this holiday season, tune in to this episode.

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Duration: 00:20:11

What really happens to men after they become dads—emotionally, mentally, even biologically? Does fatherhood reshape masculinity, from shifting testosterone to shifting priorities? We talk about fear, identity, and that quiet pressure men feel to “get it right,” even when they don’t know what that looks like.

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Duration: 00:28:52

Are you a gentle parent—or just trying not to repeat what you grew up with? In this episode, we’re discussing emotional intelligence, boundaries, and that unspoken fear of “raising a soft kid.”

Let’s talk about the real difference between gentle parenting and tough love—and why most of us are probably somewhere in between. 

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Duration: 00:24:38

Ever notice how our generation went from “bottomless brunch” to “barefoot in the garden”? Let’s talk about the great energy shift — why so many of us are craving slower mornings and simpler living. From letting go of hustle culture to reconnecting with nature, we unpack why peace suddenly feels like the new flex.

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Duration: 00:28:22

Ever catch yourself parenting like your parents — even when you swore you’d do things differently? We’re talking about breaking cultural habits and finding your own rhythm as a parent.

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Duration: 00:24:23

How does “I love you” turn into hate so fast?
When you’re hurt, do you make them feel it—or face what’s under your own pain?

We're breaking down the difference between reacting from hurt and responding with growth. Let's talk about what forgiveness can look like when trust is cracked—not erased.

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Duration: 00:29:59

Have you noticed how a new baby or a new season can make friendships feel…different? In this episode, we talk about what actually changes, how to hold on to the people who matter, and simple ways to make time that feels good—even when life is busy.

Are we asking friends to meet us where we are…without meeting them where they are?

Press play for a quick check-in, a few easy fixes, and a honest nudge to decide which friendships to grow—and which to let go, kindly.

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Duration: 00:25:02

Before marriage, we said the relationship comes first. Now with kids — do we still believe that?

Can relationships stay first when kids enter the chat? Let’s talk about what actually happens when love meets parenting.

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Duration: 00:28:27

Parenthood changes everything—your body, your mind, your relationships, even your sense of self. But why does society expect parents, especially moms, to just “bounce back” like nothing happened? In this episode, we dive into the myth of bouncing back after having kids—physically, mentally, emotionally, and even in your career.

We’re unpacking some of the pressures moms and dads face while navigating healing, identity shifts, and family dynamics.

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Duration: 00:29:53

We're back for season 3! And we're wondering if anyone else has been feeling drained lately? From juggling careers and parenting to navigating technology overload, we explore why our brains and bodies are more exhausted than ever—and how to potentially break free from the cycle.

Are midlife crises still a 50+ situation or are we entering that stage of life much sooner now? Join the conversation because this episode might just be the reminder you didn’t know you needed to reclaim your peace.

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Duration: 00:31:23

Are We Ever Really Ready for Marriage or Kids?

It’s the season two finale, and we’re going out with a conversation that hits home. Is “waiting until you’re ready” really possible—or just something we say to feel in control? From financial prep to emotional baggage, how do we prepare for marriage and parenthood. Can planning protect us from regret? Or does life laugh at even the best-laid plans?

Whether you’ve got kids, want kids, or are just trying to survive adulthood, this one will make you pause...

Duration: 00:32:43

We talk about emotional intelligence all the time—but do we really understand what it looks like in a relationship?

This episode dives into the part we don’t talk about enough: not just managing your own emotions, but learning how to help your partner manage theirs. What if emotional intelligence wasn’t just about you, but also about how you show up for the people you love? From co-regulating to understanding triggers and unspoken needs, we’re unpacking the emotional labor, empathy, and silent expectations that shape relationships.

Are you truly emotionally intelligent, or just sel...

Duration: 00:33:25

We’re more “connected” than ever—so why do so many people feel alone?

In this episode, we dive into the difference between being a loner and feeling lonely. From surface-level conversations to fading friendships and the silent mental load, we unpack the modern loneliness that’s creeping into our daily lives. And are we doing enough to really show up for each other? Tap in for a raw conversation that just might shift how you connect with the people around you.

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Duration: 00:27:58

Is life really on easy mode for women? That quote stirred the pot—and in this episode, we’re diving into the everyday pressures women face that often go unseen. Do men truly understand what’s beneath the surface? This isn’t about who has it harder, it’s about stopping the comparison long enough to actually listen.

If you’ve ever said, “Women got it easy,” or thought men are always the underdogs, this one’s for you. Tap in and ask yourself—have you ever really stepped in her shoes?

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Duration: 00:31:01

Ever look around at your life and think, “This isn’t what I pictured”? 

In this episode, we’re diving into what happens when your life doesn’t go as planned—and why that might actually be the best thing for you. Are you chasing a dream that’s not even yours? Or are you finally ready to create your own? Let’s talk about the pressure, the pivots, and the power in starting over—with intention.

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Duration: 00:25:40

Continuing the conversation with Sam, Steve, and Eddie...

As a father, is being present enough? Are we holding on to outdated ideas? And most importantly…are we raising boys who know who they are before the world tells them who to be? Tap in and challenge your own playbook.

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Duration: 00:40:11

How do we raise young black boys into strong, whole men? 

Sam, Steve & Eddie continue the conversation from last week, but with a focus on fatherhood, discipline, emotional legacy, and the silent expectations men carry. From breaking generational habits to redefining what “tough love” should look like today, the conversation dives into how men can show up with structure AND softness. 

Can you raise a resilient son without wounding him?
Are we preparing him for life—or projecting our own fears? 

Whether you’re a dad, a mentor, or reflecting on the father you...

Duration: 00:43:33

What does it really mean to be a man today—and are we carrying more than we let on?
In this first part of our Men’s Series, Sam is joined by two guests and gets real about the silent pressures men face: from money and identity to emotional suppression and validation. If you’ve ever felt like you're building the plane while flying it—or showing up strong when you’re actually drained—this one’s for you.

We’re talking legacy, fatherhood, emotional weight, and the unspoken competition men have with th...

Duration: 00:54:47

Ever feel guilty for drifting away from old friends or family members? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dig into the reality of outgrowing people—and why that doesn’t have to mean cutting them off.

We explore how relationships evolve with time, how to recognize when you’re forcing outdated connections, and how to re-imagine what friendship and family bonds can look like in adulthood.

If you’ve ever struggled with letting go, setting boundaries, or feeling like you're the only one doing the work—this one’s for you. Let’s talk about what...

Duration: 00:25:59

Why do so many mother-daughter relationships feel like an endless tug-of-war? Is it tough love, unhealed trauma, or just history repeating itself? In this episode, we continue the conversation from last week but with a focus on the generational cycles that shape how mothers treat their daughters—from childhood expectations to adult conflicts that never seem to fade.

Why do some moms push their daughters so hard while letting their sons slide? Why does criticism sometimes feel louder than love? And most importantly—how do we break the cycle?

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Duration: 00:28:09

Ever feel like your dad was more competitor than coach? Or like your parents raised you with love—but also a load of pressure?

In this episode, we get real about the quiet tension that builds between parents and sons as boys grow into men. From tough love that cut too deep, to fathers who saw challenge instead of change, we’re unpacking the real roots behind the drama. Is it generational? Cultural? Or just emotional stuff no one talked about?

Whether you’re raising kids now or still working through how you were r...

Duration: 00:36:30

Ever feel like you're parenting your parents? You're not alone. Turns out, millennials are officially the sandwich generation—caught between raising kids and raising... well, their own parents.

So why is it that the very people who told us not to stay out late, not to spend recklessly, and not to ignore our health are now breaking their own rules? And more importantly—how do we handle it without losing our sanity?

In this episode, we unpack the reality of parenting your parents, how birth order and culture play a role in this weird reversal, and...

Duration: 00:42:29

Sibling dynamics: why do some siblings stay close while others drift apart? We're taking a deep dive into the role that family, culture, and even gender play in shaping how siblings relate to each other.

Have you ever wondered why your sibling relationship isn’t what you expected? What role does your upbringing play in it? Listen now and see if you’re guilty of the same sibling missteps or if you're nurturing a bond built to last.

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Duration: 00:38:21

Why aren’t men pursuing women like they used to? In this episode, we dive into the shift in dating dynamics—why some men feel it’s just not worth the effort anymore. Are women setting too many “hoops” to jump through? Or have men simply grown tired of the chase? Tune in—and ask yourself: Are we making it too hard to connect with each other?

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Duration: 00:27:11

We’re breaking down how cultural shifts are redefining relationships. Is the 50/50 mindset killing romance? Can modern men really handle traditional women or is it a fantasy until reality kicks in? Can women truly balance being a boss outside and submissive at home? Let’s talk about it.

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Duration: 00:25:09

Studies show that year seven is the breaking point for many couples—but why?

In this episode, we dive into the stats, the psychology behind the “seven-year itch,” and the biggest reasons marriages fail (hint: it’s not just about love). What’s pulling couples apart? And most importantly—how can you beat the odds and make your relationship thrive long-term? Whether you're married, engaged, or just thinking about the future, this is one conversation you don’t want to miss.

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Duration: 00:33:13

Does marriage actually affect wealth? We hear it all the time—marriage is just about love, right? But what if we told you it has way more to do with financial stability and long-term success than you think?

In this episode, we’re discussing potential reasons why Black marriages are on the decline.

🎧 Tap in. You don’t want to miss this one!

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Duration: 00:38:24

Millennial parents, let’s talk. Remember when we thought we’d have a village helping us raise our kids? Turns out, that village is looking real different (or nonexistent).

Why does it feel like past generations had more support? Is it because we moved away, set more boundaries, or are we just expecting too much? And let’s be real—at what point do you stop hoping and just buy your village instead?

In this episode, we’re discussing the realities of raising kids without the village we thought we’d have. If you’ve ever felt alon...

Duration: 00:34:04

What do women really want? If you’ve ever asked this question (or been too afraid to), this episode is for you. Are women truly as complicated as they seem or are men actually over-complicating things by looking for a “final answer”?

We’re breaking down some of the misconceptions about what women desire. And here’s the real question—do women even know what they want? Or are they figuring it out as they go?

Whether you're trying to understand your partner or just avoid another “you should know by now” moment—don’t miss this one. Tune...

Duration: 00:24:43

Can men ever truly afford to chase happiness when leading a family—or is it a distraction from their real purpose?

In this episode, we’re tackling the saying: ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’. Are men responsible for creating happiness for their family or does this mindset entirely miss the mark? Tune in.

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Duration: 00:25:01

Millennials: the most criticized, misunderstood, and, dare we say, resilient generation. In this episode, we unpack why Millennials are seen as lazy, entitled, and overly sensitive—but is that the full story? From navigating crushing student debt to juggling multiple jobs while breaking generational cycles, Millennials are doing more than just surviving—they’re redefining what it means to live.

Is the world really tougher for Millennials, or are we finally brave enough to challenge the status quo? And what’s the legacy we’re leaving for the next generation? It’s time to set the record straight. Duration: 00:31:53

Is modern feminism missing the point? In this episode, we’re diving into feminism—past and present. Is the term still about empowering women and advocating for equality, or has it shifted into something more divisive? From understanding the original goals of feminism to grappling with its modern interpretation, we explore how the term has evolved—and whether it’s now doing more harm than good.

Are we losing the balance between celebrating women’s independence and respecting traditional roles? And why does modern feminism often feel like it pits women against men—or even against each other?

Duration: 00:23:44

In this episode, we dive deep into the controversial term "toxic masculinity" and unpack what it really means. Are we redefining masculinity in ways that suppress natural traits of men like strength and competitiveness?

We reflect on societal shifts, the blurred lines between aggression and confidence, and why men today might feel hesitant to embrace their manhood. Is it okay for men to be unapologetically themselves?

Join us as we challenge stereotypes, question societal norms, and explore whether masculinity, as we’ve known it, still has a place in today’s world.

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Duration: 00:24:09

New year, same goals? We’re talking about the hype of New Year's resolutions and why they often don’t work for most of us.

Are we setting ourselves up for failure with unrealistic timelines and overwhelming expectations? Or is it the lack of a clear, tangible plan that trips us up? Whichever it is, you are not alone! Did you know that 80% of people tend to give up on their resolutions by February?

Is it time to ditch the resolutions and focus on daily progress instead? Tune in to find out how we make real...

Duration: 00:19:18

The holidays are here, and so is the joy—and maybe stress—of family gatherings. Ever felt like every conversation is a minefield of unsolicited advice, judgment, or endless questions about your life choices? Whether it’s, ‘When are you getting married?’ or 'Why haven’t you had a kid yet?’, family functions can sometimes feel more overwhelming than festive.

In this episode, we unpack the pressure of navigating family dynamics during the holidays. How do you stay sane, set boundaries, and protect your peace when faced with nosy relatives or outdated expectations? Let’s talk about it.

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Duration: 00:24:53

What does it truly mean to lead in a marriage? Is leadership about making decisions, setting the tone, or something deeper?

Can you recognize the ways you lead in your relationship—or the ways you let your partner lead? Does it involve understanding, respect, and partnership or simply whoever is in “charge” calls the shots?

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Duration: 00:26:03

Are we harder on boys than girls, even as toddlers? Is it necessary for boys to face tough love from an early age, or are we unintentionally creating emotional scars under the guise of strength?

In this episode, we tackle the fine line between discipline and emotional neglect. From the differing ways parents handle crying boys versus girls to the long-term impact of societal expectations, we ask: Are we preparing boys for the real world—or holding them back from emotional growth?

Is tough love the only way to raise strong men? Tune in and ch...

Duration: 00:36:45

How much of what you believe is truly your own thought?

We’re discussing the power of media influence and how it may shape our beliefs, decisions, and even self-perceptions. Do you question what you're told—or are you caught in the web of "programming"?

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Duration: 00:35:43

Why has it become so easy to label the opposite gender as “trash” or “toxic”, and are these labels just a shield for our own insecurities?

In this episode, we have a raw and eye-opening conversation on the modern battle between men and women. Unpacking the blame game on social media, exploring how the past hurts fuel today’s stereotypes, and asking the real question: can we truly thrive without each other? 

From independence to respect, we’re exploring what it takes to break down barriers and restore unity.

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Duration: 00:35:12

Are traditional men becoming a thing of the past?

We continue the conversation on dynamics between modern and traditional roles, but specifically for the man. From emotional vulnerability to old-school gender expectations, we explore what it means to be a man (or woman) in today’s world.

Is there room for traditional values, or are we better off moving forward? Is balance possible or are we just stuck chasing ideals that no longer exist?

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In this episode, we dive into the tug-of-war between traditional and modern roles in relationships. Are modern men too emotional, or are they finally in tune with their feelings? Do modern women secretly crave the structure of tradition, or are they evolving into something even better? We explore the challenges of balancing roles and managing expectations.

If both partners are now breadwinners and caregivers, is tradition still relevant? And how do we maintain harmony when everyone plays both roles?

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Duration: 00:39:08

What does toxic really mean, and have you ever wondered if you’ve been toxic without even realizing it? In this episode, we dive into how toxic environments affect us—whether it’s at home, with friends, or in everyday relationships.

We explore how some situations push us to grow, while others slowly tear us down. How do you know when it’s time to walk away or when staying could lead to growth? And here’s the real question: Are toxic behaviors subjective, or is toxicity something deeper that we often overlook? Tune in for a raw conver...

Duration: 00:30:27

What does it really mean to maintain your individuality in a relationship? Can two people truly stay true to themselves while building a life together?

In this episode, we dive into the balance between love and independence, exploring why men fear losing freedom and why women struggle to keep a sense of self. Are relationships about compromise, or evolution?

Let’s explore how to keep you alive while building a we.

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Duration: 00:35:55

What happens when you stop sitting still while waiting for a miracle and start creating your own opportunities?

There’s a shift that occurs when you come to realize that faith isn’t a shortcut. Tune in for a fresh perspective that might just change how you approach your goals, dreams, and prayers.

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Duration: 00:38:22

Have you ever found yourself wondering, Why does this keep happening to me? Whether it’s in relationships, work, or life in general, sometimes the common denominator is… you.

We dive deep into how taking responsibility for the patterns in our life can lead to real change, growth, and healthier outcomes.

But the real question is: Are you willing to shift how you move in the world to stop repeating the same cycles?

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Duration: 00:28:25

Is church attendance really declining, or is there a deeper shift happening in how people connect with faith?

In this episode, we dive into the surprising statistics showing that nearly half of millennials and Gen Z are skipping out on church. But what does that mean for our spiritual lives? Are we finding God in new places, or are we losing touch with something vital?

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Duration: 00:46:03

How do you know if you're making choices for yourself or just trying to keep the peace? In a world that often pushes us to conform, we explore being authentic even when it disappoints others or makes you stand out. Is it worth the loneliness it sometimes brings? 

Are you living for you or for everyone else?

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Duration: 00:38:09

Life is a series of cause and effect, where every decision—big or small—leads to consequences that shape our lives. From the breakfast we choose to eat, to life-altering moments that come from a seemingly insignificant decision, we dive deep into the ripple effect of our choices.

But here’s the question: Are you creating the life you want, or are you letting life happen to you? Join us as we challenge the notion of fate and take control of our destinies.

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Duration: 00:38:15

Are you living your truth, or just going with the flow? Have you ever felt drained trying to fit into different roles or personas?

We’re diving into discovering our identity beyond the labels society gives us—beyond being a parent, friend, or professional. Who are you, really? Let’s find out!

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Duration: 00:31:37

We’re back! And we’re going right into the hard questions…

Ever heard the statement or had the thought: “black communities don’t support one another?” Well, we have and in this episode, we’re diving into the idea of community and what "support" means.

Is it just about buying from Black-owned businesses, or is there more to it? We challenge the narrative that Black communities don’t support their own and explore whether our expectations of support are realistic—or even fair.

Can we redefine what support looks like, not just for today, but for...

Duration: 00:40:49

We're back! Season 2 premieres Thursday, Sept 5th and we're running every Thursday until June.

This time, we'll also have short video content during the first half of the season THEN mid-season, we'll start posting FULL EPISODES on video via YouTube!

If you know us, you know that going visual is a big deal. But we're committed to those of you that have been following the journey and making the request. We've heard and we're delivering. New deeper conversations but the same motto.

If you're new here, welcome to the journey! Catch up with...

Duration: 00:01:05

🎙️It’s the last episode of the first season and whew, did it fly by!

In this last episode, we explore the art of "maintenance" for the relationships that enrich our lives. Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in all your relationships, from friendships to love?

Think of your conversations as maintenance check-ups—simple yet profound acts that can transform your connections. What does relationship maintenance look like for you? Is it a quick text to a friend or a deep conversation with a loved one?

Tune in and discover how small ges...

Duration: 00:43:55

Ever wonder how owning up to your mistakes could lead to liberation and growth? We’re diving into the power of accountability.

Discover why taking responsibility for both your actions and inactions can lead you towards personal development and deeper connections.

We unravel how accountability isn't just about admitting wrongs but embracing the opportunity to respond and improve. Tune in to find out if accountability is the missing piece in your journey to better relationships and self-awareness.

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Duration: 00:35:21

Are you keeping your relationship talks in the right circles? Have you ever felt torn between sharing a problem with a friend or keeping it within your partnership? 

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of advice, trust, and privacy. We’re asking questions like: When is it right to seek advice outside of a relationship, and when should it stay between the two of you?

Join us as we explore the difficulties in balancing between seeking guidance and maintaining privacy in your relationship.

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Duration: 00:38:25

We’re diving deep into the nuances of sensitivity, asking, "Is being sensitive a strength or a weakness?" We explore how sensitivity impacts our relationships and self-perception, challenging societal norms that often equate sensitivity with weakness. 

Join us as we explore why understanding and embracing sensitivity could be a game-changer in how we interact with the world. Tune in and join the conversation.

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Ever wonder how relationships withstand the test of time and change? Tune into our latest podcast episode where we dive deep into the dynamics of evolving relationships.

From navigating the ups and downs of marriage to maintaining connection amidst personal growth, we discuss the thoughts everyone has when it comes to evolving together without growing apart.

Do you think people can truly change for the better together? Join us for a candid discussion on love, unavoidable change, and growth.

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Duration: 00:36:30

Are you becoming your parents? We’ve been discussing breaking cycles and healing our inner child in previous episodes. But in this revealing episode, we dive into the uncanny ways we inherit traits from our parents, often catching ourselves mirroring their habits and quirks.

We're not just exploring the often humorous, sometimes alarming reality of how deeply our parents influence us but we’re focusing on ways to rewrite the negative behaviors we may have unconsciously picked up from them.

Join us as we unpack the potential of becoming the very people we grew up with...

Duration: 00:35:42

Ever agreed on something important with your partner, only to find out they had a change of heart? How do you navigate the chills of compromise without losing your warmth?

We're tackling the tough questions: How early should you discuss your non-negotiables with a significant other? What do you do when your plans don't align?

We’re discussing clashing priorities within relationships. Join us for a candid conversation about finding common ground, or realizing when it's time to let go.

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Duration: 00:41:21

Do you think your childhood left marks you need to heal from? Dive into an enlightening discussion about the invisible threads that tie our present to our past. We're peeling back layers to reveal how our inner child's needs, joys, and pains subtly shape our adult lives, urging us to explore and heal areas we often overlook.

Could embracing your inner child be the key to lasting happiness and fulfillment? Let's discover how to honor and heal our inner selves, reshaping our future by confronting our past. Tune in for a transformative exploration of self-love, healing, and...

Duration: 00:27:05

Are you ready to challenge the cycles shaping your destiny? In this episode, we dive into the heart of familial cycles, exploring the parallels between our choices and those who came before us.

Ever questioned the power of inherited habits or the notion of "coincidences" in your life? We're discussing generational patterns, shedding light on the moments of realization that connect us to our roots in ways we never anticipated. Whether it's finances, traditions, or emotional responses, join us as we uncover the cycles that bind us and the powerful steps we can take towards breaking free.<...

Duration: 00:40:16

Ever ponder if the quest for a perfect partner is blinding us to the joys of the almost-perfect ones? 🤔 Let’s discuss some dating dilemmas! 

In this episode, we're unpacking the age-old debate: Are men really simpler in love, or are we all chasing fairy tales?

Discover why 80% might just be your new 100% in the love equation. Is your checklist for love guiding you to happiness, or is it a recipe for perpetual singlehood?

Join us, as we explore the fine line between high standards and unrealistic expectations. Whether you're single, taken...

Duration: 00:41:16

How do you share your true self without drowning out the voice of your partner, or vice versa? Dive into a candid exploration of self-expression with us on today’s episode.

It’s not just about letting your own light shine, but also about navigating through the other person’s boundaries when expressing yourself.

Discover the fine line between expressing your needs and respecting those of the ones you love. Tune in, and let’s find the balance together.

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Duration: 00:31:16

Today, we're unwrapping the layers of communication in relationships, decoding the unsaid, and exploring the power behind the words we choose.

Do you think there's a magic formula for conveying your thoughts perfectly? Discover your communication style, learn to read between the lines, and maybe, just maybe, find the key to unlocking a deeper connection with those you cherish.

What we thought was effective was actually problematic, and that may be the same for you. Are you ready to become more aware and potentially improve the way you communicate with others? Tune in to...

Duration: 00:43:43

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of love. Have you ever pondered the true essence of love or how it differs from simple care or admiration?

Join us as we unravel these mysteries through personal stories, revealing moments of clarity, and an honest exploration of our own experiences with illustrating and receiving love.

Discover the nuanced interpretations of love, the impact of societal views, and how personal upbringing shapes our understanding of affection. Whether love has always been a fairy-tale for you or something you've struggled to grasp, this episode...

Duration: 00:41:19

Have you ever found yourself trapped in the swirling thoughts of "What if?" and "If only I had..."? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving into the deep, often murky waters of regret.

We're discussing the types of regrets that haunt us—from missed opportunities, to the longing for deeper connections and moral dilemmas. But here's the kicker: What if we told you that regret doesn't have to be your enemy? Through this candid conversation and personal revelations, we explore how distinguishing between guilt and regret can illuminate the path to self-forgiveness and growth.

Duration: 00:31:55

This week, we dive into the heart of grace and understanding, essential ingredients for nurturing relationships.

Ever wondered why some conversations turn into confrontations while others pave the way to understanding? Have you ever been in a situation where your initial reaction would have made things worse, but choosing grace changed the outcome? We've been there and we’re exploring those fine lines.

We’re sharing personal experiences and how these moments have shaped our approach to disagreements and misunderstandings, which have helped us avoid arguments and deepen our connections. From the misconceptions about grac...

Duration: 00:34:28

This week we delve further into the essential conversation about creating safe spaces for women, continuing from where our last discussion ended. Have you ever pondered what it genuinely means for a woman to feel safe and understood? We unravel the complexities of emotional expression, the societal pressures women endure, and the roles men can assume to nurture a supportive environment.

We explore how societal expectations and "programming" from a young age can shape our views on what women should be, do, and feel. The discussion reveals the subtle ways in which women, especially black women, are...

Duration: 00:25:06

In this episode, we found ourselves delving into an unexpectedly deep conversation about what women crave in safe spaces. With many moments of raw honesty, this openness paved the way for us to explore the significance of validation and emotional security from a woman's viewpoint.

We faced the question: What does emotional security look like in practical terms? Through our personal experiences and thoughtful discussions, we began to unravel the layers of emotional labor and societal expectations placed on women, especially black women. We ventured into the historical contexts that have shaped certain stereotypes, pondering how these...

Duration: 00:28:56

Last week, we started scratching the surface on the topic of safe spaces. If you missed out, rewind to catch up, because today, we're going even deeper.

Ever wonder why men often retreat into silence rather than share their feelings? How do past behaviors influence the way men communicate and express themselves? What boundaries should never be crossed and why? We're exploring these questions and more!

Join us as we discuss the risks and rewards of emotional openness. We expose how societal expectations and negative reactions can prompt men to close off, impacting their self-esteem...

Duration: 00:30:52

This week, we delve into the intricate world of 'safe spaces'. What are they? Do we need others to create them, or can we forge them alone?

We're exploring the essence of belonging and peace of mind in environments free from judgment and criticism. It's a candid discussion about the challenges of finding and offering safe spaces, especially in our relationships and communities.

Get ready for a deeper dive into questioning societal norms about vulnerability and strength. If you listened to episode one (Learning to Be Vulnerable), then you know that there is an...

Duration: 00:41:45

In this candid conversation, we continue the topic of expectations by visiting the question of what unhealthy beliefs we have of ourselves. We explore the fine line between ambition and unrealistic demands. We also confront the common trap of timing success. Learn why it's essential to understand and accept that success isn't time-bound, but a journey that's unique to each individual. 

Dive deep with us into personal reflections on societal pressures, the pitfalls of comparison, and the journey to self-understanding. 

Through our dialogue, we aim to shift the narrative around expectations, encouraging listeners to adopt a...

Duration: 00:29:58

Ever found yourself quietly seething because someone didn't live up to your expectations, even when they had no idea what those were? We've all been there, and that's exactly why we're tackling the intricate dance of expectations in our lives. In this episode, we pull back the curtain to reveal how the beliefs we hold about the future can either set us free or tie us down. We discuss the liberating power of healthy expectations, rooted in faith and potential, compared to the entrapment of unhealthy expectations, which often stem from unvoiced demands. Through our lens and personal stories...

Duration: 00:32:40

Have you ever felt the weight of the world on your shoulders, not from your own dreams, but from the expectations of everyone around you? This episode peels back the layers of obligation and reveals the personal cost of shouldering them.

Navigating the minefield of relationships often means confronting the silent contracts we never signed up for. In heartfelt conversations, we delve into the complexities of societal norms. This episode isn't about assigning blame but about understanding the origins of expectations, their impact on our autonomy, and the power of saying 'no'. Through a mix of reflection...

Duration: 00:51:07

Have you ever considered the strength that lies in your most private moments of openness? We're tackling the often misunderstood concept of vulnerability and its surprising role in shaping genuine leadership and deeper human connections. From the quiet introspection of the introverted mind to the societal masks that men are urged to wear, we unravel the fabric of emotional intelligence and its essential place in our personal growth. This episode isn't just about the tender emotions we shield from the world; it's about discovering the paradoxical power that comes from our willingness to be seen in our authentic state.<...

Duration: 00:50:33

Embarking on a journey of growth and evolution isn't for the faint of heart, but it's a path we've chosen together. We, your devoted hosts, believe that sharing insights and stories from our lives can help kindle a flame of understanding and camaraderie. In our heartfelt inaugural episode, we pull back the curtain on the genesis of NoirPoised, our venture into the world of podcasting that is fueled by our passion for candid conversations and a desire to connect on a deeper level with our community. We're not just talking about the world around us; we're revealing our innermost...

Duration: 00:14:13