Girls Gone Deep
By: Elle and Vee
Language: en-us
Categories: Health, Fitness, Sexuality, Society, Culture, Relationships, Education
Two sex-positive ladies in the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle chatting about how we use dating and sex as a space for personal development and growth, and creating the most joyous life possible. A podcast for the open-minded, curious and naughty. @girlsgonedeeppod www.girlsgonedeep.com
Episodes
154: Fisting 101: Techniques, Pro Tips, and Double Fisting Orgasms feat. Jamie Joy and Riley Ocean
Jan 08, 2026Fisting isn’t about going hard — it’s about going slowly, intentionally, and deeply connected.
In this episode Elle and Vee sit down with Jamie Joy and Riley Ocean to take the shame, fear, and mystery out of fisting and talk about what actually makes it powerful, pleasurable, and safe. Together, they explore anal and vaginal prep, communication, pacing, and aftercare, breaking down what it really takes to explore deep penetration — emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Fisting: first fisting experiences and why we love it! (00:41)
Leaving something to look forward to: anal, DP...
Duration: 01:20:10153: You Asked, We Answered: How to Find a Third, Girl on Girl Firsts, 24 Person Orgy, Why ENM and What Makes Our ENM Partnerships Work?
Jan 01, 2026In this episode, Vee and Elle answer listener questions from the @girlsgonedeeppod instagram.
Chapters
How Do You Find a Unicorn or a 3rd? (See Episode 81 for more tips) (00:00)
What Was Your First Girl on Girl Experience? Was It a Friend or Random?
What’s the Largest Orgy You’ve Been In? Defining Two Types of Orgies. (31:00)
Condoms in Mouths and Ureaplasma.(37:06)
What Do You Do To Make Your ENM Partnership Work? (43:45)
152: Naughty Snowball Replay! Prostate Play, Fisting Tips and Other Reasons We're Forever On The Naughty List
Dec 25, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their Joy Family holiday party, aka the Naughty Snowball, at which LOTS of naughty fun was had! This is a revisit from January 2025, and still holds up as one of the naughtiest most exploratory parties they've been at together.
Themes/dressing for body confidence (especially after having a baby). (2:23)
Prostate play with Daddy: Elle gets a lesson in best practices for milking the prostate, and snowballing cum between five people. (5:22)
Rope 101: Vee uses her beginner rope tying skills on Elle! F...
Duration: 00:56:30151: When Pleasure Gets Weird (and Hot): Knife Play, Cervical Orgasms, Cock Warming and Pain/Pleasure Cycling
Dec 18, 2025This week Elle and Vee discuss all the ways they've been exploring pleasure recently: including BDSM scenes with vibrators, flogging and five orgasms, achieving sub space, mushroom-fueled connection, cervical orgasms while pregnant, knife play, cock warming, and that very specific moment when you yawn on a dick and keep going anyway.
Halloween Night BDSM Scene Gone Wrong: Vee and Mister A are stranded in a spooky AirBnB. (1:37)
Pain/Pleasure Cycling: Vee has five orgasms during a BDSM scene with Mister A. (4:32)
Sub Space: Vee f...
Duration: 00:51:41150: Guys Gone Deep: Sex Party Wisdom, Sobriety and Being a Dad in the ENM Party Scene with Magnum of Naughty Disco
Dec 11, 2025In this Guys Gone Deep episode, Elle and Vee chat with Magnum of Naughty Disco to talk about being a parent in the lifestyle, navigating non-monogamy, and finding genuine community in sex-positive spaces. This convo meanders from the vibe of Naughty Disco, to the truth about sex party etiquette, how to approach people without being creepy to handling rejection with maturity, and what men and women really need to know about each other in the lifestyle.
Getting into non-monogamy: divorce, Feeld, and sex parties. (1:30)
Naughty Disco! "NYC's sexiest curated dance party." (9:15)
<... Duration: 00:45:50149: Shamelessly Sexy: Unattached Sex, Feeder Porn & Why Writing About Sex Makes You Better in Bed: Inside The Intimacy Journal with Tash Doherty
Dec 04, 2025This week, Vee and Elle sit down with Tash Doherty — a British-Irish-American writer, creator of Misseducated (the blog and podcast helping the world become shamelessly sexy), and author of These Perfectly Careless Things, her spicy coming-of-age debut novel. She is a bold, candid, and deeply reflective sexuality writer who holds nothing back. We discuss Tash’s latest project, The Intimacy Journal, which invites readers into deeper erotic self-reflection through writing.
They also wander into taboo territory like:
vibrators in one-night standsthe shame around “needing” toysfatp... Duration: 00:58:12148: Kinky Christmas Gift Guide: Our Favorite Toys on our Wishlist This HO-liday Season!
Nov 27, 2025Have you been naughty or nice? Either way, Vee and Elle are serving up the ultimate sexy gift guide to help you heat up your season.
We’re sharing the toys, experiences, and books we actually love… and several come with special discount codes just for GGD listeners. Happy HOlidays, naughty snowballs!
Vee is bedridden from a sex injury, and Elle has pelvic girdle pain.
Our fave toys - why are we doing this? (Answer: because we helpful, good girls :) (5:55)
Best Coupl...
Duration: 01:01:40147: Our Most Unhinged Confessions: Rim Jobs, The Butt Plug Debate, Sex in Public & More feat. WHOREible Life Card Game
Nov 20, 2025This week, Elle and Vee play time Fuck-Marry-Kill version of the card game WHOREible Life with Athena. This episode is pure chaotic pleasure — the kind where nostalgia, food, kink, and butt-stuff all swirl into one ridiculous open conversation. We go from childhood games to double-ended vegetables, from grooming disasters to pegging wins, from lingerie-in-public confessions to pee-play experimentation, from CNC fantasies to explicit photo close calls. Strap in (or strap on)… this one gets naughty.
What is Whoreible Life? Playing the Fuck, Marry, Kill version. (00:00)
Fuck, Marry, Kill: Rim Job...
Duration: 00:53:00146: Anal Prep & Training: The Exact Cleansing Routine for Better Comfort, Pleasure & Confidence
Nov 13, 2025This week, it’s Guys Gone Deep! Elle and Vee are joined by Ricky — their resident anal expert — for an honest, hilarious, and educational chat about what it really takes to feel comfortable exploring the backdoor.
From understanding how to prepare your body, to learning the right tools, techniques, and hygiene tips, this episode dives into the practical side of exploration — and the mindset that makes it enjoyable. We cover topics like body awareness, relaxation, communication, common myths, and how to let go of shame or stereotypes around who “should” or “shouldn’t” enjoy this kind of play.
Whethe...
Duration: 01:11:22145: From a 25-Year Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess: Breaking the Rut with Dr. Alisa Kriegel
Nov 06, 2025What happens when a psychologist in a 25-year sexless marriage decides she’s done living without desire?
This week,Dr. Alisa Kriegel joins Elle and Vee to share her raw, transformative journey from disconnection to deep erotic empowerment — the story behind her upcoming memoir From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess.
We talk about:
How up to 40% of marriages are sexless — and why no one wants to admit itThe power of communication, curiosity, and skin-to-skin contact in rekindling intimacyThe truth about genital fit and why “one size fits all” is a mythThe healing that comes... Duration: 01:12:01144: Rough Oral Sex: Face Fucking Tips for Topping, Bottoming, and Keeping it Safe
Oct 30, 2025This week Elle and Vee chat about rough oral play: aka face fucking.
What is face fucking? What is the difference between fellatio and erumatio? (00:34)
Do you like rough oral sex? How our relationship with it has evolved. (4:11)
Running mascara as marks. (11:04)
CNC. (12:24)
Roman showers: throat sex to the point of throwing up. (14:25)
Things to think about for the giver/top. (17:52)
Tricks and tips for the receiver...
Duration: 00:48:19143: Inside the Temple of Eden: All-Femme Play Parties and Sexuality Beyond the Male Gaze feat. Eden
Oct 23, 2025This week, Vee and Elle chat with Eden, a tantra facilitator and intimacy coach, discussing the importance of creating safe spaces for women to explore their sexuality and intimacy without the male gaze. They talk what actually happens inside femme-only temples — no boys, no judgment, just sacred play, deep connection, and maybe a little glitter lube. They unpack queerness, non-monogamy, and the power of women’s spaces that feel safe and sexy. From overcoming mean-girl energy to feeling fully seen in our desires, this convo pulls back the curtain on tantra, sisterhood, and the kind of turn-on that heals.
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Duration: 00:53:12142: Collars, Limerence, and Cum Boundaries: What To Talk About Before Your First Play Party
Oct 16, 2025This week, Vee and Elle unpack everything couples should talk about before stepping into a shared play space—from emotional boundaries to desires, jealousy, and how to reconnect afterward, using a conversation framework they learned on an ISTA retreat. From collars and rituals to new relationship energy (NRE), aka limerence, and the messy middle between fantasy and reality—Vee goes deep on her experience. Whether you're new to the lifestyle, playing with a new partner, or redefining your relationship agreements, this episode is packed with real talk, practical tools, and deeply personal moments.
RDBSM (Relat...
Duration: 00:59:34141: Sex and Psychedelics: Can MDMA Ruin Sober Sex? Do Orgasms Release DMT? ...and More with Nicolle Double L
Oct 09, 2025This week, Vee and Elle sit down with journalist and sexual freedom philosopher Nicolle Double L to explore the intersection of BDSM, psychedelics, and sexuality as tools for self-discovery and healing. The conversation dives into cervical orgasms, DMT release, altered states, and how sex can mirror a psychedelic journey, especially when paired with presence and aftercare. The discussion delves into the neurochemistry of orgasms, the therapeutic aspects of BDSM, and the significance of set and setting in both sexual and psychedelic experiences.
Chapters:
Introduction and Connection To W...
Duration: 01:15:25140: Cock Worship, Sexting, and Sexual Experiences We’d Pay For: Playing Esther Perel’s Game Where Should We Begin?
Oct 02, 2025In this episode, Vee and Elle play only the NSFW cards from Esther Perel’s card game Where Should We Begin.
Where Should We Begin: Esther Perel’s card game.
“A text message you fantasize about recieving…”: domming your husband from afar, cock cages, and naughty sexts. (6:06)
“A sexual experience I’d pay for…” From sex workers in Amsterdam to strippers to dominatrixes. (10:30)
Somatica visualization/fantasy: Vee guides Elle to figure out what she would want in a fantasy situation. (14:56...
Duration: 00:46:30139: Vee’s ISTA Retreat Experience: Embodiment, Boundaries, and Emotional Release
Sep 25, 2025In this episode, Vee shares her transformational ISTA experience— what is ISTA like (International School of Temple Arts)? What can you expect going to an ISTA retreat? The ladies dive into how Vee FINALLY found the tools to get out of her head and into her body, how to communicate boundaries lovingly, and awakening eros AKA life force. Get ready to hear about emotional release, using tantric exercises to let go of an ex, and the conversation to have before hooking up with a new person.
What is ISTA? Deep dive into self. What drew Vee to go...
Duration: 00:57:15138: NRE or Just a Good Dom? Navigating New Relationship Energy and Dom/Sub Dynamics
Sep 18, 2025In this meandering conversation, Elle and Vee blend kink, parenting, and intimacy into one candid, sex-positive chat. They dive into everything from pregnancy porn and the risks of recording intimate videos to the awkwardness of moms finding sexy photos. They explore sex-positive parenting, New Relationship Energy (NRE), and the intensity of Dominant/submissive dynamics—discussing what makes a good Dom, what subs and tops truly get out of play, and why negotiation is key.
Seasons of life: Have Vee and Elle switched places sexually?! (00:35)
Pregnancy gang bang video. (3:19)
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Duration: 00:48:47137: Golden Showers & Scat Play: How to Explore Toilet Kinks with Priestess Francesca
Sep 04, 2025Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. The content shared here should not be taken as medical or mental health advice. Discussions may include topics related to sexual health and practices, but they are not a substitute for guidance from a qualified healthcare provider. Please consult with a licensed professional regarding any personal questions or concerns about your health, relationships, or sexual well-being, especially when it involves excrement.
You asked, we provided! After Priestess Francesca's first episode with us on taboo kinks, we got so many questions about the scat scene...
Duration: 01:03:52136: Threesomes with Best Friends, Changing Dynamics in an ENM Relationship, Naughty Sex Dreams and ISTA Tips
Aug 28, 2025This week, the girls catch up on whats been going on for them, from threesomes to new partners. Vee reveals something big going on in her life: a change in her relationship dynamic, and how it seems to be affecting her ability to orgasm. Elle shares updates on how her pregnancy is affecting her dreams.
“Cumming and running”: Elle sets boundaries during play weekends. (00:47)
The orgasm happens in the brain: not being able to cum when you’re going through something stressful. Vee makes an announcement. (4:22)
Old...
Duration: 00:46:38135: Sex Mishaps: Anal Oopsies, Lost Tampons and Condoms, Blow Job Gag Reflexes, and Near-Arrests
Aug 25, 2025This week, Elle, Vee and repeat guest Athena spill all the messy, hilarious, and downright disastrous sex stories you never hear about. From sneezing out cum and fishing out lost condoms to broken furniture, tampon mishaps, and anal surprises, nothing is off-limits. We share our own awkward moments along with wild tales from the community that prove sex fails are equal parts mortifying and funny. Because at the end of the day, sex is messy, bodies are human, and sometimes the best aftercare is just laughing it off.
Cum In Your Nose, Snorting and...
Duration: 00:58:24134: Unpacking Submission, “I Can’t Get Over My Ex”, and How To Push New Boundaries Healthily With Briana Cribeyer
Aug 14, 2025In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Briana Cribeyer, a sacred sexuality facilitator, guide, and founder of Sacred Sexuality Rising. They explore various relationship dynamics and the challenges that can arise while navigating an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) journey. Briana answers listener questions and shares tips and tools for handling difficult situations, balancing masculine and feminine energies, doing inner child work, and using thoughtful questions to open communication around how to successfully push a new boundary.
Intro: The Balance Of Masculine And Feminine Energy: Releasing The End Goal (00:00)
Practices Fo...
Duration: 01:18:54133: Girls Gone Shallow and Other Ice Breakers with JJ of The Sexie Show
Aug 07, 2025This week, Elle and Vee chat with JJ of The Sexie Show podcast, and play Girls Gone Shallow, a sex-themed game testing how well they know each other. Play along with your partner, and we invite you to make the stakes interesting ;)
Battlestrip: what is it? (1:57)
What is the role of games in a sexy environment? Pushing our growth edges, getting silly and reducing anxiety. How can we carry the energy over from the icebreaker games to sexual scenes? (8:01)
Exxotica: porn convention. (17:10)
132: Bite Marks, Next Level Anal Play and Role Play vs Fantasy…What’s the Difference?
Jul 31, 2025This week, Elle and Vee catch up on all their latest play, from Elle’s long weekend with lifestyle friends to the reason underlying Vee’s horniness, kinky date night takeaways and why some fantasies you don’t want to role play.
Ass play/vegetable play, caving, and Elle learns what a bussy is.
Fears, Desires, Boundaries with old friends; ebbing and flowing playing with others in your ENM partnership.
Craving touch: asking for what you want (spanking) but being ok if your dom isnt i...
Duration: 00:51:51131: So You Got Cheated On… Now What? Can You Rebuild Trust? With Britton & Carolee of Magical Story of Us
Jul 24, 2025In this episode, Britton and Carolee Beckham crack open the raw truth of what it really takes to heal after infidelity. From betrayal to breakthrough, they share the messy, brave journey of rebuilding trust, rediscovering themselves, and confronting the emotional landmines of marriage, family, and faith. With vulnerability at the center, they unpack the weight of growing up Mormon, why they chose to leave, and how that choice became part of their transformation. This isn’t just about cheating—it’s about what happens when your entire belief system gets flipped, and you choose to fight for something deeper.
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Duration: 01:18:22130: “The Blowjob That Earned Me a Reward Fuck”, Visions During Orgasm & Core Desires That Get Us Off feat. Athena
Jul 17, 2025This week, Elle and Vee catch up with Athena talking all things NSFW and soul-deep: blowjob glory, gift kink, doctor role play, surrender vs submission, orgasmic visuals and more.
Unexpected First-Time Hookup Sex And Taking Sexy Selfies (00:00)
Cock Worship Blowjob That Earned a Reward Fuck, Spit or Swallow & Taste of Cum (05:17)
10:05
Orgasming from Oral and Typical
11:26
Visuals and Sensations During Orgasms
18:33
Getting off from buying gifts fo...
Duration: 01:03:24129: Back to the Body: Elongated Pleasure and Erotic Personas with Pamela Madsen
Jul 10, 2025This week, Elle and Vee chat with OG sexual wellness icon Pamela Madsen on all things erotic. From extended orgasmic states to the joy of adult play, and how cultivating your erotic persona can transform your sex life. Plus, hear about the Oprah-featured Lotus Lift Meditation and what men can do to truly empower the women in their lives. Pulling from so much experience, Pamela had some serious wisdom to share!
Climax isn’t the point: orgasmic states and elongated pleasure. (3:20)
Back to the Body Method vs Sexological Body Wor...
Duration: 00:37:07128: Beyond Bondage: Exploring Submission through Ropes with Rina Trevi
Jul 03, 2025How can ropes and shibari be used in different ways? At play parties to understand a new partner quickly, as a mode for a transformational or transcendental experience, as a method for submission or dominance... In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Rina Trevi about her journey from dominatrix to tantrika and vulnerability coach, the spiritual side of shibari, and how rope play at parties can be a path to pleasure, presence, and a whole lot of surrender.
From dominatrix to tantrika: What pulled Rina into the world of tantra/ropes/embodiment? (2:36)
<... Duration: 01:05:21128: Our Pussies Are Wet (and Not in a Good Way)
Jun 26, 2025It's hot. It's steamy and we need to cool off from the 100-degree chaos. In this mini break episode, we honor our bodies and busy lives, and remind you that sometimes the deepest thing you can do… is take a damn break.
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Duration: 00:03:57127: Gemini Bach Bash Gets Wild: Slut Olympics, Sweaty Sex, and Blow Job Train
Jun 19, 2025Elle and Vee recap their weekend at a mansion airbnb with 45 of their friends, celebrating several birthdays and a bachelor bachelorette!
Gemini Bach Bash (00:00)
Theme nights (04:54)
Seal team slut olympics (06:32)
Intentions and elle’s announcement! (19:12)
Thursday Night Highlights (28:01)
Before Kiss Someone New, Do You Get Consent From Their Partner? (32:37)
Sensual Loving and Sweaty Sex (35:02)
Cumming at Play Parties: Priority or...
Duration: 01:13:17126: Sounding, Soulgasms, and New Ways to Get Turned On feat. Olivia Dydyna
Jun 12, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Olivia Dydyna about her journey from being inorgasmic to fully awakened through sound, breath, and deep self-connection. The girls explore Soulgasm, light language, sounding for pleasure, and how to unlock turn-on even when trauma lives in the body. If you've ever wondered what it means to center yourself, speak your truth, and experience desire beyond outcome—this one’s for you.
Olivia’s Story: From inorgasmic to orgasmic. (2:10)
How do we achieve ultimate turn on? Mentally, physically, emotionally. (5:16)
Breath work t...
Duration: 00:55:16125: Does Penis Size Matter? Top Floor Recap, FOMO and Metamour Triggers
Jun 05, 2025In this episode, Vee and Elle dive into their recent experiences in ENM, sharing naughty stories, recent personal growths and lesson learned.
Jewelry Mishaps and Lingerie Inconveniences During Sex. (00:00)
Top Floor Play Party Intentions: New Play Partner, New Location, Plus Pushing Exhibitionist Boundaries. (5:48)
The Art of the Stacking: Creative Sexual Positions with 4 people (Porn Star Wolf Hudson Inspired). (18:49)
Soft Cock: Thank you! (21:41)
Advantages of Smaller Dicks: Listener Question Answered. (23:50)
FOMO Trigger: Partner Staying Out Later Than You. (33:51)
Metamour Challenge. (40:53)
Where...
Duration: 00:52:40124: International Whores Day feat. Kaytlin Bailey and Priestess Francesca
May 29, 2025For all our sapiosexuals out there, get ready for this panty-dropper!
Elle and Vee chat with comedian and podcast host Kaytlin Bailey and "erotic initiatrix" Priestess Francesca about the history of International Whores Day, sex workers' rights, and our internalized prejudices.
What is International Whores Day? (3:58)
Decriminalizing vs Legalizing. (9:12)
Spirituality and Religion intersecting with sex work. (12:13)
Controlling sex workers is a feminist issue. (17:41)
Internalized whorephobia in sex positive spaces. (20:23)
Ethical non monogamy (ENM) and sex work. (29:39)
What does the future of...
Duration: 01:02:10123: Masturbation: Early Experiences, How it Affects Your Relationship, and Self Touch Practices
May 22, 2025This week, Elle and Vee dive deep into all things masturbation—from silent solo play to sex toy confessions, and the rituals we don’t talk about (but definitely should).
What comes to mind when you think of masturbation? (04:42)
Masturbating rather than playing in a couple. (06:10)
Sexual empowerment through masturbation and sexting. (10:40)
Cock stroking. (14:15)
Does solo play take away from partner play? (14:58)
Shame and a link to Kellogg's cereal. (17:32)
122: Kink Talk: Flogging, Whipping, Spanking, Fisting and Bodily Fluid Encounters
May 15, 2025This week, Vee and Elle delve into their experiences with vulnerability, impact play, and the emotional complexities that arise during kinky encounters. From flogging techniques, to primal play, to collecting cum, squirt juice, a spit chalice, and even scat play, the girls don’t hold back, in their signature style.
Crygasm, Vulnerability and Emotional Releases in Spanking Session (00:00)
Flogging, Whipping, and Spanking Techniques (6:16
Tantric Intimacy Social and Trance-like Spanking (15:41)
Mindful and Intentional Scenes and Connections (22:35)
P...
Duration: 01:00:33122: Kink Talk: Flogging, Whipping, Spanking, Fisting and Bodily Fluid Encounters
May 15, 2025This week, Vee and Elle delve into their experiences with vulnerability, impact play, and the emotional complexities that arise during kinky encounters. From flogging techniques, to primal play, to collecting cum, squirt juice, a spit chalice, and even scat play, the girls don’t hold back, in their signature style.
Chapters
Crygasm, Vulnerability and Emotional Releases in Spanking Session (00:00)
Flogging, Whipping, and Spanking Techniques (6:16
Tantric Intimacy Social and Trance-like Spanking (15:41)
Mindful and Intentional Scenes and Con...
Duration: 01:00:39121: Dark Eroticism: Piss Play, Kink Psychology, and Exploring the Taboo feat. Priestess Francesca
May 08, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Priestess Francesca about kink, piss, and the juicy world of dark desires. Bring your curiosity and leave your shame at the door.
What is Dark Erotiscm? (3:04)
Shadow Work: “fill the hole where shame used to be with love and acceptance.” (10:09)
Taboo Kinks: Why are we afraid of our kinks and how can we approach them? (13:57)
How can you start exploring your dark erotic desires? What to check for before you begin on y...
Duration: 00:59:20120: Embracing Your Inner Slut and Making a Gang Bang Fantasy a Reality feat. Athena
May 01, 2025This week, Elle and Vee chat with Athena, Vee's metamour and wingwoman in NYC. In this candid chat, the girls hear the details of Athena's first gang bang, chat about how to make your fantasies a reality, being a single woman in the lifestyle, and so much more!
Exploring the Abyss of Porn Together (00:00)
Introducing Athena: From Fainting to Best Friends (2:19)
Embracing Your Inner Slut: Athena's Story (5:23)
Visual Vs. Spontaneous Fantasy & Planning a Fantasy Hangups (10:45)
P...
Duration: 01:07:25119: Seek the Risk: Tools for Working Through Challenges and Emotions in Non-Monogamy feat. Author Adam Darrow
Apr 24, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee go deep with Adam Darrow, the author of Seek the Risk: One Man's Journey Into Non-Monogamy. Described as a "firsthand recounting of a wide-open relationship, told with unflinching candor from the male perspective", Elle and Vee were struck by the relatability of Adam's ENM story in Seek the Risk, from the overthinking and jealousy to the adventurous sex and deep connection in his relationship. His firsthand account of how he worked through the challenging emotional moments of his relationship with "the wrong girl" is FULL of nuggets, many of which are mentioned in...
Duration: 01:03:52118: Tips to Build Confidence Eating Pussy When You're a "Baby Bisexual" feat. Liv Love
Apr 17, 2025In this episode, Vee and Elle go deep with Liv Love: sex writer, sex educator and swinger, and new friend from Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025! They focus on bisexuality, labels, performance anxiety, shame, strap on sex ... and a play-by-play of how to go from zero to orgasm. This is a no-holds-barred conversation about questioning your bisexuality, pussy insecurities, and so much more!
Lack of confidence eating going down on women. (00:49)
Liv’s story. (5:35)
Bisexuality: when do you know you’re bi? (10:05)
Per...
Duration: 01:13:41117: Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025: Too Horny to Sleep, Too Tired to Care
Apr 10, 2025In this episode, Vee and Elle dive into Elle's Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025 experience, sharing spicy stories, communication hiccups, and the evolution of their desires in the lifestyle. They explore boundaries, consent, group play dynamics, and the rediscovery of feminine energy — all while navigating connection, frustration, and the value of both solo and shared intimacy.
Introduction to Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025 (00:00)
Fear Desires Boundaries & Intentions for the Trip (04:24)
New Connection and Playroom Experience (14:38)
Audio note replay and New Nipple Experience (21:13)
Oops! I Wanna Cum Soon Micommunication & Guilt (27:01)
Tu...
Duration: 01:12:22116: Talk Tantra to Me: Sex Magic and Shadow Work with Sacred Sex Ed Author Leola Watkins
Apr 03, 2025This week the girls go deep with Leola Watkins, Pleasure Priestess and the best-selling author of Sacred Sex Ed. Answering listeners' questions, they dig into a number of concepts under the tantric umbrella from shadow work and Golden Shadows, to sex magic and creating through orgasm, to yoni and lingum gazing. They also cover how all of this applies to men, when often tantric conversations can feel very feminine-energy-focused, AND how we can apply living tantrically to everyday life! This is a conversation for people who are new to the concepts of tantra, as well as people who have d...
Duration: 01:10:54115: The Undervalued Art of Fingering: The Best Techniques, Squirting, G Spots, and Prostate Play
Mar 27, 2025This week, the girls go deep on an often (in their experience) overlooked and underused play option: fingering! Pulling from listener polls, friends, research and their own experience, Elle and Vee share all the juicy details of every aspect of fingering that they could come up with. Did they miss anything?
Fingering: yay or nay?
Foreplay: Stimulating around the hole before insertion.
How many fingers at first?
Self-pleasure: Do you use fingers during masturbation?
Th...
Duration: 00:59:26114: Elle’s ISTA Retreat Experience: Tantra, Triggers & Transformation
Mar 21, 2025What Is ISTA SSSex Level 1 Retreat? (00:00)
The Intensity of Emotional Processing. (07:25)
The Importance of Slowing Down. (13:38)
Elle’s Reasons for Going to ISTA. (21:07)
Masculine and Feminine. (27:00)
No Expectation of Tantra and Sexuality as a Sacred Experience. (28:55)
People Pleasing vs Listening to Your Body's Signals. (33:44)
Shadow Work: Elle’s Revelations Around Social Anxiety. (37:00)
Triggers as Gifts: Feminine Connection. (40:08)
How Elle will take her takeaways into her relationship with Her Partner Going Forward. (48:47)
Embodied Practices: Dancing into Femininity. (52:03)
Working throug...
Duration: 01:20:59113: Cunnilinguistics: The Art of Giving and Receiving Oral at a Play Party feat. Marz
Mar 13, 202550 Shades of Gold Calling all women to join this sexually transformative event! Click here for details!
This week, the girls chat with Marz, who is the copilot of Top Floor, a curated members-only community for those embracing alternative relationship dynamics, kink, and sex-positive exploration. They give all the top tips from the Cunnilinguistics workshop Marz facilitated in which Vee was the demo model for cunnilingus, despite her aversion to exhibitionism!
What is cunnilinguistics? (3:14)
Normalizing Different Vulvas: Vee works on her pussy insecurities. (6:20)
112: From Manicorn to Couple: Tips for Single Guys, Hot Wifing, Gangbangs & Casual Encounters on Craiglist Feat. Dick
Mar 06, 2025Navigating the Lifestyle: Starting out as a Manicorn (00:00)
Hot Wifing vs. Cuckolding (4:54)
The Role of the Third: Enhancing Couples' Experiences & Feelings of Loneliness (6:44)
Lessons Learned: Mistakes as a Single Guy (10:32)
Transitioning to a Couple: Finding Balance in the Lifestyle (15:35)
Is it easier to make connections with a hot chick on your arm now? (17:57 )
Age is just a number! Cougar’s and Silver Foxes Who Know What They Want (22:13)
Boundaries: Sleep Overs and Romantic Dating (23:05)
Gangbang Group Operation Detailed and Casual Encounters on Craigslist(29:59)
... Duration: 00:54:47111: Cream Pies: Vaginal, Anal, Do's and Don'ts, Pussy Aftercare and Naughty Stories
Feb 27, 2025This week, the girls don't hold back in this uncensored chat about ejaculating in the vagina and the ass! From the drip to the taboo nature to the benefits of being fluid bonded with a partner, listen in for some x-rated and deep reflections on cream pies.
Elle’s “perfect porn pussy” and toilet paper mishaps. (00:40)
Cream Pies: Vee and Elle’s first times and experience level with it. (5:18)
Dripping semen: a sexy naughty reminder of a hot scene or a gross gush in the middl...
Duration: 01:05:23110: The Cock-Heart Connection: Tapping Into Your Inner Masculine and Feminine feat. The Tantric Muse Cleo D’Or
Feb 20, 2025Cleo’s story: tantric certification; somatic approach to sex love and relationship coaching. (0:40)
Somatic Embodiment Practices: How do we uncover our blockages through somatic work? The felt sense. Can you do this work in couples too? (4:19)
Erotic Blueprints: Sexual, Sensual, Energetic, Kinky, Shapeshifter; and how erotic blueprints can change throughout life and depending on the partner. (9:49)
Light and shadow sides of the blueprints, and the challenges of a monogamous relationship. (16:46)
Do tantra and non-monogamy go hand in...
Duration: 01:00:29109: Wild, Naughty Stories: Fisting on a First Date, A Threesome at SNCTM and Taking Breastmilk Play to A Whole New Level
Feb 13, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up on their December adventures, focusing on their experiences with friends and breastmilk, parenthood, BDSM and spreading assholes. Welcome to the ride!
Chapters
Cancun, three Babies and A Hotel room. (00:00)
What That Breast Milk Do? A Gameshow of Breast Milk Play. (4:20)
Navigating Parenthood and Intimacy. (14:55)
Fear of Missing out: Vee’s FOMO evolution and Connecting in Relationships. (20:30)
New Experience at SNCTM Replay: Ball Gag, Sobriety and Exhibitionism. (31:13)
First Date Fister: Vee gets fisted on a fi...
Duration: 00:59:31108: Top Floor: An Upscale Play Party and Community Free of Pretense feat. Alain and Marz
Feb 06, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with the founder and "co-pilot" of Top Floor, "an upscale play party and community free of pretense" in Manhattan.
“No Takers”: What does this ethos mean? What does Top Floor look for in their guests?
Premium Upscale Vibe = Premium Pricing? The community of volunteering and serving the vibe of the party.
Guiding Principles of Top Floor.
Friday night mixer/workshop.
History of Top Floor and what you can exp...
Duration: 00:48:41107: Naughty Snowball 2025: Prostate Play, Snowballing, Rope Play, Strap-On Sex, and Fisting
Jan 30, 2025In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their friends' holiday party, aka the Naughty Snowball, at which LOTS of naughty fun was had!
Themes/dressing for body confidence (especially after having a baby). (2:23)
Prostate play with Daddy: Elle gets a lesson in best practices for milking the prostate, and snowballing cum between five people. (5:22)
Rope 101: Vee uses her beginner rope tying skills on Elle! Finding something to do with your hands during the party, and unlocking your inner domme. Reverse Tension; Square Knot Single Column Tie; attaching ro...
Duration: 00:54:42106: How to Date with Confidence as a Couple or a Single: Expert Advice from Amber Grubenmann
Jan 23, 2025In this episode of Girls Gone Deep, Vee and Elle welcome Amber Grubenmann, a dating coach and host of the Women's Dating and Confidence podcast. (Fun fact: Vee’s dating coach!) Get ready for practical tools, thought-provoking questions, and memorable metaphors to help you master effective, high-quality, confident, and time-saving dating—so you can get what you want.
Chapters:
Introduction to Amber Grubenmann (00:00)
Vee's Journey with Dating Coaching: Issues with Overthinking and Dating Anxiety (3:15)
Building Confidence for Dating: The Most...
Duration: 01:15:35105: New Year’s Eve 2025: Gang Bangs, Impact Play, BDSM Scenes and Setting Sexy Intentions
Jan 16, 2025In this episode, the girls catch up after New Year's Eve: Elle's was intimate with a handful of friends checking things off their fuckit lists, and Vee's was more community-based at a big party in New York City. Part audio smut, part deep chats, the girls give all the details from the orgies to the reflections afterwards.
Elle’s New Years Eve gang bang! (1:39)
Being used vs being worshipped when being fucked. (5:25)
Tuning out the orgy: how to zone in. (11:50)
Elle’s evolvi...
Duration: 00:52:20104: Compersion: How to Develop It, and Is It Necessary for a Successful ENM Relationship? feat. Dr. Marie Thouin
Jan 09, 2025In this conversation, Dr. Marie Thouin PhD and author of What Is Compersion?, discusses the concept of compersion, which is the joy one feels for others' happiness, particularly in the context of non-monogamous relationships. The discussion explores the spectrum of emotions from jealousy to compersion, the importance of self-worth and agency, and the factors that can foster or hinder the experience of compersion.
Chapters
Introduction to Compersion and The Origins of Her Book What Is Compersion? (00:00)
Defining Compersion: A Dive into the 3 parts. (5:02)
103: "In Her Sub Era": Impact Play, Being Called a "Good Girl", Primal Play and Sloppy Blow Jobs
Jan 02, 2025In this episode, Vee and Elle catch up, and Vee recounts her sexcapades diving back into the BDSM scene! From being tied up and flogged on a second date to power play in Mexico City on vacation, she gives all the dirty details of her recent scenes. Then the girls discuss Elle's experience with Flintts Mints to cure her dry mouth, and tapping into your inner dominant or submissive side through different modes, including primal play. Get ready for some smut with a side of depth!
Vee seeks out Vacation Sex in Mexico City. (0:37)
Power...
102: In Bed With Alexa x GGD: Faking Orgasms, Double Vaginal Penetration (DVP), and Play Party Tips
Dec 26, 2024Welcome to the In Bed With Alexa x GGD crossover episode!
In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) hosts her first threesome on the podcast with Vee and Elle, hosts of the Girls Gone Deep podcast, besties and lovers. They dive into their ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) journeys, recounting experiences at Hedonism and the play party where Vee and Alexa first met. Vee and Elle share how they met and their adventures in double penetration and double vaginal penetration. They provide tips for those wanting to try non-monogamy, discussing how to advocate for your pleasure and ask for w...
101: JOYsey Shore (Replay): Partying Sober, DVP Tips, and Sybian vs F*ck Machine
Dec 19, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee debrief on the highlights, challenges and takeaways from their most recent weekend away with their ENM friends.
“A glimpse into a lifestyle party,” and one of the challenges of bringing a third to a party. (1:46)
What’s the point of having themes? (5:35)
Sobriety: the challenges and benefits of staying sober for an entire lifestyle weekend. (9:10)
Sobriety and sexuality. (18:02)
Highlight: DP with strap ons? FFF threesome and goal-oriented fucking. (21:57)
100: Putting Words into Action for Good, Juicy Sex! How To Let Go During Oral, First Date Orgasms, Hotel Room Anal, and Toys for Ball Play
Dec 12, 2024Elle and Vee catch up just the two of them for their 100th episode! They reflect on how much they've changed since beginning the podcast, and fill each other in on their latest sexcapades, learning moments and takeaways.
Putting Talk Into Action: Vee doing the work, Elle’s intentions to be a better student, gratitude for the guests. (1:10)
Elle’s tight pussy post-birth: how Vee and Elle have changed since the beginning of the podcast. (6:04)
The importance of taking care of yourself to have good sex...
Duration: 00:48:59099: Deep Chats with a Sex Therapist: Spontaneous Vs. Responsive Desire, Kink and Internalized Shame, and Ketamine Assisted Therapy
Dec 05, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee dive deep with a psychotherapist who they refer to as Wonder Woman on this episode for the sake of anonymity. With specializations in sex therapy and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, the girls pick her brain on everything from desire discrepancy to the most common issues within couples, from what a ketamine-assisted psychotherapy session actually looks like to neuroplasticity.
Psychotherapy vs. Psychoanalysis: what is the difference? (1:58)
Top reasons couples seek sex therapy counseling: both gay and cis-het couples, and individuals. (5:15)
Spontaneous de...
Duration: 00:56:50098: Paid Companionship as a Therapeutic Modality with Adele Bardot
Nov 21, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with paid companion Adele Bardot in a conversation which went somewhere they didn't necessarily expect it to go. And that's what this theme of going deep is all about: relinquishing control and sometimes talking about really intense stuff like the authentic self.
Elle and Vee invite you to think of this convo as an insight into how sex work and companionship can be truly great opportunities to dive deeper and seek answers to those questions of, "Who am I?" and "What is my purpose?" and "What brings me joy and li...
097: Redefining Tantra, Creating Safe Spaces, and The Sacred Slut Experience feat. Sexual Freedom Coach Justin Gottlieb
Nov 14, 2024Guys Gone Deep! In this thought provoking conversation, Justin Gottlieb, a sexual freedom coach, discusses his evolution from the corporate world to the world of tantra. He emphasizes how Tantra is often misunderstood and the need to redefine Tantra beyond stereotypes. His take on unlocking sexual freedom is refreshing and he encourages everyone to live fully by embracing and accepting all aspects of life, the good, the bad and the ugly.
So, how can we achieve this? Take a listen…
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From Corporate Suit To Tantra World, Beyond The Typical Tantra Spiritual Stereotypes. (00:00)
096: 11 Types of Orgasms and How to Have Them Part 2 feat. Magda Kay
Nov 07, 2024In this second of two episodes, Elle and Vee dive deep into the remaining four of the eleven different types of orgasms with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay.
Anal Orgasm: a brief mention! (2:35)
Nipple Orgasm. (3:10)
Energy Centers: the kundalini energy arcs and centers that women and men have. (7:02)
Throat Orgasm. (10:13)
De-armoring: what is de-armoring, and when do you know whether you should push through discomfort or if it's going to be too much? (13:55)
Yoni mapping: the difference b...
095: 11 Types of Orgasms and How to Have Them Part 1 feat. Magda Kay
Nov 01, 2024In this first of two episodes, Elle and Vee dive deep into seven of the eleven different types of orgasms with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay.
Noticing and Asking for What You Need in your sex life. (1:28)
What gets you in the right headspace for orgasm? Safety. Physical environment. (7:56)
Circadian Rhythms, chronotypes menstrual cycles and how it affects our sex drive. (12:32)
Sleep Types/Chronotypes. (19:01)
Ge...
Duration: 01:19:43094: Intrinsic Courage vs Liquid Courage: How Much Do We Depend on Booze in Sex and Dating? Sexual Liberation Without Alcohol feat. Tawny Lara
Oct 24, 2024In this episode, Vee and Elle chat all things sober sex with Tawny Lara! She is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze and co-author of The Sobriety Deck, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the NA botanical spirit, (parentheses).
***You don't need to be sober or even sober-curious to get something out of this conversation! Have you ever had a situation when you couldn't drink and felt a little weird or uncomfortable? The girls chat about how to deal with that discomfort, w...
093: Evolving Agreements and Self Growth in Open Relationships: Falling in Love with Your Best Friend’s Partner, Knowing When To Move On and “Decoupling” feat. CJ and Lana
Oct 17, 2024In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Slutlana (031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and CJ about what might stereotypically be one of the biggest fears in the non-monogamous community: falling in love with secondary partners and decoupling with your primary. How can this happen? How do you move on? How do you evolve for your next relationship? They touch on all of these topics and more in this juicy, deep episode!
Fear of Loss: Falling in love with your best friend’s par...
Duration: 01:05:45092: Redefining Paid Companionship and Intimacy, The Future of Sex Work, Breaking the Stigma and Revolutionizing Connection with Choice CEO Arik Bruckner
Oct 10, 2024In this conversation, Elle, Vee, and Arik Bruckner discuss the concept of paid companionship and its implications in society when approached in a serious, professional, safe, consensual and ethical way. Arik is the co-founder and CEO of Choice, a pioneering global online booking platform for paid companionship and intimacy.
This online booking platform is revolutionizing the paid companionship industry, extending beyond sex by offering a solution to loneliness and prioritizing safety.
In this chat, Arik shares insights into the origins of the Choice platform, the importance of destigmatizing paid companionship, a...
Duration: 01:17:41091: Jealousy in Non-Monogamy: Diving Deeper, Understanding It, How to Manage It and Co-Creating With Your Partner with Kathy Labriola
Oct 03, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook.
What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18)
Jealousy in ethical non-monogamy vs. monogamy. (7:05)
Core beliefs and how they affect us in relationships. (8:32)
"Signifiers" which instill confidence in partners. (11:37)
Where does jealousy stem from? (14:07)
Jealousy vs envy: defining and differentiating them. (17:17)
Unpacking the emotions integral to jealousy. (21:33)
Practical strategies to manage jealousy in the moment. (30:24)
Figuring out t...
090: How to Have Good Strap On Sex, Pubic Hair Do’s and Don’ts, Primal Play and What is Possessive Touch? feat. Lola Jean and Lolo and B
Sep 26, 2024This week, Elle and Vee bring back Lolo and B from Episode 081: Long Distance ENM and Creating Sexy Spaces, and Lola Jean from Episode 074: Fetish Wrestling, Choking and Squirting Misconceptions to play WHOREible Life, a card game all about breaking down barriers and getting naughty AND deep!
Have You Ever: Been fucked with a strap on dildo? Favorite dildos, and what makes strap on sex good. (3:05)
Have You Ever: Paid for sex? What is the appeal behind role playing as an escort? (15:18)
Would you Rather: Use...
Duration: 00:50:24089: Unicorning in ENM: Navigating Couples’ Dynamics, Self Awareness, Communication and Safety feat. Summer
Sep 19, 2024Elle and Vee have Summer back for an encore episode after she shared her experiences as a trained submissive under two doms in Episode 088: Inside the Mind of a Sub. This time, she discusses her experiences and the lessons she's learned from being a unicorn for an array of couples with lots of different dynamics, and the girls put in their two cents from their own experiences.
How do you become a unicorn in the ethically non monogamous lifestyle? (1:46)
Navigating couples’ dynamics as a unicorn and establishing your boundaries. Why you should keep...
Duration: 01:06:39088: Inside the Mind of a Submissive: A Deep Dive into Dom/Sub Dynamics, Intimate Breakdown of BDSM Scenes and Punishments Feat. Summer
Sep 12, 2024In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with Summer (FetLife: DaddysPrettyToy ) about her journey through a BDSM Dom/Sub relationship. She shares her experiences as a trained submissive, highlighting the positive aspects of her BDSM journey and the transformative power of a healthy Dom/Sub dynamic. Listen in for a detailed play-by-play of her scenes, insights into her daily tasks, and the reasons and methods behind her punishments.
How Fifty Shades of Grey and Playful Wrestling with Her Boyfriend Inspired Summer to Explore BDSM: She discusses how she found her first Dom and what motivated her to g...
087: Orgasmic States: Full Body Orgasms, Becoming Orgasmic, and Energetic Release through Tantra with Intimacy Coach Magda Kay
Sep 05, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee dive deep with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay. This episode is FULL of "nuggets", touching on everything from tantra to energy centers to how to up the intimacy in your relationship to why it might be better to practice tantra with someone other than your primary partner. You don't want to miss this one!
Why tantra and intimacy coaching?
Becoming orgasmic: orgasming with yourself and unlocking the ability to orgasm with others.
086: “House Of Love” Sex Party Takeaways: Tips to Get Horny and Hard, Cream Pies, and How To Feel Confident in Your Post-Baby Body ... PLUS the Best Books for Dealing with Jealousy!
Aug 29, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up and discuss their takeaways from two sex party events their friend group (the Joy Fam) threw, including recapping sexy stories, "a-ha" moments and reflections.
Implementing Lessons Learned: change your environment and have vacation sex! (0:33)
House of Love club night takeaways: Vee’s birthday celebration, and Elle’s first big night out since having a baby! Getting over new mom nervousness with costumes: How themes get you into the sexy mood - especially animal theme :) (3:56)
How to feel confident while carry...
Duration: 00:50:00085: Getting Weird with Your Slutty Friends: “Baptism by Pee”, Putting Objects in Your Vagina, Sexual Alter Egos, All-Girl Play (FFF Threesomes and more), and Comparing The Best Strap-ons
Aug 22, 2024In this episode, the girls chat with Mommy (Episode 018: Female Friendships in ENM) and play WHOREible Life, their favorite game to break down barriers and get naughty AND deep! They touch on everything from being called Mommy during sex, to stretching fetishes and putting food in vaginas, to bisexuality and all-female orgies!
Growth: seizing the moment rather than getting in your head and not taking advantage of sexy opportunities. (1:59)
-Would you rather role play as a teacher or be called mommy during sex? (7:52)
-Would...
Duration: 00:40:19084: Solo Travel and Vacation Horniness: Hot Hookups, Nipple and Anal Play, and “Selling Someone” on Open Relationships and Sex Toys … PLUS Listener Questions: Sex Party Newbies and Men’s Body Hair
Aug 15, 2024In this episode, Vee and Elle catch up on Vee’s solo trip to Thailand and Vietnam. Vee has some major sexual takeaways and "aha moments" going on vacation with no sex in sight... until the last day of her trip when she met Mr. Bangkok. Hear her play by play and so much more, including:
Solo Travel: not knowing when you’re going to have sex next, and where are all the sex clubs in Thailand?! (1:57)
Hot Hookup: Vee has a sexy one night stand in Bangkok after 8 hour...
Duration: 00:53:43083: Dildos and Fleshlights, Pregnant Sex Positions, First Times, and Formative Sexual Experiences feat. Brandi
Aug 08, 2024In this episode, the girls bring back Brandi from Episode 047: Fulfilling Fantasies: Exploring Kinks and BDSM, the DC Fetish Ball, Sex Therapy and Hiring a Pro Dominatrix.
Together they play WHOREible Life by trying to guess whether or not each player has done the act mentioned on the card. This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
Sex Positions While Pregnant: which positions create a boy and which create a girl, and why l...
Duration: 00:40:59082: Sex Party Etiquette and Tips from Experienced Sluts: Avoiding Common Assumptions, Establishing Connections, and Being Sexually Forward feat. Jess
Aug 01, 2024There are plenty of podcasts that talk about do’s and dont’s at a sex parties. This episode goes deeper.
The girls share their "aha" moments, discuss common mistakes made by veterans in the lifestyle, and storytell through it all with real-life examples.
Joining Elle and Vee chat in this discussion is returning guest Jess from Episode 58: “Help! My Ass Swallowed my Butt Plug!”, Golden Shower Pee Play, Fisting, and Staying Focused in Group Play and Episode 37: Edging: The Advantages of Withholding Orgasm, Electro Play and Spanking
Episode Breakdown<...
Duration: 00:58:50081: Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship, Creating a Sexy Environment in Temporary Spaces, and How to Pick Up a Vanilla Feat. Lolo and B
Jul 25, 2024In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with couple B and Lolo to discuss their long-distance relationship and how they practice non monogamy. They share how they navigate being apart and how they keep their relationship hot and exciting.
The conversation touches on topics such as playing separately, sharing sexy content, phone and video sex, the importance of creating the right atmosphere for sexual experiences, and their successful approach to meeting new people and introducing 'vanillas' into the lifestyle.
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Episode Breakdown:
Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship requires ef...
Duration: 01:11:25080: Face Riding, Face Slapping, Glass Dildo Tips, Giving Handjobs and Spicy Food Mishaps feat. Kate Maxx and Bridget Scholes
Jul 18, 2024In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two guests to play WHOREible Life (@wlthegame), the game of have you ever all things sex and kink!
The first guest is Kate Maxx from (from Episode 73: Owning and Loving What You Do with Kate Maxx featuring Humiliatrix Work, Stripping, and OnlyFans Content Creation
Our second guest is Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) from Episode 75: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play
Bridget is a sexologist in Australia. She also own...
Duration: 00:45:01079: Working Through Personal Challenges in ENM: Ebbs and Flows in Libido, Breakups and Changing Dynamics in Your Polycule, and Oversaturation
Jul 11, 2024In this episode, Elle catches up with Vee on everything she's been up to over the past few months while she's been gone on maternity leave. Vee shares her takeaways from various sex parties and the personal challenges she's been working through that have made getting sexual more challenging than usual.
Overthinking and using labels as a crutch: demisexuality. (1:57)
Trying to get sexy when you have a lot of stress in your life. (10:39)
Sex party takeaways: Squirting in public. Balancing and communicating with your p...
Duration: 01:00:26078: BABY JOY IS HERE! Elle's Birth Story feat. Postpartum Sex, Sex to Induce Labor, and Breast Milk Play
Jul 04, 2024Elle had her baby! In this episode, she shares all the intimate details about how she and her husband, M, used natural sexual tactics to induce labor, and how they got back to being sexual after six weeks of healing.
How to induce labor with sex: nipple play, penetrative sex, nipple clamps, orgasms and Braxton Hicks. (3:07)
What is labor pain like? Comparing contractions to DVP, speculum spreading, fisting, anal discomfort: breathing through discomfort, and thinking of words as spells. (11:04)
Post-baby vagina: "the husband stitch", and does it l...
Duration: 00:48:36077: Pro Domme and Professional Cuddler Bee on Therapeutic Kink, Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG) Dynamics, Yoni Gazing and Squirting Upside Down feat. Physics
Jun 27, 2024In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with professional cuddler and dominatrix Bee, who is also the co-founder of Temple in Chicago, a shibari and aerial performer, and the partner of previous repeat guest Physics (Episode 45: Yoni Massage vs Squirting, Episode 46: BDSM, DDLG and Shibari). In this wide-ranging conversation, the four of them touch on everything from DDLG dynamics to overcoming vulva shame through yoni gazing.
Temple: The feminine energy vs the masculine energy, creating a space for women to feel vulnerable enough to have those transformational experiences. Events at Temple from yoni gazing to massage to...
076: Rape Fantasies (Consensual Non-Consent aka CNC), Parenting Sex Positivity and "The Sex Talk", Double Ended Dildos, and Masturbation feat. Slutlana and Alexa Andre
Jun 20, 2024In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back repeat guest Slutlana (from Episode 31: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and Alexa Andre (from Episode 71: Relaxing While Receiving Oral, One Penis Policy, and Biphobia) to play the game Whoreible Life.
This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
There are many many ways to play, so in this episode they play it two ways: “Would You Rather” and “Done It, Fantasy, No Thank...
Episode 075: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play
Jun 13, 2024Elle and Vee chat with Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) who is a sexologist in Australia. She also owns her on dildo sex company, Madame Dahlia (@madame.dahlia).
Being sexually attracted to others while married. (2:03)
Healthy sex life in marriage and now divorced. (8:14)
Using the lifestyle app Feeld to meet partners and always saying yes. (11:43)
Sex club tips and lessons learned. (14:31)
Going to sex clubs alone vs with a partner. (18:28)
ENM...
Duration: 01:11:20074: Sex Educator and Pro Domme Lola Jean on Fetish Wrestling, Choking Methods and Squirting Misconceptions (aka Why Squirting Sucks)
Jun 06, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Lola Jean (@lolajeandotcom) about her work as a sex educator. She's known for holding the World Record for Highest Volume Squirted, but this conversation steers away from that (after first touching on why squirting can be annoying) and dives into her work as a fetish wrestler (aka "play fighting" using jiu jitsu moves).
No frills sex education: what does that mean? Working the social media algorithm as a sex educator. All the courses Lola Jean has on her website from choking to masturbation to play fighting, and more. (1:18)
073: Owning and Loving What You Do with Kate Maxx featuring Humiliatrix Work, Stripping, and OnlyFans Content Creation
May 30, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Kate Maxx, who is a "Jill of all trades": a former Naked News anchor, model, Young Swingers Week emcee (among other events), stripper, Only Fans content creator, and dominatrix specializing in humiliation. They go deep on all these topics. Additionally, they cover the importance of separating your work and personal life as a sex worker, and the shifts in perspective when you're a young widow.
Website: www.katemaxx.com
Instagram: kate_maxx_
Where to Find Us & How to Support the Show:
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Duration: 00:56:07072: Guys Gone Deep on Age Play, Spreader Bars, Collaring, Prince Albert Piercings and Glory Holes with Daniel D'Ottavio and M
May 23, 2024In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back repeat guest M (from Episode 5: Compersion, Episode 12: DP, Episode 34: How to Squirt) and Daniel D'Ottavio (@dottavio77) from Episode 64: SNCTM to play the game WHOREible Life together!
This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
When we pulled a card, each of us responded with Done it, Fantasy or No Thank you.
1 Done it — share the story!
2 Fantasy — share your fantasy of this card!
3 No...
Duration: 00:44:29071: Sexologist Alexa Andre on The Secret to Relaxing While Receiving Oral, “One Penis Policy”, Biphobia and How to Navigate When One Partner is Less Experienced in Ethical Non Monogamy
May 16, 2024This week, Vee and Elle discuss a range of topics with sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa), a sex therapist and host of the podcast In Bed with Alexa. They cover everything from new couples exploring ethical non-monogamy, to being able to relax into receiving oral (especially as a vulva owner), to navigating bisexuality, and so much more, including:
What advice do you have for a couple in which one partner has more experience than the other in non-monogamy? How can you deal when you’re unsure whether it will work with someone who has no experience with being ope...
070: Oral Part 2: Gag Reflex Tips, Orgy Oral Positions, Spitting vs Swallowing, and the Importance of Grooming
May 09, 2024This week, the girls continue their chat about all things ORAL.
(Listen to 069: Part 1: Techniques, Uncircumcised Blow Jobs and Power Dynamics here.)
What to stop doing in oral sex. (2:38)
Tips for helping with gag reflex. (4:56)
Imbalance of giving head vs eating pussy. (10:14)
Challenges and hangups with oral. (12:45)
Best oral positions in group sex. (17:03)
Grooming and hygiene. (21:03)
Cum: spit or swallow? (27:17)
Cum...
Duration: 00:57:33069: Oral Part 1: Our Favorite Techniques for Giving Head and Eating Out, Uncircumcised Blow Jobs and Power Dynamics
May 02, 2024It's the oral extravaganza! Vee and Elle chat about all things oral: blow jobs, eating out and all the good and bad along with it.
Why do you deep throat? (1:53)
Enthusiasm - our number one tip! The importance of moaning to show enthusiasm when receiving. (6:37)
Techniques for giving head: the corkscrew method; communication; ball sucking and licking. (9:49)
Getting comfortable! The best positions to give head and go down on someone. (15:08)
Techniques for licking pussy (cunnilingus, going down o...
Duration: 00:53:10068: Sensation Play with Sarah Eve: TENS and Electroplay, “Pervertables”, and Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body
Apr 25, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Sarah Eve about sensation play, including everything from the tools to use, to what questions to ask before a session, to safety considerations (especially when using electroplay), and so much more.
Sarah Eve is an educator and facilitated a mini workshop on sensation play at Daytime Playtime: a Sober Play Party, which Vee recapped in Episode 063.
What is sensation play? How can we stimulate different senses to heighten a sexual experience? It’s not just touch - how to play with scent, sight, taste, and smell, too. (6:58)
067: Overcoming Challenges and Exploring Dynamics in Ethical Non-Monogamy: Stag and Vixen, Playing Separately vs Together, and Alcohol's Effects
Apr 18, 2024In this episode, Vee chats with two couples at Hedonism Swing Breakers about their tools and takeaways for making a vacation at an all-inclusive lifestyle resort a success. Superslut and The Turk chat about how therapy helped set them up for success, while Josie and Evan share how Evan cutting out alcohol changed their relationship for the better. Additionally, they cover: What are some communication techniques to mitigate the effects of the free-flowing alcohol? Why keep doing it if it's so much work? ...And what are some hot experiences they've had along the way?
First Hedo experience: a...
066: Guys Gone Deep on Prostate Play, Squirt Juice Facials, Spit Play and Latex Fetish feat. Zachary Zane and The Builder
Apr 11, 2024In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two male guest for a GUYS GONE DEEP edition to play WHOREible Life the game.
First up, Zachary Zane @zacharyzane_ :
from Episode 057: Bisexuality with Boyslut Author Zachary Zane: Shameless Sexuality, The Importance of Visibility, and Living Your Best Slutty Life!
Then, The Builder:
from Episode 012: Guys Gone Deep: The Builder and M on Double Penetration, Short Men, and Friendships in the Lifestyle and mentioned in multiple other episodes!
Fucking yourself in the ass...
Duration: 01:10:23065: Hedonism Swing Breakers 2024: Intentions and Takeaways, featuring Squirting, Day Orgies, Speculum "Caving" and Slut Scouts
Apr 04, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat before and after Vee goes to Hedonism Swing Breakers: an under-45 swinger event at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica. It's a weeklong takeover of the resort, full of nudity, orgies, theme parties and debauchery!
Vee articulates her intentions, and later they recap the week and their experiences of it - both there and from afar - and what their takeaways were!
This conversation includes:
Lingerie vs rave costumes at lifestyle theme parties. PLUS packing tips! (:45)
Setting Sexual intentions: butt stuff, Nuru, daytime orgies! (14:13)
064: SNCTM with Daniel D’Ottavio: Erotic Performance Art, Exploration Through Anonymity, and the Deeper Meaning Behind Impact Play
Mar 28, 2024In this week's episode, Elle and Vee chat about all things SNCTM, the private members club that the girls have always wanted a peek inside. They cover the club, but also go super deep with their guest on the deeper meaning behind impact play, his love and adoration of his burlesque champion wife, and their artistic partnership.
Daniel D’Ottavio: his role in SNCTM, and his origin story with his wife, Lou Lou D’vil, the creative director or SNCTM. (1:03)
Monogamy and SNCTM: The choice to stay monogamous while working for a sex c...
Duration: 00:49:42063: “Daytime Playtime” Sober Play Party: Penis Sounding, Sensation Play, Cumming On Top, Apple Vision Pro Home Porn
Mar 21, 2024Horny for Knowledge: Daytime Playtime Sober Play Party with Mini Workshops. (00:54)
What is a daytime sober play party like? Analyzing the space and vibe: lighting, highlighting hit me up, attire, number of people. (4:54)
What sobriety brings to a sex party. (7:21)
Lola Jean: Spicing up the typical consent speech, including an interactive exercise. (9:31)
Making eye contact at a sex party: it;s not necesssarily an invitation! (11:02)
Embodiment, setting intentions, and setting boundaries workshop: giving permission t...
Duration: 01:04:31062: Sugar Daddy Fantasies, Orgasm Control, Foot Worship and Sex Dungeon Experiences
Mar 14, 2024In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two sexy friends to play WHOREible Life the game!
Leia (@vibrantbyleia) from Episode 41: Transformational Experiences in ENM and Episode 42: Sexual Somatic Healing and Sasha Silver (@Sashasilverxo) from Episode 54: From Cam Girl to Dominatrix.
With Leia, the way we played the game was by answering “Done It, Fantasy, No Thank you” and with Sasha, we had to guess if the person who drew the card had done it or not.
Plan B use in college and IUDs. (2:28)
H...
Duration: 00:59:07061: New High-End Sex Party Noetic: Fantasies, Strap-ons, Consent Double Standards and Hot Girl Privilege
Mar 07, 2024Listen in as Elle and Vee chat with Amy and Byron about Noetic, an exclusive elite VIP sex party which hosts unique, kinky, themed events in NYC, Miami, and Dubai. They cover everything from strap-ons to consent double standards and hot girls privilege.
What does Noetic mean? (0:44)
What is the orientation of the attendees of these events? (4:04)
How does allowing women to have complimentary membership impact the dynamic and ambiance of the parties? (5:46)
What can one expect at Noetic event? (13:01)
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060: NSFW Sex Club Founder Daniel Saynt on Creating a Sex Positive Community, Bi Male Acceptance, and Cannabis and Herbal Sexual Enhancements
Feb 29, 2024In this episode Vee and Elle had special guest Daniel Saynt on the show: founder and Chief Conspirator of NSFW, AKA New Society for Wellness, which is an NYC-based sex club and community.
They get into what makes NSFW different from other sex spaces, how they host workshops around sex education and communication, how they create safe space for all genders and sexual orientations, including bisexual and gay men, to feel welcomed and safe to explore their sexy sides… and way more!
Bisexuality: Daniel shares his journey as a bi male, and the d...
Duration: 01:17:12059: Sensual Shibari Practitioner Jaqueline Michelle on Embodiment after Disassociation, Healing Trauma, Solo Kink and Conscious Sex Work
Feb 21, 2024In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with sensuality mentor and sensual shibari practitioner Jaqueline Michelle about ways to heal trauma and connect with yourself. They touch on everything from solo kink to conscious sex work and strip clubs, the stigma around stripping and finding what makes you feel sexy, relearning to tune into your body when you disassociate to healing trauma through movement and self love practices, and surrendering to your inner domme or sub.
Jaqueline Michelle's healing journey: from disassociation and being inorgasmic, to discovering tantra, meditation and yoga, to sensuality embodiment mentor. (2:52)
058: “Help! My Ass Swallowed my Butt Plug!”, Golden Shower Pee Play, Fisting, and Staying Focused in Group Play
Feb 15, 2024In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back guest Jess from Episode 37: Edging, to play the game WHOREible Life together!
This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
When we pulled a card, each of us responded with Done it, Fantasy or No Thank you.
1 Done it —with story sharing
2 Fantasy —-with desire share
3 No thank you --and why not
Ass swallowing butt plug experienc...
Duration: 00:49:53057: Bisexuality with Boyslut Author Zachary Zane: Shameless Sexuality, The Importance of Visibility, and Living Your Best Slutty Life!
Feb 08, 2024In this episode, Vee and Elle go deep with Zachary Zane on everything from coming out as bisexual to overcoming shame, the importance of community and the nerdiness of polyamorous people.
Being “closeted” as a sex positive swinger. (3:42)
Pansexual vs bisexual. (7:12)
From sexually confused to "The Bisexual Mega Influencer." (13:13)
Bisexual visibility/audibility. (18:46)
Untangling anal stigmas - can you be seen as masculine AND enjoy anal play? (23:44)
Common myths or misrepresentations of bisexuals. (27:28)
Overc...
Duration: 01:06:26