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Some days don’t fall apart because of one big thing.
They fall apart because of a hundred small ones.

The gas light comes on.
The kids spill something.
The ice cream cone hits the floor.
Nothing catastrophic happens… and yet everything feels heavy.

In this episode of Dad Tired Daily, we talk about what psychologists call negativity bias—the way our brains are wired to fixate on what’s going wrong instead of what’s going right. It’s not because you’r...

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In today’s episode, we talk about wine, anesthesia, and the quiet ways men numb pain instead of feeling it.

As Jesus was led to the cross, He was offered wine to dull the pain. He refused it. Not because the pain didn’t matter — but because He chose to fully feel the weight He was carrying.

Many men don’t explode emotionally.
They disappear.

Instead of anger, they feel numb.
Instead of emotion, they feel distance.
Instead of presence, they reach for distract...

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Have you ever said, “I don’t know what happened — I just snapped”?

In today’s episode of Dad Tired Daily, Jerrad explores why men don’t actually go from calm to out of control in an instant — even though it feels that way. Using a simple (and memorable) analogy about teleportation and flying cars, this episode explains how stress builds gradually in the nervous system long before a blowup ever happens.

This episode is about learning to notice the early warning signs — the off-ramps — so you can tend your inner wo...

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Welcome to the very first episode of Dad Tired Daily — a short, intentional daily reset designed to help men tend their inner world so they can show up more healed for their families, work, and communities.

In this episode, Jerrad introduces the heart behind Dad Tired Daily and explores an often-overlooked reality: while much attention has (rightly) been given to a mother’s mental load, many fathers are quietly carrying deep emotional strain with little language or support.

Drawing from recent research, real-world stories, and Scripture, this episode invi...

Confession can bring healing—or devastation—depending on how it’s done.

In this episode, I speak directly to men who are carrying secrets in their marriage and feel torn between honesty and fear. If you’ve ever thought, “If she really knew me, everything might fall apart,” this conversation is for you.

Drawing from Scripture, lived experience, and walking alongside other men on the healing path, I explain why secrets rob us of intimacy, joy, and peace—and why impulsive confession can actually cause more harm than healing.

This isn’t about dumping your sha...

If you’ve ever noticed that when life gets hard you tend to pull away from God ; numb out, isolate, distract, or try to fix everything on your own, this episode is for you.

As we head into a new year, Jerrad shares a personal story from a father-son race that turned into a moment of crisis… and how it revealed something deeply true about all of us: pressure exposes our reputation.

In this episode, we contrast our instinct to hide with God’s consistent reputation throughout Scripture; a God who keeps drawing near t...

Ever had something small go wrong and suddenly you’re spiraling into insecurity, shame, or old stories you thought you were done with? Yeah… me too. Today I share a simple moment in my kitchen that unexpectedly poked an old wound and sent me into a whole internal narrative about not being good enough.

But this episode isn’t really about caulking a backsplash.

It’s about the lies men believe, the wounds we carry into adulthood, and why healing matters way more than we think.

In this episode we talk about:
• How tiny m...

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If you’ve ever felt exhausted as a dad — like you’re genuinely trying but something still feels “off” — today’s episode is going to give you language, clarity, and a fresh blueprint for fatherhood.

I sit down with Jeremy Pryor, one of the leading voices on shaping a multigenerational family on mission. Jeremy argues that most modern dads are using a brand-new cultural blueprint for family… and it’s not working.

This conversation is full of hope, honesty, and practical steps to help you create a home your kids will want to...

In this week’s episode, we shift the conversation from inner healing to how that healing actually plays out inside your marriage. Jerrad opens up about the quieter, less flashy season Dad Tired has entered, and why he’s more encouraged than ever as he hears private stories of repentance, courage, and healing from men around the world.

Then we turn to the heart of Step 005: your marriage is meant to display Christ’s love for His church. Not primarily your happiness. Not comfort. But a living, breathing picture of the gospel inside your home. When we lose s...

You can have a good life — not an easy life, but one filled with deep peace and joy that circumstances can’t shake. In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 4 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Forming Spiritual Habits — a conversation about how men grow through intentional, daily rhythms that train the soul for godliness.

Jerrad shares how his own healing journey began with one powerful declaration: “I’m a truth teller.” That single identity statement became the foundation for transformation. From there, he talks about how building small, consistent habits — rooted in who you’re becoming, not just what you’re...

What if the reason you keep reacting, withdrawing, or losing patience isn’t about your present—but your past?

In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 3 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Addressing Past Wounds—a practical and gospel-centered conversation about facing the pain we’ve carried instead of burying it. With honesty and compassion, he walks men through why ignoring our wounds doesn’t make them disappear; it just makes them leak into our marriage, our parenting, and our leadership.

Through biblical truth, personal story, and real-world guidance, Jerrad helps you see that this step isn’t abou...

What if healing isn’t found in isolation, but in the presence of brothers who know the worst about you and love you anyway?

In this episode, Jerrad unpacks Step 2 of the Seven Steps of Discipleship: Find Your Brotherhood: a conversation about why God never intended men to walk alone. Through biblical truth, personal story, and raw honesty, he explores why confession, friendship, and brotherhood aren’t optional extras in the Christian life, they’re essential for healing.

Later in the episode, Jerrad is joined by Nick, a Dad Tired listener who shares how brotherhood change...

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What if following Jesus actually costs you everything?

In this first episode of our new 7-part series, The Seven Steps of Discipleship, Jerrad unpacks Step One — Count the Cost — and challenges men to slow down, read the small print, and honestly consider what it means to follow Jesus.

You’ll learn why Jesus told the crowds to “count the cost” before following Him, what it looks like to build your faith on a real foundation, and how to take a personal inventory of what discipleship might cost you.

Later in t...

Most dads want to disciple their kids—but sometimes we don’t know where to start. In this episode, Kaleb shares a simple rhythm he’s been using in his own home: teaching the Apostles’ Creed. Whether it’s on car rides, walks, or at bedtime, this ancient confession of faith has become a bridge to talk about who God is and what we believe as a family.

As Kaleb walks through each line of the Creed, he focuses on one most of us overlook: “He ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the Father.”...

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What if the greatest gift you could give your son isn’t a car, a college fund, or a successful life—but a deep sense that he is beloved?

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Peter Goodwin and Connor Ketchum from The Quarry Project, a father–son camp in Alaska helping dads disciple their boys into biblical manhood. Together, they unpack what it really means to raise sons who know who they are, where they come from, and what they’re made for.

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What if the clutter around you- your messy car, chaotic desk, or unfinished projects—was actually revealing something deeper happening inside you?

In this episode, Jerrad challenges men to look beneath the surface and see how the outward disorder in our lives often mirrors the inward chaos of our souls. Before stepping into the mission God’s calling us to, He’s inviting us to bring order, attention, and faithfulness to the small things right in front of us.

Through personal stories, honest reflection, and a practical framework, Jerrad helps listeners see that spiritual leadership starts...

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Feeling the pull to lead your family and faith well,  but not sure where to start? In this episode, Jerrad breaks down a simple, clear, and repeatable 7-step process to help men move from drifting to disciple.

Whether you’re new to following Jesus or just hungry for deeper growth, this framework will help you count the cost, build brotherhood, heal your wounds, and lead with purpose.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m ready to step up, I just don’t know how,” this episode is for you.

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What does it really mean to follow Jesus when the cost is high?

In this week’s episode, Jerrad reflects on the tragic assassination of Charlie Kirk; not just as a political figure, but as a brother in Christ who boldly proclaimed the gospel until his final moments.

Drawing from Luke 9 and his own experiences at the Dad Tired retreat, Jerrad challenges men to slow down, quiet the noise, and seriously ask: Am I all in with Jesus?

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What if the very thing you fear most—suffering—was actually the place God wanted to meet you most deeply?

In this episode, Jerrad opens a new series through 1 Peter, a letter written to Christians facing intense persecution under Nero. With raw honesty and pastoral encouragement, he reminds us that suffering isn’t a sign that God has abandoned us—it’s often the very soil where our faith takes root.

Drawing from Peter’s opening words, Jerrad shares personal stories of walking with grieving families, parenting through pain, and clinging to identity in Christ wh...

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What if the hardest thing you’ve ever faced wasn’t 60 days in the wilderness, but the weight of leading your family through suffering?

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Alone Season 5 winner, Sam Larson, whose victory on national TV was followed by a far heavier reality at home: all three of his children being diagnosed with CLN3 Batten Disease, a rare terminal illness.

With raw honesty and gospel hope, Sam shares how grief stripped away every illusion of control, what it means to father children with a limited time...

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What if the biggest battle you’re fighting isn’t around you, but inside your own head?

In this episode, Jerrad gets real about the lies men quietly believe every day—the voices that whisper (or shout), “You’re not enough, you’ll never change, you’re unlovable, you don’t matter.” Drawing from personal struggles, conversations with friends, and the truth of Scripture, he unpacks how to recognize these destructive thoughts and replace them with what God actually says.

With insight from John 8:44, Romans 8:1, 2 Corinthians 5:17, and Ephesians 2:10, you’ll discover:<...

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What would your wife and kids say if someone asked, “Is your dad full of joy?”

In this episode, Jerrad gets honest about why so many dads feel grumpy, short-tempered, and exhausted, and why joy often feels out of reach. Sharing personal stories, biblical truth, and ten practical steps, he unpacks how Christian dads can move from frustration to deep joy rooted in Jesus.

With insight from Psalm 16:11, Galatians 5:22–23, and John 15:10–11, you’ll discover:

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What would it look like if every part of your life was lived in the light. No shortcuts, no secrets, no lies?

In this episode, Jerrad challenges men to step into radical honesty, starting with the smallest details. Drawing from his own healing journey, he unpacks why healed men are truth-tellers, how integrity builds confidence, and why it matters to look more like your Heavenly Father—the Father of light—than the father of lies.

With biblical insight from 1 John 1:6–7, Proverbs 10:9, and Luke 16:10, you’ll...

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What if the most powerful discipleship moments with your kids weren’t planned, but hidden in the everyday?

In this heartfelt solo episode, Jerrad Lopes shares the honest struggle of staying connected with your kids; especially as they grow into pre-teens and teens. From the exhausting early days of parenting toddlers to the emotional complexity of raising a 14-year-old, Jerrad opens up about his own wins, failures, and surprising lessons learned.

Through a spontaneous UTV adventure in the Arizona desert, he discovered a truth that changed how he...

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What if your emotions weren’t the enemy—but the invitation to grow into the man God’s calling you to be?

In this powerful solo episode, Chris Hilken explores the complicated relationship men have with their emotions. Most guys tend to fall off one side of the horse: either rejecting their emotions altogether or letting them run the show. But what if there’s a better way?

With biblical insight and real-life examples, Chris makes the case that emotions aren’t s...

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Most men have learned how to clean up well.
We look calm. Composed. Put together.
We show up to church, crack a few jokes, keep the peace; and no one would know what’s actually happening in our hearts.

But Jesus isn’t fooled by appearance. He sees straight through the polish and into the pain.

In today’s episode, Kaleb unpacks what it means to “clean the inside of the cup.”
He shares a raw story about how God confronted him in the middle...

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What if the pain you’ve buried is the very thing blocking you from becoming the man God created you to be?

In this raw and emotional episode, Jerrad sits down with Dr. Brad Johnson—also known as BJ Communicates—to talk about grief, father wounds, and how trauma shapes us more than we realize. BJ shares the heartbreaking story of holding his newborn son as he took his last breath, walking through the fog of loss in his marriage, and later grieving the death of his own father before reconc...

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What if the lie you're believing is the very thing keeping you from peace?

In this powerful and convicting episode, Jerrad sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas to dismantle one of the most common, but rarely admitted lies Christian men believe: God owes me. Together, they talk about the quiet entitlement that sneaks into our faith, why peace feels so elusive, and how the Gospel offers something far deeper than comfort or success.

Jerrad and Gary explore how social media...

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What if your greatest strength… is also the thing that wears you out the most?

In this honest and inspiring conversation, Jerrad sits down with Michael Seifert—founder of PublicSq. and EveryLife—to talk about identity, pressure, purpose, and the hidden cost of success. Though Michael leads some of the most mission-driven companies in America, he opens up about the soul battles behind his ambition—and why Sabbath rest might be his greatest act of obedience.

They talk about legacy, fatherhood, and how a re...

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What if the things that slow you down… are the very things God wants to use to form you?

In this slow, soulful conversation, Jerrad sits down with Jake Weidmann—a master penman (yes, that’s a real thing) and artist whose life and work are marked by discipline, creativity, and deep intentionality. From carving sacred art to raising four kids, Jake shares how slowing down has reshaped not just his craft—but his soul.

They talk about the connection between beauty a...

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What if the thing that nearly destroyed you… became the thing God used to heal others?

In this raw and redemptive episode, Jerrad sits down with Sammy Perez, a man who grew up without a dad, entered the system at age 8, and spent much of his early life in prison. But that’s not where the story ends. Through a prison cellmate, an unexpected visitation, and the unlikely love of a spiritual father, Sammy’s life was completely turned around.

Together, they talk about father wounds...

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What if being a “man” had nothing to do with bench press numbers or beard length—and everything to do with becoming a safe place?

In this vulnerable and soul-stirring episode, Jerrad sits down with Brant Hansen to talk about what it really means to be a man. From playing the flute and battling shame to protecting the vulnerable and bringing peace to your home, Brant flips the typical narrative of masculinity on its head.

They unpack the ache many men feel to be...

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In this honest and gritty conversation, Shane Winnings and Jerrad talk about the ache behind every man’s desire to be a good dad—and why good intentions still leave so many guys feeling like they’re failing.

Shane shares his own story of growing as a father while leading a national movement to fight fatherlessness. They unpack how wounds from our own dads often fuel our desire to be better, but why motivation alone won’t cut it. From military discipline to spiritual revival, from bei...

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Why do so many dads feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing their best?

In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs.

Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds...

What if the part of you that you hate the most is the part God is most eager to heal?

In this episode, Jerrad opens up about a moment that nearly ended him, and the journey that brought him back. He shares a powerful story from his two-week intensive recovery experience, including the surprising object that became a symbol of grace and compassion. If you’ve ever carried shame, hidden pain, or felt like your sin disqualifies you from being loved, this conversation is for you.

Whether you’re a husband, father, or man who’s just...

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What if your marriage wasn’t just surviving—but actually healing you?

In this powerful episode, Jerrad sits down with author and speaker Gabe Lyons (The Fight for Us) to talk about the real work of building a thriving marriage—especially when life throws curveballs like special needs parenting, trauma, and unspoken pain.

They unpack:

Why do so many men feel stuck—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally—even while doing all the “right” things? 
In this vulnerable conversation, Kyle Idleman talks about the inner battles men face in silence. He explains why many men hide behind performance and productivity, how healing begins with connection (not accomplishment), and what it really looks like to take every thought captive.

Kyle and Jerrad dig into thought patterns that keep men stuck, the mental load of leadership, and why confessing weakness isn’t whining—it’s spiritual obedience. If you’ve ever felt alone, overburdened, or ashamed of not “b...

What do you do when something isn’t technically sin—but still doesn’t feel right? In this episode, Jerrad shares a vulnerable story from his week that left him convicted, even though no clear line was crossed. He unpacks the concept of “inner, middle, and outer circle behaviors”—a tool from recovery circles—and challenges Christian men to evaluate the subtle patterns that quietly lead to sin, disconnection, or hidden shame.

If you’re a husband or father wrestling with old habits, emotional isolation, or unspoken compromise, this episode gives practical language to your inner conflict—and a g...

What do you do when your marriage feels broken—but you don’t know how to fix it?
 In this episode, Dave and Ann Wilson share their story of nearly losing their marriage at year 10, and how God brought them through bitterness, performance, and unmet expectations into healing and intimacy.

With over four decades of marriage experience and years of leading marriage ministries, they speak candidly about wounds from the past, what happens when a wife feels unseen, and why husbands often withdraw instead of engage. You’ll also hear practical tools for renewing your mind, healing...

Why do so many christian men fall into the same sinful patterns over and over? Jerrad reveals how habitual sin is often rooted in emotional escape—in attempts to numb pain, stress, or fear. Drawing from his own experience in intensive counseling and a growing commitment to truth-telling, he helps men understand how to face uncomfortable emotions rather than flee from them.

This episode is for every man who feels stuck, ashamed, or exhausted by the cycle of sin and silence. You’ll walk away with practical tools to sit in discomfort, recognize your escape habits, and move...

In this episode, Nick Stumbo (Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries) shares his personal story of battling pornography addiction while serving as a pastor—and how it nearly cost him his marriage. Nick and Jerrad unpack the cycle of shame, hidden habits, emotional coping, and why true healing for Christian men requires more than confession.

If you've ever felt stuck in sin, numb to your marriage, or spiritually ashamed, this conversation offers a hopeful path toward recovery and freedom in Christ.

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In this episode, Jerrad Lopes returns after a four-month break. He  shares how hidden sin, deep wounds, and a crisis of identity led him to the darkest season of his life—and how God met him there. Jerrad opens up about stepping away from ministry, entering a two-week counseling intensive, and why full healing is impossible without radical honesty.

This episode is a call to Christian men: if you want your family to thrive, healing must begin with you. You don’t need more parenting tips—you need deep, soul-level transformation. And it starts by coming out of hidi...

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Caleb Allen and Chris Hilken to share a ministry update. This is a follow-up to the first update from earlier this year. The conversation focuses on personal growth, spiritual accountability, and the next steps for Dad Tired.

What You’ll hear:
• What restoration has looked like behind the scenes
• Why confession, counsel, and community were key
• How the team approached trust and leadership
• What has changed in Jerrad’s personal walk with God
• How grace and truth have shaped the process
• What’s ahead for the Dad Tired...

What does it really mean to be a man of God? In this powerful follow-up to Part One of the Biblical Masculinity series, we explore 8 core traits of a godly man through the PRIME MEN acrostic: Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble.

With insight from scripture, stories of failure and redemption (from Adam to Jesus), and quotes from thinkers like C.S. Lewis, John Piper, and Voddie Baucham, this episode will challenge and inspire you to grow as a man of faith.

Whether you're a dad, a husband, or a young man...

Is your view of masculinity shaped more by culture than Christ? In this first part of a two-part series, Chris Hilkin unpacks what the Bible really says about being a man. Drawing on personal stories, cultural contrasts, and Scripture, Chris introduces the PRIME MEN acrostic—a framework for understanding godly manhood—and walks through the first two foundational traits: Peacemaker and Repentant.

This episode is a call for Christian men to unlearn shallow definitions of manhood and replace them with gospel-centered convictions. Whether you’re raising sons or seeking healing yourself, this message will challenge and equip you fo...

Why did Jesus always send His disciples out two by two—and why does it still matter today? In this powerful solo episode, Kaleb teaches the biblical principle of living life with godly brothers by your side. Drawing from Luke 10 and examples throughout Acts, he shows how isolation makes men vulnerable, while companionship strengthens our courage, witness, and joy.

If you’re a husband, father, or follower of Jesus trying to carry the load alone, this episode is a call to lock arms with men who will walk with you in faith, accountability, laughter, and mission.

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What if friendship is one of the most powerful tools God gives us to battle confusion, discouragement, and spiritual despair? Kaleb teaches the story of the Road to Emmaus (Luke 24) to show how the presence of Jesus is often revealed when two believers walk together through grief and doubt.

Drawing from Scripture, Church history, and stories of Christian martyrs, this episode highlights how friendship is not a side benefit of the Christian life—it’s a core part of God's design for your healing and strength. If you’ve felt tired, isolated, or unsure where God is in you...

Can a man truly grow in holiness without growing in friendship? Kaleb challenges the individualistic mindset many Christian men carry—and shows how friendship is not just helpful, but essential for spiritual maturity. Drawing from John 15, the life of Jesus, and examples like Augustine, he unpacks the truth that holiness and friendship are inseparably linked.

If you’ve felt isolated, self-reliant, or unsure how to build meaningful relationships as a Christian man, this episode reframes friendship not as a luxury, but as a command of Christ—and a taste of heaven itself.

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In this episode Kaleb narrates how anxiety, looping thoughts, and self-condemnation can pull us away from the moments that matter most. While watching his son overcome fear at a waterpark, Kaleb found himself mentally stuck—replaying frustrations, doubts, and failures. Through John 14:27, he reflects on the kind of peace Jesus gives: not escape from life’s storms, but presence within them—a peace that interrupts fear and helps us stay grounded in what God is doing right in front of us.

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Many wrestle with the image of God in the Old Testament—how can the same God who loves and weeps in the New Testament also command war and destruction? In this episode, Chris Hilkin tackles one of the hardest questions in the Bible: is the God of the Old Testament morally good?
Chris walks through five biblical and historical reasons why the conquest narratives aren’t what modern readers often assume. You'll hear how ancient war language, the slow process of displacement, divine justice, and God's mercy all help make sense of these difficult passages—and why rejecting God on...

What has God entrusted to you—and are you stewarding it well?

In today’s episode we unpack a powerful biblical theme woven throughout the New Testament: stewardship. From Jesus’ parable of the faithful servant to the Apostle Paul's letters to Timothy, we’re reminded that God is watching how we handle the things He’s put in our hands—especially our homes, marriages, and children.

Plus, we share a wild church history story about the Apostle John chasing down a gang leader on horseback. No, seriously.

Whether you’re a dad, husband, or just a guy...

Many Christians—and critics—wrestle with this difficult question: does the Bible support slavery?  Chris Hilkin discusses the  most misunderstood and controversial aspects of the Old Testament. He confronts the assumption that God condones slavery by unpacking what the Bible actually says about servitude, justice, and human dignity. Through historical context, Hebrew language insights, and careful biblical interpretation, Chris explains how God’s law placed boundaries on power, offered protections to the vulnerable, and called His people to reflect His justice and mercy—even in broken systems.

What You’ll Learn:

Many christians  feel unequipped to handle the hard questions—especially when it comes to the Old Testament. Why does God seem so angry? Did He really command entire crowds  to be destroyed? In this episode, Chris Hilkin opens a new teaching series by offering simple, powerful tools for reading Scripture faithfully. He walks through how to understand difficult passages, avoid common interpretation mistakes, and confidently answering the kinds of questions people might ask about God’s character in the Bible.

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How do you lead your family with faith and conviction in a culture that no longer shares your values? In this conversation, Patrick Miller discusses the message of his new book Joyful Outsiders. Joyful Outsiders —a guide for Christian men learning to follow Jesus in a world that feels disorienting, even hostile. He explains why being an outsider isn’t something to avoid, but a biblical identity to embrace.
 Raising kids, discipling others, or navigating your own tension with culture, this episode offers practical wisdom for how to live faithfully, lead intentionally, and stay rooted in joy—even when th...

A new year often brings the desire to reset—not just with goals and routines, but in how we lead, parent, and connect with God. In this episode, Kaleb Allen reflects on the emotional and spiritual weight many men carry coming out of the holidays: feeling off-rhythm, spiritually dry, or unsure how to re-engage. In reference to James 5:17 and Elijah’s prayer life, he calls Christian husbands, fathers, and leaders back to the foundation—fervent, honest, consistent prayer. He urges you to show up before God with your whole heart and trust Him to work through your  weakness.

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What do you do when life falls apart—and you're still expected to lead, provide, and hold it all together? In this episode, Pastor John Onwuchekwa shares his story of unexpected loss, spiritual exhaustion, and the slow, grace-filled process of healing. Through raw moments of grief, relational strain, and a sabbatical that reshaped him, John shows why grief isn’t something to get over—but something we have to learn to carry.

Together, John and Kaleb explore how Scripture, friendship, and deep honesty help Christian men navigate sorrow without losing hope. If you’re in a season of loss—...

 In this episode, Peter Ostapko shares how God called him out of banking and into a creative, countercultural ministry: Kinsman Journal. Built around the themes of faith, fatherhood, and work, the journal combines original photography, timeless essays, and deep storytelling to speak to the heart of Christian men.

Peter also explains how Kinsman has grown beyond print into live gatherings like Kinsman Table, where excellence, hospitality, and intentionality create space for men to connect and grow- through presence.
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Most Christian men want to be more consistent—more prayerful, more disciplined, more engaged. But what if the struggle isn’t really about discipline at all? In this episode, Kaleb Allen looks at the life of Daniel to show that lasting spiritual habits flow from conviction, not willpower. It’s not about trying harder—it’s about believing deeper. If you’re tired of starting strong and fading out, this message will help you reframe discipline as a response to what you believe about God, not just a task to check off.

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What happens when one man devotes his whole life to prayer? In this  episode, Kaleb Allen shares the  story of John Hyde—known as “Praying Hyde”—a missionary to India whose hidden life with God shook nations. Hyde’s devotion wasn’t loud or public, but it was deep, consistent, and marked by sacrificial love.

Kaleb weaves Hyde’s story with Scripture, church history, and a connection to Joseph of Arimathea’s tenderness at the cross, inviting Christian men to step into a quiet, faithful life shaped by love, not performance.
If your spiritual life feels tired or distracte...

What does it really look like to seek God in the secret place as a way of life? Bob Sorge shares how decades of vocal injury and physical suffering drew him deeper into intimacy with Jesus. Rather than walking away from his calling, Bob chose to lean in—learning to meet God in silence.
 Bob and Kaleb explore how the secret place forms men into spiritual leaders, how a father’s hunger for God can shape the atmosphere of a home, and why devotion rooted in desire—not duty—is what sustains us through every season.
If you’re a...

In this episode, Jerrad Lopes shares that he is stepping away from ministry. He talks honestly about hidden sin, personal pain, and the need to heal. He talks  about choosing to face what has been ignored.
Jerrad explains what led to this point and why rest, confession, and care are necessary. He speaks as a husband, father, and follower of Christ who wants to be whole. If you are carrying quiet struggles of your own, this is an invitation to stop hiding and start healing.
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In this episode, Kaleb Allen talks about the danger of mixed motives in the Christian life. He looks back at his own early years in ministry and how pride, competition, and selfish ambition tried to shape his devotion. Kaleb reminds us that spiritual disciplines should lead to deeper friendship with God, not performance or status.

You’ll learn:
• Why some people pursue revival for the wrong reasons
• How pride can hide inside prayer, fasting, and study
• What Paul says about preachers with selfish motives
• How to avoid a “works-based” mindset in your devotional life
• Why...

Kaleb Allen opens up about his battle with fatigue, motivation, and what happens when productivity starts to replace devotion. In this episode, he invites men to re-center their hearts and ask honest questions about what they’re really living for.

You’ll learn:
• Why even good things can distract us from God
• What it means to “will one thing” and live with single focus
• How the early church modeled consistent, daily devotion
• Why intentionality, attention, and perseverance all matter
• What to do when your faith feels divided
This is a challenge to slow down and e...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with Laura Wifler, co-founder of Risen Motherhood, about what it really means to parent through the lens of the gospel. They discuss marriages, emotional labor, disability, and what it looks like to lead your home with grace and intentionality.

You’ll learn:
 • Why unseen tasks in the home matter so much to your wife
 • How gospel-centered parenting changes your tone and goals
 • What Laura wishes every husband understands
 • How to grow in emotional leadership as a dad
 • What it means when God calls you to a ministry you didn’t choose...

In this episode, Jerrad and Chris Hilken answer listener-submitted questions on birth control, vasectomies, salvation before Jesus, masturbation, and how to talk to your kids about sex. They offer  biblical support for dads who want to lead with wisdom today.

What You’ll Hear:

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In this episode, Kaleb Allen and Seth Baumgartner  talk about what it means to follow Jesus through  difficult seasons. They reflect on the life and journal of missionary David Brainerd—a man who deeply struggled with sickness, depression, and loneliness, yet remained faithful to the end.

 What You’ll hear:
• Why Brainerd is considered a model of gospel perseverance
• What it means to be honest with God in seasons of doubt and dryness
• Why hardship doesn’t disqualify you from ministry
• How friendship and shared spiritual rhythms shape your faith
• What it looks like to run y...

Jerrad talks with David Pollack, former NFL linebacker, ESPN analyst, and host of the Family Goals podcast. They discuss what it means to raise kids in a culture focused on performance. David shares how his career-ending injury shaped his faith, how he leads at home, and why his kids don’t have to earn his approval.

You’ll hear:
• What David learned about identity after football
• Why performance-based parenting wears kids down
• How to help your kids live their age and still build grit
• Why sports should never come before church
• What grace-based le...

In this episode, Jerrad and Chris continue their Q&A series by answering more real questions from listeners. In this episode, they talk  about addiction, divorce, friendships, and how to interpret parts of the Bible. 
They discuss how to take sin seriously without falling into shame, and how to lead your family with clarity and conviction.

What You’ll hear:
• Can you lose your salvation if you're addicted to porn?
• What real repentance looks like for struggling believers
• Are Bible stories like Job literal or symbolic?
• Should married men and women have opposit...

Kaleb Allen continues the wilderness series by reflecting on how God meets us in our most restless and uncertain seasons. He looks at Moses’ burning bush moment and the prison writings of Dietrich Bonhoeffer to show how clarity often begins with surrender.

 What You’ll hear:
• What Bonhoeffer’s poem “Who Am I?” teaches about identity
• Why God tells Moses who He is before saying who Moses is
• What it means to “turn aside” and notice God in the mundane
• How reverence and stillness open space for real connection
• Why theology is essential when your so...

In this episode, Jerrad continues the conversation about emotional health, spiritual lies, and what it means to lead your family when life feels heavy. He shares how a difficult week brought up insecurity, discouragement, and a sense of weariness.
 Jarred, encourages you  to slow down, examine your heart, and be honest about the lies you’ve been believing.

What You’ll hear:
• How to recognize when something is off in your soul
• Why many men turn up the noise instead of dealing with the pain
• What it means to “find the dead rat” in your life
...

Jerrad and Chris continue the Q&A series by answering real questions from listeners about sexuality, salvation, communion, and what happens after we die. Chris Hilkin gives pastoral and biblical answers to  these  issues with truth, and compassion.

What You’ll hear:
• How to forgive yourself when you still feel ashamed
• What the Bible says about being gay and going to heaven
• Why identity matters more than orientation
• Whether loved ones in heaven can hear or see us
• If communion is the literal body of Christ
• How to approach people in your life with b...

 Kaleb Allen continues the wilderness series by looking at the moment Elijah hit his limit. After calling down fire from heaven, Elijah finds himself in the desert, exhausted and ready to quit. Kaleb shares what it looks like when men hit that same place and how God responds with rest, care, and quiet direction. 

 
What You’ll hear:
• Why Elijah collapsed under a broom tree after his biggest victory
• What it means to laugh at yourself in low moments
• How God responds to weakness with kindness, not shame
• Why your physical health affects your...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with speaker and coach Pedro LaTorre. Pedro shares how childhood trauma, performance addiction, and constant busyness kept him from being present as a husband and father. He  shares  about the healing journey that changed everything—his marriage, his parenting, and his view of God. Through it all, he learned how to feel again and finally stepped into the kind of man God had been calling him to be.
What You’ll hear:
• How emotional wounds from childhood shaped Pedro’s identity
• Why performance can look spiritual but still be toxic
• How healing he...

Jerrad and Chris Hilkin, continue the Q&A series by answering real questions from listeners about marriage, sexuality, church life, and the Holy Spirit. Chris gives honest, biblical responses to topics that many Christian men wrestle with but rarely talk about.

What You’ll hear:
• What is off limits in the bedroom for married couples
• Why church membership matters for spiritual growth
• How to understand the baptism of the Holy Spirit
• What the Bible says about cremation and burial
• Why accountability and clarity are essential in a local church
• How to stay rooted...

In this episode, Kaleb shares how the wilderness seasons of life—times of emotional fog, spiritual dryness, and personal struggle—can shape Christian men into stronger spiritual leaders. Drawing from his personal experience as a husband, foster dad, and pastor, Kaleb walks through Jesus’ temptation in the wilderness and how men today can resist the same lies about relevance, performance, and power.

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In this episode, Jerrad sits down with singer, songwriter, and podcast host Matthew West for a conversation about the pain, pressure, and beauty of being a dad.
They talk about sending kids off to college, handling public criticism, and the challenge of staying emotionally present at home when everything pulls you elsewhere. Matthew shares what he’s learned about vulnerability, regret, and learning to slow down. He opens up about how his identity as a father has been shaped by grace.

What You’ll hear:
• Why letting go of your kids is harder than anyone tells...

Jerrad and Chris continue the Q&A series with another round of  listener-submitted questions. They talk about creation, sexuality, science, theology, and what it looks like to think biblically about topics many men avoid or feel confused about.

What You’ll hear:
• Where Cain and Abel got their wives
• Why people lived longer in the Old Testament
• Whether dinosaurs lived at the same time as humans
• How old the earth might be according to the Bible
• If masturbation is ever okay in marriage
• The key difference between Jehovah’s Witnesses and Christians
•...

Kaleb Allen continues the wilderness series with a deep look at confusion and spiritual frustration. He explains why these moments are not a sign that something is broken, but often a sign that God is doing deeper work. Kaleb draws from the lives of Elijah, John the Baptist, Moses, and the writings of John of the Cross and C.S. Lewis to help men make sense of what they are going through.

What You’ll hear:
• What to do when life feels foggy, unclear, and hard to explain
• Why God sometimes withholds comfort to give us cla...

 In this episode, Jerrad challenges dads to stop parenting with a one-size-fits-all mindset and start leading their families like true shepherds. After noticing something during a conversation with his kids, he shares what it means to know each member of your household individually and lead them with intentional care. 

You’ll hear:
 • Why blanket commands and zone defense don’t work in fatherhood
 • What Jesus modeled through one-on-one moments with Zacchaeus, Peter, and the woman at the well
 • How to recognize your role as a spiritual leader in your home
 • Why every member of your family nee...

In this first episode of the Q&A series, Jerrad and Chris respond to real questions submitted by men at the Dad Tired retreat. They talk through theology, lifestyle, and personal struggles with clarity, honesty, and a focus on biblical truth.

What You’ll hear:
• What hell actually is and whether God is present there
• Do you have to be baptized to be saved?
• Is gambling or sports betting always sinful?
• Does the Tower of Babel say anything about space exploration?
• Can Christians smoke cigars or drink alcohol?
• Should believers use profanity...

Kaleb Allen launches the wilderness series speaking directly to you who feels dry, spiritually empty, or confused. He teaches the difference between seasons we choose and those God leads us into. These teaching is drawn from John of the Cross, the life of Jesus, and Kaleb's own experience. This message is for you who is doing everything right on the outside but still feel like something is missing.

What You’ll hear:
• Why doing all the right things doesn’t always make you feel right
• What an “active” vs. “passive” wilderness season looks like
• Why God may be wit...

 In this episode, Jerrad  shares what it really means to lead your marriage. He talks about the call to love your wife like Christ loves the church. He shares moments from his own marriage and explains how that love is more than romance or duty. It’s sacrifice, forgiveness, and intentional spiritual leadership.

 What You’ll hear:
• What it actually means to love sacrificially, not just kindly
• How intimacy grows when forgiveness becomes a lifestyle
• Why your marriage is meant to reflect God's love to the world
• How to pursue your wife emotionally, spiritually, an...

In this episode, Jerrad speaks directly to busy dads who feel stretched thin. He shares how the chaos of life, especially in a new season, can cause us to drift from what matters most. Jerrad walks through how to refocus on your mission, identify distractions, and start making space for what God has actually called you to do.

What You’ll hear:
• How to reset your priorities when life feels blurry
• Why physical clutter often reflects inner clutter
• How Jesus modeled saying no to good things for the sake of the mission
• Why most distr...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with Newt Crenshaw, President and CEO of Young Life. They discuss what Gen Z and Gen Alpha are really searching for, based on a global study conducted by Young Life. Newt shares what the research revealed about identity, relationships, and the deep need for connection in a world shaped by screens, pressure, and isolation.

What You’ll hear:
• Why 40% of young people don’t feel worthy of love
• What kids actually want from adults in their lives
• How social media affects boys and girls differently
• Why moms are still the to...

In this episode, Jerrad invites you to pray. He knows how easy it is to carry pressure, to lead from exhaustion, and to forget who you are. You start performing. You stop listening. You lead on autopilot.

Through the words of Jesus in the Lord’s Prayer, Jerrad walks with you through a simple moment of surrender. A chance to reset your heart and remember that you are first a son, not a leader. You were never meant to carry this on your own.

You’ll hear:
• Why your prayer life shows who you trust<...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with Grammy-winning artist Zach Williams. They walk through Zach’s journey of addiction, identity, and coming to faith later in life. Zach shares how God pursued him, how that changed his family, and what parenting looks like now that grace is part of the picture.

What You’ll hear:
• How Zach went from a rock band and addiction to faith and family
• What changed when he gave his life to Christ in 2012
• How shame, fear, and regret showed up even after salvation
• Why grace became a key part of his paren...

In this episode, Chris Hilken shares how to walk with your child through grief. After losing his wife and becoming a single dad of five, Chris learned how to comfort his children while grieving himself. He speaks from experience and gives a simple plan to help you guide your kids in moments of pain, loss, and confusion.

 What You’ll hear:
• How to be present when your child is hurting
• What to say when there are no easy answers
• How grief affects a child over time
• A simple way to walk through both emotion and...

In this episode, Jerrad reflects on how easy it is to forget our need for God when life is going well. Spiritual drift often begins when life feels stable. When things are good,prayer becomes rare. Hunger for God's Word slows down. You stop leading with purpose. 
Through personal stories and Scripture, Jerrad explores why good times may be more dangerous than hard ones.

What You’ll hear:
• Why comfort can make you stop praying
• What David’s story teaches about success and failure
• How spiritual laziness sneaks in during calm seasons
• Why d...

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Pastor Douglas Wilson to talk about biblical discipline. They focus on what it takes to build a joyful home. Pastor Wilson explains how to lead your children with love and authority. He shares why short accounts matter. He also teaches how joy is restored when sin is dealt with quickly.

What You’ll hear:
• Why discipline begins with the parent’s own heart
• How to keep short accounts in marriage and parenting
• What it means to restore a child to joy after discipline
• Why household culture matters more...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with recording artist Jordan Feliz about learning when to say no. They discuss the pressure men feel to perform, provide, and please everyone. Jordan shares how therapy, parenting, and a demanding career helped him learn the value of limits. He also shares how trusting God with his time has changed the way he leads at home.

What You’ll hear:
• Why most men say yes out of fear
• What it looks like to lead from rest, not pressure
• How to know when a “no” is healthy
• What Jordan’s therapist taug...

Jordan Raynor joins Jerrad for a practical conversation about heaven. They talk about the most common questions kids ask and why many adults still carry false ideas about eternity. Jordan explains what Scripture actually says and how the new Earth changes everything about how we parent and lead.

What You’ll hear:
• Why most people have a wrong view of heaven
• What kids really want to know about eternity
• How to talk about the new Earth in a simple way
• Why worship is more than singing
• What the Bible says about animals, wor...

In this episode, Jerrad sits down with Steel Billings, Head of AI Strategy at Glue. They talk about how artificial intelligence is shaping the way we parent, lead, and live. Steel breaks down what AI actually is, what it means for the next generation, and how Christian parents can prepare their kids for a digital future.

What You’ll hear:
• What every dad needs to understand about AI
• Why parenting in this era takes new levels of awareness
• How to talk to your kids about AI, emotions, and identity
• What’s at risk when kids fo...

In this episode, Jerrad talks with worship leader and songwriter Stephen McWhirter. Stephen shares how a childhood of abuse and a decade of addiction nearly destroyed his life. He opens up about how Jesus met him in the middle of it all and changed everything. This is a story of redemption, healing, and the kind of grace that goes deeper than our past.

 
What You’ll hear:
• How Stephen’s view of God was shaped by an abusive father
• What it looked like to run from religion and numb the pain
• How Jesus met him dur...

 Dr. Juli Slattery joins Jerrad for an honest conversation about sex and intimacy in marriage. They cover the questions most men want to ask but often avoid. Juli brings grace, and a biblical framework for how to understand sex. She reminds us it is not just a physical act. It is a spiritual gift.

What You’ll hear:
• Why sexual struggles are often spiritual struggles
• How to define healthy intimacy in marriage
• What real faithfulness looks like in thought and action
• Why many couples feel stuck or ashamed in this area
• How men and women...

Jerrad sits down with Shane Winnings, former law enforcement officer and CEO of Promise Keepers, to talk about integrity, obedience, and spiritual leadership. Shane shares his story of walking away from career and comfort to follow God's call. They talk about how small, unseen acts of obedience shape the kind of man you become.

What You’ll hear:
• Why obedience starts with small decisions
• How God used street ministry to build boldness
• What it means to be faithful in daily life
• How to lead your home with clarity and conviction
• Why tenderness and strength...

Jeremy Pryor joins Jerrad to talk about one of the most confusing parts of modern family life — how to relate to parents and in-laws as adults. They discuss what it means to show honor, how to draw healthy boundaries, and why God designed families to be multi-generational. 
Jeremy also shares the result of restoring family culture and what it means to raise children in a household, not a nest.

 What You’ll hear:
• What Scripture says about honoring your parents
• Why modern families feel disconnected across generations
• How to deal with in-laws in a healthy an...

In this episode, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Jerrad to talk about the deeper story behind pornography, shame, and anger. He explains why behavior change is not enough. Jeremy  helps men ask better questions about their pain. He shows how healing starts when we look at what drives the behavior, not just the behavior itself.

What You’ll hear:
• Why shame grows in silence
• How pornography often masks deeper wounds
• What anger reveals about your need for rest and relief
• How healing starts with kindness toward your own story
• Why confession is the beginn...

In this episode, Kaleb Allen asks a hard but honest question. Who is really running your life? He shares how the drive for productivity can quietly become a form of slavery. Through Scripture, personal stories, and the life of Jesus, Kaleb unpacks what it means to rest, slow down, and let God define your worth.

 What You’ll hear:
• How hustle culture distorts your view of success
• Why rest is not weakness
• What Sabbath says about your identity
• How Jesus lived with margin and retreat
• What happens when you trade burnout for presence
...

In this episode, Jerrad speaks directly to husbands and fathers. He teaches from Colossians 3 and Genesis 3 to show what it means to lead as God designed. Jerrad unpacks the weight of spiritual leadership and how men are called to love, serve, and lay down their lives for their families.

What You’ll hear:

 • Why God holds men accountable for their homes
 • What it means to love your wife without harshness or resentment
 • Why leadership is not about control, but sacrifice
 • How Genesis 3 shapes our understanding of headship
 • What Paul says to husbands in Colos...

In this episode, Jerrad continues teaching through Colossians chapter 3 and focuses on verse 18. He speaks directly to women who want to follow Jesus in their marriage. This message is not about control or silence. It is about trust, strength, and reflecting the gospel in a real home.

Jerrad explains what biblical submission means and what it does not. He shows how this call is rooted in the character of Christ, not cultural roles. This is not about value. It is about order, humility, and spiritual leadership in the home.

 What You’ll hear:
• Why submi...