Vocal De Frag With Arroe Collins

We will brag all day about the art of knowing and executing our skills as time managers. Are you really playing by the rules or just looking for an easy out? Time management isn't running out to play golf during business hours. That's conceit and self-serving because there's an entire team of people still trying to make it through their day. No matter how hard they work on time management there's no way they can get out to play. It starts at the top. Be the leader not the better than you.

My father always said, "Do not speak unless spoken to." That's how I've lived my life. I normally do not start the conversation. Not until I'm spoken to. Dad's rules! In this case Dad has been very very wrong.

Constantly we are reminded of other people's anxiety and or stress. How does it sit inside you? Are you the end result of someone else's bad day. Because you are so loving and compassionate, it makes you an automatic target to get hit by other people's emotions. How do you protect your heart and soul growing forward?

We're all extremely guilty of sacrificing a huge chunk of our life in the name of keeping peace on your street. What we do for others physically takes away from your efforts and dreams and most of the time you aren't getting that space back. As long as you offer your energy to others they will endlessly depend on it. Breaking that cycle in the way of realizing your own set aside dreams.

It's completely natural to base your life story on the interpretation of where you presently stand. I'm no doctor to tell you it's healthy but the junk needs to get out of your trunk. We play the telephone game with how it really went down. Each time a subject is brought up it's given a little twist. After a few years leading into decades... what's the real adventure?

Being a huge part of the digital generation has come with a massive price that's come due. Being physically disconnected from human contact has turned us into solo hot shots that rely on text messaging and camera phones to think we are united with all we come in contact with. That's not how we were designed. The new age of friendship and family has finally turned itself around and we are getting together in ways where we can smell each other's breath.

Are you really a creature of habit or are you endlessly doing the same thing out of a fear of forgetting to do it?

We're all guilty of it. We run from shadows and shade. Yet while walking through a forest although the temperature will change, we keep marching forward. When then while our minds are filled with shadows and shade do we feel like a wall is keeping us from maintaining the full vision of success?

Massive corporate cutbacks are nothing new. Being part of the broadcast industry for 46 years we've walked through many many tight situations based not on delivering quality but quantity with the fewest number of players. While with the big motha of them all broadcast companies I found peace in my heart when I realized I don't front a physical department. I am a team of won. And we did win!

I work with someone who is looked upon as being one of the top players on the team. He's not only praised by earned Employee of the Month. Yet he's never had a great review from our guests and the people we serve. What's up with that?

We fall witness to pro sports heroes doing it before every game. They warm up! Do you? Not just your body but your mind and soul. Don't go into any meeting or project without physically warming up.

The winds of change.  It's been written about as well as performed through music since the beginning of time.  On a personal level how we each deal with the winds of change is a unique experience that has the power and ability to either lead or turn us into fumbling failures due 100% to a lack of trust.  

It's a very important question and it may take longer than ten minutes to truly gain access to an authentic answer. Would your mother be proud of you?

Those moments you want to have the last word. Oh, it's going to be great! Not a pissing contest but just a moment when you look like you've got it all together. Then you do it! You say something you shouldn't have said.

Those playful pot shots that others toss in your direction. Calling you old or maybe a little more rounded. They mean it in jest but you're taking it seriously. How can we move around these jabs of joy?

For so many, the thought of asking why seems like more work then inner peace. Being present with your wonder of why keeps your growth pattern activated. When you start to accept what is...is. You're now playing the game of a following, ask why until you're blue in the face.

If you could boil down to one word what best describes your current path... what would it be?

Somewhere along the lessons in life we thought we are to climb the mountain to move beyond the tough challenging times. No... it's time to remove the mountain one rock, one step, on thought at a time. We aren't going up. We are taking it down.

We are the generation that has seen a lot and done a lot. But did you document it as it was happening? If not, your memories are based on a true story. Taking the time to record your walks or adventures by way of writing or a digital device puts your story on the front page of reality. If you wait to share it, it's based on a true story.

Life feels incredibly tight. So much so I want to stretch the map. We need the room to move. One steps feels like it's covering eight miles. Where are you on your map? If this were a mall could you find your position on the map?

We're constantly in need of wanting to talk with family and friends but are we truly listening to what's being shared? What if we just listened?

So often we give so much of ourselves away that we end up feeling very empty. Is there a way to receive while we're giving? Yes...

Wow! We hear it, we see it, feel it and wonder about it. So often we're told or say out loud, "What is happening is a God calling." Is it?

We do it too quickly. The moment we have a great moment, or we're caught up in a conversation about our choices in life, we tend to instantly says, "It's God's calling." Hmmm really? If all we do is God's calling, we are setting ourselves up for failure. We will expect to win win win. We are over labeling our positions on the path. Admit that it's your calling and God is overlooking your decisions.

We all have a voice. Some much louder than others. Some more revealing. But it's not just your vocal cords we're hearing. It's what you're posting on social media. You've got a voice. But are you fulfilled?

Do you realize the physical act of regret starts in our twenties? Then we spend the rest of our lives wondering why we didn't do something about it. There's a new path to follow. Turn your regrets into triumphs.

I had injured my left shoulder badly. It was extremely difficult to raise it. My neighbor showed no compassion saying, "Admit you are old and grow with it." I could never do that! Mainly because I never heard my parents or grandparents call themself old.

We've mastered the art of setting things aside. Then complain about how life isn't fair and you aren't getting what you worked for. The story has been building. Take yourself off the path of oh I'll get to one day. Physically grow forward with determination and not procrastination.

We all move with and without our transitions. Mental moments that create change or were put into place due to change. Very few of us recognize our transitions as being an amazing tool is getting to know who we are on the inside and out. Facing your transitions leads you toward peace as well as forgiveness.

Not everybody plays the game at 100%. One look at our lifestyle away from the judgers, it turns out we're making our way through a new day at 10%. Our hair is messed up, clothes are stained and torn and our attitude is like me for me not what you want to see. 10%.

Too often we do something at the drop of a hat knowing full well there may be consequences. You knew what it was before you picked it up. Facing those walls. How to become more aware of your instant decision making or repairing from another bad situation. You knew what it was when you picked it up.

Simple question; could you do it? Could you go 24 hours with out judging? Judging yourself and others? Judging the world and the universe. 24 hours without judgement...

How do you react when people make it clear, "It's not as good as the old days." Seriously, one look at the old days and the times weren't as easy as they are today. The good ole days? It's like someone who says they'd like to be 17 again. I don't mind just don't take todays technology with you. If you wanna go back please do but it has to be lived the very way you once did.

In everything we do there's always something next. Can we be in control of what it is? Is this why so many people live in their past. They always know what happens next!

While in the pulpit Pastor Steven Furtick asked, "Wouldn't it be great if you didn't know you?" An amazing seed to plant inside your heart. What if you didn't know yourself?

The majority of what we share in conversations about ourselves is based upon a true story. I'm a daily writer of thirty one years and it requires a lot of discipline to put the real story on paper. The same is true about our connections with people. A memory is always based upon a true story. That doesn't make it false. It makes it an interpretation.

There's value inside a passing thought. Why then do we set so many aside? Some of the greatest songs and movie ideas came from someone's passing thought. Even if it doesn't fully mature it can always serve as energy when connected to another passing thought. Begin a journey of truly listening to your passing thoughts. Personal growth is waiting to get out.

Not only are people pushing hard on us but we're treating ourselves the same way. We've set our standards and expectations so high and so far out there that we've become exhausted. How to get better control of your path is approachable and it begins with asking questions and questioning answers.

Wall do it. It's completely natural to be a taker. The wake up call comes when so many have taken from you and there's no longer any soil on the ground to grow new beginnings.

Here we are! Another moment in our reflection. We are constantly reflecting on our lives. Measuring the wants and needs with the losses and stumbles. Why? When you are present in your place of now there's no personal judgement.

We're all saying it, "I'm so consumed." Breaking it down has shown me that being consumed leads to taking notes which leads to no longer depending on our memory. I call it laziness.

An honest question, is it all about you or the foundation of the people? Ways you can look at where you presently stand. Being happy by yourself or always grouping together.

Getting caught up in your what if... We're all guilty of asking what if?  It gets in the way of your success and or it serves as a great protection.  What if?  

Creativity is a huge tool on our paths of success. Because of demand as well as multi tasking, creative exhaustion has leveled a lot of great projects and dreams. How can we get beyond those empty moments and celebrate our gift to create?

We're stalling ourselves by putting too much attention on things that don't matter and if they did they're weighed down by a decision to continue living in the past.

We all have issues. Many of them get in the way of personal growth or capturing a goal. In essence we are a stone in the middle of our flow. How do we break free of it? What else is hidden in our flow that's knocking us to the side or giving up hope of locate the ocean?

Talent is a gift. What happens to most of the gifts we receive from others? They break. We lose them. Talent is a step. What's the real performance?

I grew up in a bowling alley. The family loved to throw the rock. To this day I hear my mother's voice "Son you need to slow down and follow through." Little did I know it wasn't just about bowling. Life in general needs to be slowed down and followed through. Our hearts and heads are consumed with too much information with even more knocking on your front door. Does thinking too much come across as moodiness? Slow down and follow through.

Engaging with a conversation requires the entire self. For countless reasons we have become this generation of half listeners. Regaining control of your participation in the progress calls for theater of the mind. To envision yourself as being an important part of the shared message. Half listening leads to assumption and or I think I heard it this way. From business meetings to neighborhood football watching, theater of the mind keeps you on the field of truly being engaged.

Do I believe people are happy to see me? No. They're happy that I see them. Learning to recognize people first is a great community builder. We're all locked up and lost in a world completely built by our inner core of doubt fear shame and guilt. Step free of it by knowing you're going to recognize someone first.

We are masters at trying to reinvent ourselves. I compare it to IT departments. They really don't fix the problem, they just give you a new way to work around it.

Are we moving too quickly with our decision making? Too often we choose to stop reaching through the challenges. Therefore a once great idea is dropped. It could've had a payoff! The Cara Cara orange is a great reason why we should never walk away. Something that was generated in the late 1970's has started making an impact in 2024. Would you have quit this project?

We endure someone's stress everyday. Endlessly we're told that what we do anybody can do. After you hear it over and over you begin to believe that anyone can do what you have crafted or learned from. It lessons our drive to be unique. This is how you break that pattern. Tell yourself that nobody can be you. You are you. Say, "I am me." Believe in it and grow with it. I am me. Anybody can't be you.

Your ego is related to the physical acts that come with being a perfectionist. Being aware of what triggers you requires the art of listening. Do you ever listen to yourself or is it an endless go for it attitude, which not only injures the ego but bogs down the perfectionist.

We've all been through a lot over the past year straight into the decades. Unexpected uneasy tough and questionable events that have barely given us time to heal. We feel invisible! If that's true, what do you see in the mirror? Is it a mirage or a memory?

Anxiety has roots. We are triggered into moments of the unknown. Sudden changes have an impact on how we think act and react. I started a journey of window building. Taking your daily expectations at work or home and locating windows to rest and or keep focused. So it doesn't feel like you've lost control. Build your windows.

To say you're trying to catch up means you've fallen behind. Trying to keep up means you're at the same level as others. Be aware of how you talk with yourself and those around you. If you're constantly talking about catching up it actually serves as a negative. Keeping up keeps you in the game without self shame.

We all dream and or wish for better things. Yet it feels like we never make it a reality. It's so simple to place blame on others. Lets get real. It's probably you standing in your own way.

No matter who you are, we all have daily disciplines. But are you practicing them correctly? Awareness of your inner and outer behavior is a great path to walk on. It requires a larger role in your daily disciplines. It's designed to keep yourself connected to transparency. Being open and honest while exploring better ways to be efficient without creating another short cut.

We're constantly being reminded to clear out the cache in our phones and computers... What about our head? It happens naturally and there are a couple of other things you can incorporate to help build a better way of thinking as well as reacting.

By choice... We're always waiting for something. The big break at work. The house getting cleaned. Paying the bills on time. Waiting. So how do we break the habit?

When leaves fall it effects our moods. Yet when SpaceX sends up a monster of a machine that ends up blowing up they see it as a positive. They're collecting data to one day build the biggest and best ever rocket. Learning how to turn your falls into very important data. Building a strong you.

We're constantly looking for better and easier ways to be centered. To locate our calm. Most of the great teachers say it arrives from mindfulness. Be present with your now. That's where I start to question. Where is your here? Physically you are here but mentally where is your here? Taking notes is so important. Mainly because when you return to your here, there's a better understanding as to how you can be present in your here.

Some people call them hikes, strolls or just out for a walk. I put transition in front of my walk because it sends a signal to the mind body and soul, "Take note of the multiple transitions you're moving through so that you can be clearer with every decision and not just the favorite ones."

Journaling.  There are so many different ways to help free your story and or empty your mind and heart.  Is there a wrong way to journal?  When do you know you're doing it right?  Should it be handwritten or spoken into a smart phone?  The importance of journaling is my daily discipline.  Then one day something changed.  The system broke down.  

How we act and react, answer and or ignore questions, the way we moan about or celebrate... It comes from the head or the heart? Which one is leading you?

You're at work. A masked man walks in wearing a backpack in the front of his body. He enters the bathroom for 30 minutes. Once out the backpack is now strapped to his side. How do you react? Ask the question then question the answers.

The word "is" plays a huge role in your life. In all questions asked those two letters seemingly show up. It's a great way to begin a question or to define a purpose. Getting to know how you use the word is...

What are we running away from? Can it be identified as being normal in an abnormal world?

The human mind body and soul remind me of a smartphone. We don't really tap into it's greatest strengths. We take what we need then move on. Yet there is so much more of our inner core that can be utilized on a journey we think we're writing but ultimately it's being controlled by a much higher energy. We're built well but not meant to last.

We all have had those moments when emptiness fills our hearts and desire to continue creating or doing our basic jobs. I'm feeling empty. That truly is the best time to get stuff done. You've allowed yourself enough room to keep the perfectionist at bay. When you're feeling empty. Don't look at it as being a negative. Make it a tool and find your success

I love grabbing a dictionary to look up the definition of words. Then it occurred to me, "What is my definition of me?" People define us everyday. But how are we defining us in their presence. What is the definition of you?

It's completely our way to be going in several different directions. We've made it too easy to get lost mentally as well as physically. Learning how to regain stability and control means looking at your life and style as a business. Become the president and CEO of ME INC

It's not about me me me me! Sharing your story is a great connection to whom you are but the missing piece of the puzzle are the lessons you picked up along the way. They belong to each and everyone of us. Share your story then shift it to the lessons that need to be taught.

Learning how to leave your past in the department of things you have long passed. Being a person who lives in the present isn't an easy walk. But what helps simplify it is knowing your past has been passed. My sister struggled with this. It injured her presence because those around her grew tired of the constant reminder of how things went. Sadly, when you live in the past you tend to rewrite the story. To bend things into better ways to accept the experience. What you've passed is a past. Leave it there.

To this day I'm guilty of it. When in question or doubt we ask other people what we should do. We don't ask ourselves but rely on someone who doesn't walk in your shoes to be the path maker. I'm not saying its wrong! But I do wonder if we don't get addicted to asking others first without ever working on it ourselves.

We endlessly try to be like others. One way to slow down our judgement of self is call it what it is. I can't be you. You can't be me. One day we'll meet in the middle.

I don't think we're lost. We're just not in touch with our focus. When challenged we set things aside. I'll do it a different day. When you find yourself out of focus say two words, "Lets go!" Reignite your vision and start the engines of success.

My father endlessly asked me, "What the hell are you doing?" The big corporate broadcasting company said, "We don't know what you're doing just don't stop." How often do we ask ourselves about what we are doing? I'm constantly pounding on my heart because we live in an age of ROI. Return Of Investment. If what you're doing isn't working. What can you be doing?

It's a daily discipline that has impact. Be it positive or negative what we say today can be and will be a tool or weapon for you or someone else in their tomorrow. Living in the now with your personal feelings becomes part of their now. It's not living the past. It's living forward.

We all have creative outbursts but don't know how to embrace the sudden surge of flow. Sometimes it's easy to walk away from and if you talk to other creative people they're fighting a daily war with having an idea or thought and having no real way of seeing it through.

The doctor recently talked to me about having invisible reflux. Almost like acid reflux but invisible. What else in our lives is invisible? How about anger? It's a real issue that many people tend to turn into happiness to keep from being recognized. You know, to stay invisible.

We all receive from the universe. The question is do we allow enough time for the great mystery to download it into our heads and hearts or do we get an idea then run with it putting all that we think we've received into our interpretation?

I'm a out of control prepper. I don't find reason to fly by the seat of my pants. In chapters past, it's haunted me. I've made bad mistakes and it gave off a different type of image of the hard work I put into my craft. Do you fly by the seat of your pants?

The walks we take through each new day are usually governed by those who have shaped us in business. Then when we're alone and want to play or explore its difficult because we're used to being told what to do and how to perform. It's called D I D...

As a daily writer I asked myself, "Are you sharing a story?" My inner voice shocked me, "No I'm exploring." You don't have to be a writer for your imagination to be looked upon as one. It's always working and filling your heart with massive amounts of thoughts. Are you sharing a story or exploring?

Men as well as women face the moments when how we express is taken as bad energy. My father let his grumpy old man flag fly. Learning how to deal with it begins with being aware.

Being a quitter isn't always a negative. There are countless times we quit things to make room for the new. We quit to relieve the anxiety from personal expectations. We quit because it was time. But can we un-quit a quit? Now that we know both sides of the fence it should be more insightful right? A better understanding of why we quit versus why it's important to believe in second chances. Admit it! We're all quitters!

We spend so much energy on keeping things about us hidden away. It allows outsiders to draw their own conclusion. What would happen if we stop stuffing things in what I call a Kept box? You have kept this and that from people. For whatever reason it was hidden away. There were many things I wish my parents would've unveiled. They kept things away. Are you a Kept person?

We're constantly moving through change. But there are things that aren't moving. Is it by choice? What would you like to change but can't? Ask the questions then question the answers. Let's De Frag...

Writing things down or posting your thoughts on social media isn't the sickness. It's holding back. What image are you giving off that is completely out of harmony with what you're truly thinking?

We've all heard how one man's trash is another man's treasure. What if the trash being tossed out were your vocalized thoughts? Maybe what we post on social media? What are you throwing away that's becoming another person's treasure?

The outside of your walk and way is shaped by others, bosses, friends, family and motivators. What does the inside view of self look like? Why is it so important to get to know the one thing that has the daily ability to keep you from your dreams?