In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dynamics early, and why prioritizing pleasure leads to deeper trust, safety, and better sex.

In this episode, Alexa and Sir Marvelous discuss:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with musician and content creator Emi Larraud for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about vulnerability, masculinity, oversharing on the internet, and why emotional availability makes men more desirable and better lovers. From shitting yourself on the subway to tips on how to be more vulnerable, this episode explores how being human, communicative, and emotionally present leads to better sex, safer intimacy, and more meaningful connections.

In this episode, Alexa and Emi discuss:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist and intimacy coach Kate Shelor for an in-depth conversation about erotic hypnosis, the subconscious mind, and how our thoughts, beliefs, and emotional conditioning shape pleasure, desire, and orgasm. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode breaks down what hypnosis really is, how it differs from pop-culture myths, and how erotic hypnosis can help people get out of their heads, release sexual shame, and reconnect with their bodies.

In this episode, Alexa and Kate discuss:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with tantric practitioner, pleasure educator, and soon-to-be author Davia Frost for a deep conversation about decentering penetration and expanding what sex can be. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode explores how slowing down, breathing, presence, and creativity can lead to more satisfying, intimate, and embodied pleasure without sex needing to revolve around penetration.

We discuss:

What it means to decenter penetration and why penetration is overemphasized in mainstream culture

How expanding your definition of sex increases pleasure, intimacy, and satisfaction

Why heterosexual couples t...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex & relationship coach Catherine Drysdale for the most honest, nuanced conversation about voluntary celibacy you’ve ever heard. Together they break down how intentionally stepping away from partnered sex can reset your dating patterns, raise your standards, calm your nervous system, help you stop centering dating/sex, reconnect you to your body, and ultimately make your sex life better.

In this episode, Catherine opens up about:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator, pleasure expert, and the Handjob Queen herself, Ashley Manta (@cannasexual), for the most comprehensive handjob episode ever recorded, all from the middle of the Ionian Sea aboard a Desire Cruise.

Together, they dive into Ashley’s entire sexual evolution, her journey into sex education, her non-monogamous love story, and her insanely detailed handjob techniques that go way beyond the basics. This episode is part sex education masterclass, part storytelling, part technique demonstration and entirely iconic.

We cover:

How Ashley de-centered penetration in her rela...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of the groundbreaking bestseller She Comes First, He Comes Next, and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. They talk about why his 2004 classic is still changing bedrooms two decades later, how the clitoris remains misunderstood, and what makes sex truly great.

We discuss:

- Why She Comes First is still a global bestseller 21 years later

- ⁠The science of the clitoris and its internal structures

- Why all orgasms are clitoral — and what “outercourse” really m...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amanda Dames, the kink consultant and sex & relationship coach, for a deep dive into the world of kink — from power dynamics and negotiation to choking, bondage, chastity, and aftercare. Amanda, a former dominatrix and current coach for couples and individuals, breaks down how to safely explore desire, communicate boundaries, and find confidence in both dominance and submission.

We discuss:

What a kink consultant actually does and how Amanda works with couples and individuals

How to talk about kink and start negotiating scenes with a partner

Th...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@⁠sexwithalexa⁠)⁠ sits on the couch with Robyn Silber⁠ — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection.

We talk about:

Dating younger men and having 70 sexual partners in her first 10 months in NYC

Sexual health: chlamydia, BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and learning to advocate for herself

Why only ~5 of 70 partners made her orgasm and how she wa...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson, author of Old Enough, bisexual Dream Girl, and OCD Princess, to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy.

We discuss:

The importance of friendship and why it can be even more transformative than romantic love

Learning to fight and repair conflict with friends instead of avoiding it

Friendship breakups, grief, and when to let go vs. when...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Nina Divina, Mama Muse and founder of Haus of Muse, for a powerful and playful conversation about confidence, burlesque, sensuality, and how to be the main character in your sex life.

We talk about:

What “cunt is an energy” really means and how to embody it

Overcoming body image struggles and learning to love your reflection

How to be the main character in your sex life and in everyday life

The power of adopting a persona to boost confidence

Why tea...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Ali Weiss, New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden.

A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and how vulnerability can be both a calling and a curse. Ali opens up about running her anonymous confessions podcast, burnout, parasocial relationships, and why taboos like sex work and drug dealing deserve compassion instead of judg...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies.

We cover:

Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex life

The difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to life

Vee’s wildest fulfilled fantasies (from MFM threesomes to DVPs and even public play at Broadway)

What it’s really like to plan a gangbang (and why you might...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.

We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.

We talk about:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.

In this episode, we dive into:

The difference between body love and body neutrality

Baby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your body

How body image influences desire and long-term passion

Building connection through to...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.

In this episode, we dive into:

What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worse

Why Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look instead

The messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healing

The role of kink in teaching care, communication, and bound...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri, to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “lip slip”), why that’s normal, and how to shop for pieces that fit and feel good.

What we cover:

Pubic hair culture now vs. then: why the bush is back, personal preferences (including duri...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back with another deep dive into the world of dating, this time with award-winning sex educator and ghostwriter Connie Collins (@thefirstdatediaries). We explore the state of relationships today and reveal what keeps people stuck in situationships and unhappy. It’s often not about your dating profile or messaging speed, but deeper issues like fear of vulnerability and emotional shutdowns.

We cover:

- Understanding sexuality and how to discover what you truly want in relationships.

- Recognizing emotional availability and its impact on your dating experience.

- Th...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed for another season and she’s kicking things off with adult film icon Small Hands (Aaron Thompson). From monogamy and marriage to aftercare and emotional intimacy on set, Aaron shares what it's really like to live a life of performance — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling. We get deep on female pleasure, working with Owen Gray, porn myths, and how to separate real connection from performative sex. If you’ve ever wondered what love looks like when sex is your job, this one’s for you.

In this epi...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.

Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.

We cover:

What to know before attending your first sex party

How to navigate consent, conversation, and energy

Why curiosity is sexy, but entitlement isn't

What not to...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Birna Gustafsson, sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies, to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it.

Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad science shape our sexual health beliefs.

Expect to learn:

The actual failure rate of pulling out and why it’s riskier than you think

Why douching is unnece...

In this very juicy and educational episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jamie Joy, a queer, trans certified sex educator and full-blown fisting aficionado. We dive deep (literally and figuratively) into the world of fisting, from how to prep and practice it safely to the surprising aftercare and emotional intensity it can carry.

We also discuss:

How to prep for fisting (from hygiene to headspace)

Differences between vaginal and anal fisting

Safety tips, including glove use, nails, and douching

Why fisting is more emotional and intimate...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Thea Rose, host of Seggs Talk Radio and founder of a new STI testing startup, to talk about what it really takes to build a sex-positive business—from scratch, with heart, and without losing your mind.

Thea opens up about her messy, honest path as a multi-hyphenate creator, how she juggles podcasting, launching companies, and staying grounded through burnout, ADHD, OnlyFans, and entrepreneurship in a taboo space. If you've ever wondered what it actually takes to build something sustainable in the sexual wellness world—this one's for you.

We g...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Allie Hoffman, founder of Catch The Feels—a viral in-person dating experience helping people ditch dating apps and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and intuition.

We dive deep into Allie’s groundbreaking “four systems of knowing” and how we can use the body, emotions, thoughts, and inner truth to date with more clarity and self-trust. Allie opens up about falling for poly men while being deeply monogamous, breaking her pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable partners, and how her body often speaks louder than her mind when it comes to sex and rela...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined once again by photographer, ethical slut, and emotionally available king Matthew Kayman for a raw and wildly entertaining deep dive into threesomes, pegging, vasectomies, and how men can do better in sex and relationships.

We go deep about what it means to unlearn toxic masculinity and embrace a more present, consensual, and pleasure-focused approach to sex. Matt opens up about getting pegged for the first time, navigating group sex with intention, and why he chose to get a vasectomy—and how it’s impacted his confidence and partnerships.

We also...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships.

We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring out how to explore power dynamics while remaining ethical and emotionally available.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

How Matthew realized he wasn’t dating ethically—and what changed that

His transition into ethical non-monogamy and what it taught him about...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola (@dirtylola) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance.

From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into:

Her early sex-positive explorations and yes—high school sex parties!

The complex layers of body image, fatphobia, and family shame

How shame shows up in our sex lives and what to do about it

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Catherine Drysdale—sex & relationship coach—who’s on a mission to help women and femmes unlearn the “good girl” scripts that keep them small, quiet, and out of touch with their desires.

We talk about:
• What “good girl conditioning” really means and how it shows up in our lives

• The difference between Good Girl Conditioning and being a "good girl" in a power dynamic• The pressure to be nice, palatable, and liked (and how that impacts our relationships and sex lives)• Why so many of us have trouble asking for wha...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back onboard the Temptation Cruise!
In this episode, Alexa reconnects with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for Temptation Cruises, to dive even deeper into what makes a lifestyle-friendly cruise such a unique, exciting, and welcoming experience.

Recorded live from the February 2025 sailing, we chat about:

How Temptation Cruises create a safe, respectful, and fun environment for all guests

Tips for first-timers: how to navigate nerves, set boundaries, and make connections

Debunking common myths about swinger and lifestyle cruises

Themed nights, play areas, workshops, and...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.

Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure.

Whether you’re new to toys or looking to level up, we’ve got guidance on how to...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro. Whether you’re a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we’ve got you covered.

Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professional experience. We talk technique, confidence, communication, and why good oral isn’t just about what your mouth is doing—but also how present, excited, and connected you are.

In this...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required.

In this episode, we discuss:

The most common mistakes people make when going down on someone

How to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsure

Kenneth’s signature “sex hacking” approach and why it wor...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?

We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral Cosmopolitan articles—what to do with your ex’s nudes. Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time?

Plus, we discuss what it’s l...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural. Whether you’re looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires.

We cover:

How she got started and what it's like working at a dungeon.

How to start dominating your boyfriend—even if you’ve never done it before.

W...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Lindsay Wynn, founder of Momotaro Apotheca, a brand dedicated to holistic vaginal health and wellness. After struggling with recurrent BV and yeast infections with no long-term solutions in sight, Lindsay set out to create products that actually support vaginal and vulva health—without harsh chemicals or unnecessary shame.

In this episode, we have a raw and informative conversation about all things vulva health, vaginal wellness, and self-care. We dive into:

How to prevent and treat common vaginal issues like BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and irritation—what actually works and...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Dr. Sonya Maya, a pre-licensed psychologist, sex therapist and content creator. Dr. Sonya helps people navigate relationships, pleasure, and personal growth with confidence and clarity. In this episode, we explore how to have casual sex in a way that feels empowering, enjoyable, and drama-free—whether you're new to it or looking to refine your approach.

We discuss:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Sex Educator, Embodied Intimacy Coach, Marketing Director for Magic Wand and host of the Fuck Yeah podcast, to talk about one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood experiences: full body orgasms. Recorded in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat, this episode dives deep into what full body orgasms really are, how they happen, and how you can tap into them.

Sarah shares her journey from discovering sex-positivity in college to becoming a leading voice in pleasure-based sex education. We talk about how shame, stress, and disconnection...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) sits down with ⁠Amy Baldwin⁠—sex educator, co-host of the ⁠Shameless Sex Podcast⁠, and author—to talk about everything from learning to enjoy receiving to becoming amazing at oral and navigating non-monogamy.

Amy shares what it was like growing up with a sex-positive mom, opening a sex shop with her, and not having her first orgasm until 18—plus how she only started having really good sex in her 30s.

We also go deep into her journey in non-monogamy, how she and her partner opened up their relationship, and how their rules vs. agreements evo...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sat down withApril Lampert in Costa Rica at theShameless Sex Retreat to talk about everything from sex shop secrets to navigating infidelity. April, co-host of theShameless Sex Podcast, has spent years helping people break free from shame and embrace pleasure—but her journey started in avery different place.

In this episode, we cover:
🔹 Growing up in aconservative household and unlearning sexual guilt
🔹 What working at asex shop taught her about human desire
🔹 Theinfidelity in her past relationships & how she handled it
🔹 Herslut era and what it taught her about sexual empower...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Jacqueline Soule, a system disruptor who feels everything—literally. From experiencing orgasms on bumpy roads to planning her life around her menstrual cycle, Jacqueline shares how deep body awareness has shaped her life.

We discuss how to be more mindful and make everyday moments more pleasurable, how she taught her kids about cycles and sex education, and what it’s like to navigate relationships with mismatched desire levels. Plus, she reveals what life is like without a negative internal voice—and how you can start silencing yours.

Topics includ...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amber Mallery, an award-winning sex educator and advocate for inclusivity in sexual health education, for an inspiring and candid conversation about sex, self-discovery, and prioritizing personal growth. (also see @bijoux_indiscrets)

Amber shares her journey into sex education, her passion for fostering inclusive spaces, and how she navigates challenging but essential conversations around intimacy and relationships. They dive deep into their shared experiences giving workshops on Desire Cruises, discussing the unique dynamics of teaching about pleasure and empowerment in such a liberating environment. Amber also opens up about her decision...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) kicks off Season 4 with an exciting conversation with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for the famed Desire and Temptation Cruises. In this episode, we dive into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises and explore what makes these experiences so unique, from themed nights and play spaces to fostering a respectful, consensual environment for newcomers and experienced swingers alike.

Mario shares insider details about creating a safe space for exploration, including privacy measures for discreet guests, guidance for setting boundaries, and tips for easing into the lifestyle. We also debunk common myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) welcomes Reed Amber, a multifaceted sex educator, sex worker, and co-host of the popular podcast Come Curious. In this episode, Reed opens up about her experiences and insights into sex work, body confidence, and intimacy. She shares her journey toward embracing nipple confidence, the challenges of vulva and labia diversity, and how growing up in a “naked family” helped her view normal bodies as healing and empowering.

We delve into her private and professional lives, discussing how she balances intimate, private sex with her boyfriend and the content they create for OnlyFans. Reed shar...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Genevieve LeJeune, CEO and founder of Skirt Club, a revolutionary space for bisexual women and those curious about exploring their sexuality. Skirt Club has become a global phenomenon, hosting play parties in 36 cities worldwide, empowering women to embrace their desires in a safe and inclusive environment.

In this episode, we dive deep into the story of how Skirt Club began as a response to the lack of spaces for bisexual curiosity and how it quickly grew into a vibrant community for women. Genevieve shares what a typical Skirt Club party...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) dives into the fascinating world of professional domination and kink-aware therapy with Miss Veronica Viper, a seasoned dominatrix and therapist. In this episode, Veronica shares her journey through an unconventional upbringing in different countries, her first experiences with pegging and consensual choking at 16, and how working as a stripper led her to find her true calling as a domme at age 19.

We explore her training process, the diverse range of clients she serves—including surprising numbers of women, queer, and non-binary individuals—and the unique custom requests she’s received. Veronica also opens up abo...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Zoe Atiko, the creative force behind @reignofsovereignty, a groundbreaking harness fashion movement. Zoe shares her journey from burlesque and hat-making to creating fluid, inclusive designs inspired by her experiences in Berlin.

We delve into how Zoe’s queerness and dedication to empowering others shape her work, as well as her philosophy of seeing bodies as monuments and rejecting the idea of imperfections. She explains what it’s like working with her, the meaning behind her movement, and her goal to inspire confidence and comfort in all who wear her designs.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) delves into the world of paid companionship and intimacy with Arik Brückner, CEO and co-founder of CHOICE—a groundbreaking platform designed to provide safe, transparent, and stigma-free services. Arik discusses how CHOICE is redefining an often misunderstood industry, focusing on safety measures like ID verification, behavior guidelines, and post-meeting feedback systems to foster trust between providers and clients.

Arik opens up about his entrepreneurial journey, from bootstrapping a SaaS business to its successful exit, to his inspiration for creating CHOICE in Switzerland. We explore the challenges of destigmatizing paid companionship, the ethical con...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Emma Sayle, the trailblazing Founder and CEO of Killing Kittens. In this episode, they discuss Emma’s upbringing and her first experiences with sex that helped shape her journey. Emma shares how Killing Kittens was born and what sets it apart as a women-led, sex-positive space.

They explore what attendees can expect at a Killing Kittens event, from who is welcome to where play happens and why single men aren’t allowed. Emma also shares exciting details about their upcoming cruise in 2026 and the vision for the future of the Kill...

In this episode, Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with award-winning sex educator, trans activist, and author Dee Whitnell to discuss their unique journey through gender identity, activism, and self-discovery. Dee shares their experience growing up queer, their initial hesitation around exploring relationships with vulva-owners, and how they met their partner, a trans man, who helps them navigate safe spaces and supports them on tough body-image days.

We discuss Dee’s views on handling hurtful misgendering and how they’ve reached a place where it no longer impacts them as much. Dee also opens up about their advo...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) chats with the internet's resident sexpert, ⁠Dr. Tara⁠, on a candid journey through Dr. Tara’s sexual history, insights, and expert advice on improving relationships.

Dr. Tara opens up about her childhood in Thailand with parents who avoided discussing sex, her early sexual experiences with girls at 13, and her exploration with guys after moving to Finland. She shares how her first marriage ended due to a lack of sexual compatibility and how, through friendship first, she built a strong relationship with her current husband, eventually evolving from monogamous to “monogamish.”

We dive into Dr...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with MJ Fox, co-founder of Joyride (@joyride.rave) a sex-positive rave redefining inclusive nightlife in London. In this episode, MJ shares their journey into the sex-positive space and how Joyride was born, a rave known for its vibrant, safe atmosphere and all-queer staff and DJs. We dive into what attendees can expect when they walk into Joyride, including the two designated play spaces, the event's unique 4 PM to midnight schedule, and MJ's decision not to enter the playroom. MJ opens up about how Joyride creates a welcoming environment for the queer community and...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Karl, the founder of Klub Verboten, one of the most inclusive and progressive kink spaces in Europe. They delve into how the club was born, who can attend, and the rules that ensure everyone’s safety and comfort. Karl shares his hot takes on why straight cis men tend to stay away and how he learned to become a great lover. We also discuss the importance of feedback from the community and how KV adapts to make the space even better for everyone.

Karl opens up about dating within the ki...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Leanne Yau (@polyphiliablog), who shares her journey from growing up in Hong Kong to leaving a law career behind to become a full-time content creator focusing on non-monogamy. They discuss what it's like getting recognized at sex parties, balancing a large online platform, and how being neurodivergent shapes Leanne's life and work. Leanne opens up about her current relationship structure, her shift from orgasm-driven sex to scheduling time for pleasure, and her thoughts on whether non-monogamy is more challenging for men. They also dive into successful de-escalations as an alternative to breaking...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator and non-monogamy content creator Poppy Scarlett (@polyampoppy). In this candid episode, we dive into what we got up to in Barcelona, Poppy's journey through sex chat rooms, and her experiences as an emo kid. Poppy opens up about her sexual awakening, being slut-shamed for the first time at 15, and the creative ways she used to get off as a teen—think stuffed animals, electric toothbrushes, and even a vending machine plastic vibrator!We also discuss her first trip to Ann Summers, how she incorporates sex toys with her partners, and wh...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Lily, co-founder of @quench_london, a unique queer party that centers people who are queer, kinky, of colour, trans, neurodivergent, disabled, and of all sizes. In this episode, we talk about who can attend Quench, what to expect when you walk through the doors, where you're allowed to play, and how they prioritize safety and inclusivity for everyone. Lily also shares Quench's journey, their dream venue and theme nights, and some unforgettable moments in the party’s history.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) is joined by Cydney (⁠@cydneythelight⁠) in this episode where they dive deep into postpartum body insecurities, bisexuality, and dating. Cydney opens up about her journey from being confident in her body before giving birth to hiding her body for 8 years after having her son at 19. They also discuss how her mom raised a confident daughter, but the lack of representation for stretch marks and postpartum bodies took a toll. Cydney talks about her bisexual awakening, what dating women is like compared to men, and how intimacy and sex differ. From insecurity to acceptance, Cydney shares her insp...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Emma Richardson-Gerrard, CEO and founder of Knude Society, for a deep dive into her upbringing in the UK, where sex education was lacking, and how she’s changing that with her own daughter. Emma shares her story about her first boyfriend gifting her a vibrator, but never achieving an orgasm with him, and how she now advocates for introducing toys in the bedroom. We talk about the best ways and places to have these conversations, how to receive feedback, and how parents can create a safe space for their kids to ask qu...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by content creator Taiwo (King TM) for a candid conversation about sex education in the UK and his first masturbation experience. We explore how growing up with a single mom gave him the freedom to explore, and why he made a pact not to have sex until he was 16. Taiwo shares how he learned to be a good lover by asking his partners for feedback, tells us the dynamics of low-effort vs. high-effort first dates, and dives into why men often enjoy the chase and respect these women more. We also tackle topics...

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Hani Dresner, founder of @gashtrays, a unique ceramics line focused on sex education. We dive into Hani’s upbringing in a naked household, how it shaped her body image journey, and what it was like growing up as the "weird kid" in school. Our conversation explores why sex education is so important, society’s obsession with big penises, the fascinating world of play parties, and the need for greater acceptance of genital diversity. Tune in for a deep, insightful chat that challenges norms and celebrates individuality.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by a very special guest—her sister! In this episode, they dive into everything from their easy orgasms and first boyfriends to their Catholic upbringing and how it impacted their body image and relationship with femininity. They share stories of sexual exploration as teens, their journeys with masturbation, and tips on how to ask for what you want in bed—especially when one of them is a pro at it despite their shared upbringing. The conversation also covers the difference between being vanilla and having a routine that works, the challenges and rewards of g...

Kicking off Season 3! Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Jessica Stahl (@vanillacooldance), a sex-positive cartoonist and creative director. We dive into Jessica's mfm fantasy, her experience growing up in an open household, and how her mom gifting her her first vibrator shaped her advocacy for pleasure. Jessica shares her journey from anger at men to a place of curiosity, her experiences with toys and partners, overcoming dry spells, and the culture shocks she’s faced since moving to Amsterdam. Plus, we get into the highs and lows of sex parties!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Tara Michaela, a sex educator and founder of the Youth Sexpert Program. We dive deep into body image, sharing our personal experiences and discussing the importance of sensate focus and overcoming spectatoring. Tara offers insights on changing up your masturbation technique, the benefits of doing so, and why it's totally okay if you prefer sticking to the same routine. We also discuss her work in sex education, and wrap up with a candid conversation about men who boast about eating pussy but don’t deliver when it matters.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Rachel Wright, a therapist, sex therapist, educator, and non-monogamy expert. We dive into the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice and her 4-step process for better communication with your partner. Rachel shares her unique journey as a pregnant woman with another pregnant wife, discussing body changes, hiring a doula, and fulfilling people's desire to have sex with a pregnant person. We also cover how to ask for reassurance, cope with a partner's past cheating, and get along with an ex. Plus, a special update: baby Logan has been...

Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Goddess Bats, a versatile and empowering sex worker. We dive into their journey, starting with camming at 18 and transitioning to various facets of sex work, including findom. We uncover the realities behind porn productions, like where the lube bottles are and how performer collaborations actually work. Goddess Bats shares their queerness journey, being demisexual as a sex worker, and how they navigate it all. We also discuss our takes on consent, providing valuable insights into this crucial aspect of the industry.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Sarah Casper from @comprehensiveconsent, author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum, and consent educator. We dive deep into the concept of consent, exploring its different types and how to ask for it. Sarah explains why consent doesn't necessarily have to be sexy but should always be asked for anyway. We also tackle some gray area situations, such as both people being equally drunk, whether you should ask for consent every single time in a long-term relationship, and how power dynamics like a big age gap can affect consent. This...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Violet, an extremely lesbian-leaning bisexual and founder of Mesh, a queer event app in NYC. We dive into the world of queer dating, discussing how to pick up women (or non-cis men), how to approach, what to say, and where to go. Violet shares her insights on figuring out if someone is queer, handling rejection, and the differences between picking people up in real life versus on dating apps. Whether you're new to the queer dating scene or looking to refine your skills, this episode is packed with valuable...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Maybe Burke, a trans woman, artist and educator for an open and heartfelt conversation. We discuss her sexuality, orientation, identity, and expression journeys, and delve into her dating stories. Maybe shares how she stays safe as a trans woman and the unique challenges she faces. We also talk about the fact that she has never been in love, her thoughts on relationships, and some of her personal kinks. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions about sexual assault and consent violations.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) hosts her first threesome on the podcast with Vee and Elle, hosts of the Girls Gone Deep podcast, besties and lovers. We dive into their ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) journeys, recounting our experiences at Hedonism and the play party where Vee and I first met. Vee and Elle share how they met and their adventures in double penetration and double vaginal penetration. We provide tips for those wanting to try non-monogamy, discussing how to advocate for your pleasure and ask for what you want. Vee and Elle also talk about the vibrant non-monogamous...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Yair Lenchner, a private chef and husband to two pregnant wives (11 weeks apart), one of whom is sex therapist Rachel Wright. Yair shares his incredible journey from being a serial monogamist and cheater to embracing life as an open, polyamorous partner. We discuss how they’re navigating the pregnancies, what they plan to explain to their children, and Yair’s advice for those who have cheated or are new to non-monogamy (he’s now taking coaching clients). We also delve into what dating a chef is really like, the valuab...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Cassie Black (@safe.slut), a sex educator, herpes advocate, and adult entertainer. We dive deep into the world of herpes, discussing whether your sex life is over after a diagnosis or if you can still be a safe and empowered slut. Cassie shares her personal story of discovering she had herpes, the stigma surrounding it, and the common misbeliefs and myths that need busting. We also tackle the important topic of disclosure, exploring if and when you should always disclose and the best ways to do so. This episode...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Cory Bush, a non-binary full spectrum doula and sex educator. In this episode, we explore the profound role of a full spectrum doula and the magical aspects of birth, challenging the notion that childbirth must be traumatic. Cory shares insights on why opt-out consent can be beneficial for neurodivergent individuals, and opens up about their non-monogamous and queer journey.   We also discuss how coming off birth control has transformed Cory's life, providing a deeper understanding of body autonomy and self-discovery. This episode is a celebration of empowerment, inclusivity, and t...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Portia Brown, a renowned sex coach and educator, for a candid discussion on the importance of vocalizing pleasure in the bedroom. Together, we explore techniques for performing during sex, advocating for your pleasure, and giving and receiving feedback to enhance intimacy and satisfaction. Join us as we delve into why silent sex can be a turn-off and how to get better at making noise in the bedroom for a more fulfilling sexual experience. Portia opens up about her upbringing and queerness journey, highlighting the transformative power of radical honesty...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by the incredible Megan, known as @msgigggles, a fierce fat activist and self-proclaimed hottest whale in the ocean. Together, we embark on a journey of empowerment, discussing the nuances of reclaiming the word "fat" and challenging societal beauty standards. Megan fearlessly dives into the harsh reality of the fashion industry's lack of space for plus-sized individuals and offers invaluable insights on what slim people can do to support inclusivity. We explore the complexities of body confidence and share tips on how to become more self-assured in a world that often...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Billy Procida, the host of The Manwhore Podcast and a seasoned comedian. In this revealing conversation, Billy opens up about his journey from growing up without sexual shame to becoming a figure in the world of sex positivity and comedy. We delve into other chapters of Billy's past, from enduring bullying up until graduating high school to struggling to escalate casual relationships despite his active sex life. Billy shares candid anecdotes about setting up a gloryhole during the COVID-19 pandemic following NYC's sexual health directives, shedding light on the...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Maxwell Fierce, a non-binary rope rigger, educator, performer, and tattoo artist, for a deep dive into the world of Shibari. Maxwell brings their wealth of experience to the table as we explore Shibari from every angle. We delve into the nitty-gritty of rope play, discussing how it serves as more than just a kink, but a pathway to self-expression and body confidence. From the intricacies of finding a trustworthy top to the risks involved in rope play, we leave no stone unturned. But our conversation goes beyond the technicalities...

Welcome to Season 2 of "In Bed With Alexa"! In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Dr. Varuna, a distinguished sexual health expert and Allure Magazine's sex columnist, as we delve deep into the realms of sexual discovery and self-acceptance. Dr. Varuna shares invaluable insights garnered from years of experience, covering a spectrum of topics. From the importance of finding community to navigating the challenges of growing up in a sex-negative culture, we explore the intricate journey of embracing one's identity, particularly in moments when you might not feel "bi enough." Together, we tackle questions about the dy...

Welcome to a bonus solo episode of "In Bed With Alexa"! Today, I'm spilling all the juicy details from my recent swingers cruise adventure. I'm dishing on everyone I played with, from the 25 year old gorgeous bi woman to the oldest person I have played with. I'll give you the lowdown on the vibe of the ship, the activities that kept me entertained, and spill the tea on how easy (or not) it was to find people to swing with. We'll chat about the swinging hotspots onboard, dish on the pool parties where things really heated up, and I'll...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Mistress Shayla Lange, the owner of New York's largest female-owned dungeon, to delve into the intriguing world of BDSM and professional domination. In this episode, we explore the inner workings of these mysterious spaces. Shayla provides fascinating insights into what her dungeon looks like, what happens during sessions, and the diverse range of requests clients make. But that's not all – we dive deeper into the nuances of BDSM, discussing common times that dungeons are booked, as well as the ingenious use of mundane objects for inflicting pain. Shayla also sh...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Neil Mehta, CEO and Founder of Royal Intimacy, to delve into the intricacies of personal care and cultural influences.In this episode, we kick things off by discussing the paramount importance of high-quality ingredients in the products we use for intimacy and grooming. Neil sheds light on why it's crucial to be mindful of what we put on our bodies and shares insights from his expertise in the field.But the conversation doesn't stop there – we delve into deeper topics, such as navigating the unique experiences of growing up wi...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Tawny Lara, author of "Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze," for a candid conversation that challenges societal norms around alcohol and intimacy.In this episode, we explore the implications of alcohol on our sex lives and relationships, shedding light on who might benefit from rethinking their relationship with alcohol. Tawny shares invaluable insights on how to navigate dating and intimacy without relying on alcohol, whether you're single or in a committed partnership.Discover practical tips for approaching sober sex with confidence and...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Lola Jean, holder of the volume squirt world record, as we explore the fascinating world of squirting and beyond.In this episode, we leave no squirt unturned. Lola Jean shares her expertise on who can do it, how it happens, and how to react when someone else experiences it. We also delve into the two types of squirting, shedding light on this often misunderstood phenomenon.But that's not all – we also dive into the realm of BDSM and kink, discussing how to vet a good dom(me), empowering individuals to...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Kenneth Play, author of "Beyond Satisfied," as we delve into the intricacies of sexual confidence and resilience. Once insecure about his penis size, he now helps other discover the secrets to becoming a better lover, including the often-overrated art of squirting (and yes, we even demonstrate the position—clothed, of course!). Plus, learn how to ask for consent, navigate the inevitable bumps on the road to intimacy, including how to get better at handling rejection. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Pa...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by the enchanting Sophie Saint Thomas, author of "Reproductive Rites: The Real-Life Witches and Witch-Hunts in the Centuries-Long Fight for Abortion Access." In this captivating episode, we delve into the mystical world of witchcraft and its empowering influence on self-confidence. Sophie shares her journey of embracing a child-free lifestyle and finding liberation in her identity as a writer. Tune in for a spellbinding conversation that celebrates individuality, creativity, and the magic of embracing your true self. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Gabrielle Alexa, non monogamy educator and author of "How to Live With the Internet and Not Let it Run Your Life," joins us for a candid exploration of modern love and relationships. We delve into the intricacies of getting along with your partner's partners (metamours), shedding light on the dynamics of polyamory vs swinging, the complexities of unicorn hunting, and the reality of navigating breakups in non-monogamous dynamics. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by the renowned urologist, Dr. Jed Kaminetsky. We kick things off with an in-depth look at vasectomies, uncovering the facts and dispelling myths around this common procedure. Dive into the nitty-gritty of hormone health as we explore natural methods to naturally optimize testosterone levels and discuss a revolutionary, no-medication approach to treating ED. Dr. Kaminetsky and I also turn our attention to the often overlooked realm of pelvic and prostate health. For the unedited version of the podcast (and to support me) join my patreon!

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by the badass Michelle Hy (@polyamorouswhileasian). We're flipping the script and tearing down the walls on polyamory, giving the middle finger to veto power, and diving into the gritty details of navigating relationships in our own damn way. Get ready for a wild ride as we slam the door on traditional norms and kick it open to the world of wholesome sex parties. Yeah, you read that right. So, if you're ready to break free from the chains of conventional love, join us for a no-holds-barred discussion that's as edgy as...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined once more by the fabulous Zachary Zane, we're diving deep into these taboo topics with humor, honesty, and a whole lot of sass. From breaking down bisexual stereotypes to exploring the dynamics of throat-fucing, expert anal tips and navigating the complexities of unprotected sex, this episode is a rollercoaster of exploration and revelation. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting "In Bed With Alexa." Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Thank you, B...

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Zachary Zane, sex columnist and author of Boyslut: a Memoir and Manifesto. Zach and I spill the tea and take you behind the scenes of our wild adventure at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica —expect all the fun, frolics, and a few surprises! Join the laughter as we dish on everything we got up to, and share our thoughts on who these spaces are perfect for (or maybe not so much). Discover why being surrounded by an amazing community of bisexual folks made this experience so unforgettable. A special tha...

Welcome to the inaugural episode of "In Bed With Alexa," where I, your host Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa), open up about my personal journey with sexuality. From the realization of being bisexual to coming out and navigating the uncharted waters of non-monogamy, I share the intimate details of my exploration. Join me as I candidly discuss my path of self-discovery, including my relationship with masturbation. In this episode, I'll also unveil the essence of the podcast— a space where we unravel the complexities of sexuality, dating, non-monogamy, and effective communication. My goal is simple yet profound: to inspire you to ch...