High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

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What if your pursuit of healing is actually leading you into deeper bondage?

In this powerful episode, Chelsey Holm exposes how the enemy hijacks well-meaning paths like coaching, counseling, therapy, and self-help when they're not surrendered to the Holy Spirit. From manifestations to false peace, we explore how spiritual counterfeits disguise themselves as breakthrough—but only lead to burnout, confusion, and a deeper reliance on self instead of God.

This episode will challenge you to look deeper:

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We’ve been told to “do the work,” “fix our mindset,” “heal our trauma,” and then we’ll be whole. But what if all that self-help work is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I challenge the lie that your marriage, identity, or future depends on you fixing yourself first. I share how the self-help movement sneaks into Christian women’s lives, convincing us we’re just one more breakthrough away from freedom — while subtly keeping us from the true gospel of surrender.

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What if your obsession with macros, workouts, and willpower isn't making you healthier—just more enslaved?

In this powerful episode, Chelsey shares how God used her journey through indulgence, restriction, shame, and punishment to reveal a deeper truth: when we do health the world’s way, we stay in Egypt.

It’s time to leave slavery behind.

This is your invitation to walk in freedom—where food is fuel, movement is worship, and your body becomes a vessel for God's glory, not a battleground of control.

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 In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how deep trust in the Lord isn't just theological—it’s practical. From working six days and trusting God to provide on the seventh, to learning how that same surrender spills over into how we trust our husbands, this is a call to stop striving and start truly believing. God’s order brings peace. And obedience brings overflow. When we trust Him, we stop needing to control every outcome—in our business, in our home, and in our marriage. This episode is a rally cry for the high-achieving woman rea...

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Strong doesn’t mean silent. And it doesn’t mean savage either.

In this empowering episode, Chelsey unpacks what it means to live as an Ezer Kenegdo—a woman created to be a powerful helper, warrior, and ally. She shares how women can confront their husbands, their own patterns, and even false doctrine without becoming controlling or combative.

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In this hard but holy episode, Chelsey goes deep into the difference between suffering well and suffering wrongly. Many women have confused silence with submission, believing the lie that faithfulness to God means tolerating emotional, spiritual, or even physical harm. That’s not God’s design.

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What if the root of your exhaustion, striving, and insecurity isn’t a lack of hustle... but a lack of identity?

In this powerful episode, we dismantle the lies that keep women stuck in performance, perfectionism, and people-pleasing—and expose how the enemy uses confusion and comparison to keep you small.

Chelsey guides you through what it means to truly be hidden in Christ, how to walk in your God-given authority, and why reclaiming your true identity changes everything—from your marriage to your motherhood to your mission.

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What happens when a strong, high-achieving woman realizes she’s been living shackled by shame?

In this raw and redemptive conversation, Katey Willman joins Chelsey to share her journey of breaking free from the silent weight of “not enough.” From people-pleasing and performance to true healing and identity in Christ, this episode exposes how shame distorts connection—with God, with others, and with self.

You’ll hear how Katey learned to walk bold and free, embracing spiritual authority and feminine softness through obedience, inner healing, and nervous system regulation.

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 Rebuilding marriage God’s way. Join wife & coach Chelsey Holm for faith-filled conversations that trade control for connection, perfection for purpose, and exhaustion for alignment. 

What if fixing your marriage wasn’t the goal — but flourishing in God’s design was?

I’m Chelsey Holm — wife, mom of five, and coach to women ready to rebuild their marriages from the inside out.
In High Level Wife, we uncover what happens when you stop performing, start surrendering, and let God reorder your life — from the inside out.

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Let’s set the record straight: submission isn’t silence, weakness, or oppression—it’s a sub-mission to God’s greater plan for unity, love, and transformation.

In this fire-filled episode, Chelsey Holm breaks down the misunderstood and misused concept of submission, especially in Christian marriage. Rooted in Ephesians and lived through real experience, Chelsey unpacks:

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The world tells us that strength is loud, controlling, and independent. But what if real strength is found in surrender? In this episode, Chelsey unpacks what it means to be strong and surrendered as a woman of God.

You’ll hear the powerful contrast between flesh-fueled control and Spirit-led influence, why submission doesn’t mean silence, and how true power flows from obedience, not dominance. If you’ve ever felt the tension between your fierce spirit and your call to follow God's order in marriage and life—this one's for you.

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Most people think they’re alive because they’re busy. But busyness is not the same as growth—and if you’re not growing in Christ, you’re already spiritually dead.

In this power-packed episode, Chelsey exposes the hard truth from Ephesians 4: growth isn’t optional—it’s the evidence of new life in Christ. She unpacks how our old patterns, perfectionism, vanity metrics, and desire to perform are actually signs of spiritual deadness masked in hustle. Through stories of gardening, parenting, and surrender, she shares how only the Holy Spirit can produce last...

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The world says better communication will fix your marriage. But the truth? It’s only a small part of the picture.

In this episode, Chelsey pulls back the curtain on why communication alone can’t save your marriage—and how most couples are trying to reform patterns they don’t even realize were formed decades ago. She shares how to uncover the roots of unhealthy conflict, the biblical principles that redefine communication, and the practical “tone, timing, and technique” framework she and Zach use to stay united instead of divided.<...

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If you’ve ever been told that the solution to your marriage struggles is “just go on more dates,” this one’s for you.

In this raw and real episode, Chelsey dismantles the cultural myth that date nights can fix what’s broken in your marriage. She shares her own story of trying to “paint over ashes” when the real issue was a missing foundation—and how only God’s design and grace can rebuild what’s been burned down.

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What if the most rebellious thing you could do in today’s culture was to follow Jesus fully—with your marriage, family, values, priorities, and purpose?

In this fiery episode, Chelsey drops truth with urgency, conviction, and love. Inspired by Erica Kirk’s powerful words and Charlie Kirk’s unwavering stand for truth, she unpacks what it really means to be a rebel in 2025.

Spoiler: It's not what the world thinks.

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Have you ever stopped to ask why Jesus welcomes children—and tells us to become like them?

This episode will change the way you see your parenting, your obedience, and your relationship with God. What started as a simple afternoon spreading mulch with my 5-year-old turned into a Holy Spirit download on how deeply God delights in using us to do His work—even when we slow things down, make a mess, and need help halfway through.

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You might think your marriage is too far gone.
 Too broken.
 Too betrayed.
 Too burned to ever be rebuilt.

I used to believe that, too—until God proved otherwise.

In this raw and redemptive episode, I share the full story of the miracle shower that changed everything. What was almost the final night of my marriage became the turning point of complete surrender—and the beginning of supernatural restoration.

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What if the root of your disconnection, pain, or avoidance in intimacy wasn’t brokenness—but misunderstanding?

In this powerful episode, I’m joined by guest coach Sarah Vincelli, a biblically-rooted intimacy coach who helps women release tension, trauma, and shame stored in their bodies so they can experience intimacy the way God designed it: naked and unashamed (Genesis 2:25).

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This is not your typical episode—it’s a call to action for every believer.

In the wake of the assassination of Charlie Kirk, Chelsey shares her raw reaction, deep spiritual reflection, and unapologetic challenge to the Church: are we paying any cost for our faith?

This episode isn’t about politics—it’s about purpose. It’s about heaven. And it’s about living in a way that makes hell nervous.

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Marriage isn’t about your happiness—it’s about your holiness.

In this soul-deep episode, Chelsey walks through Ephesians 5 and unpacks the profound mystery of marriage: a reflection of Christ and the Church. This is more than submission, more than sex, and more than “doing your part.” It’s a Spirit-filled, sanctifying journey toward oneness, healing, and kingdom purpose.

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What do losing your voice, being convicted by a thought, and cheese muffins have in common?

This spontaneous episode is a heart-level invitation into what it looks like to walk through everyday life with the Holy Spirit as your guide—even when you’re sick, tired, or making snacks for your kids.

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Have you ever closed Instagram or TikTok and felt more anxious, less satisfied, or suddenly unsure of your life? That’s not random.

In this episode, I unpack the spiritual and emotional effects of social media—and how the discontent we feel online is often a divine nudge to examine our hearts.

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Ever had a moment from childhood that seemed small… but you’ve never forgotten it?

In this episode, I share a vivid Christmas memory—what seemed like a simple gift exchange at the time—that marked the beginning of an identity shift for me.

This isn’t just a story. It’s a powerful example of how little t trauma and childhood moments can shape who we think we have to be in order to belong.

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Let’s talk about trauma—because everyone has it, but not everyone knows how it’s shaping their marriage, leadership, and life.

In this episode, I unpack what trauma really is, the difference between big T and little t trauma, and how the patterns you developed to protect yourself are often the same ones keeping you from experiencing intimacy, trust, and freedom today.

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In this honest, Spirit-led episode, I’m sharing five things I’m doing lately that are posturing my heart to live and walk in the Spirit—especially in the chaos, leadership, and everyday decisions of life, marriage, and business.

These aren’t productivity hacks. They’re postures of surrender. And if you’ve been craving deeper intimacy with God or struggling to hear Him clearly, this conversation is your invitation to come back to center.

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You’re significant—but you’re not the Savior.

In this humbling and hope-filled episode, Chelsey explores 1 Corinthians 3 and what it means to live with right-sized significance. Whether you feel over-responsible or stuck behind fear disguised as humility, this episode will reframe your role in God’s divine plan.

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Your brain is always scanning to confirm what it already believes—so what are you giving it permission to seek?

In this powerful episode, Chelsey unpacks the science of focus and how the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) is constantly filtering information based on your current beliefs. When partnered with the truth of God’s Word, this becomes a life-changing tool for transformation.

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When you’re too close to the chaos, all you see is blur.

In this soul-grounding episode, Chelsey shares how taking a step back—from stress, striving, and daily distractions—can reveal the bigger picture of what God is doing in your home and heart. From Sabbath reflections and parenting moments to long-awaited swing chairs and a husband returning from deployment, she brings you into her real life and the spiritual truths unfolding within it.

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Hard work. Hustle. Do more. Plan better.

That was Chelsey’s formula—until God lovingly let it all fall apart.

In this deeply honest episode, Chelsey opens up about what happened when she did everything “right” in business… and still didn’t see success. Not because she was lazy, but because God loved her too much to let her idolize her own effort.

If you’ve been pushing, planning, or praying while secretly still trying to control the outcome—this is your wake-up cal...

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Let’s be real—affirmations sound empowering, but they’re empty without truth.

In this no-fluff episode, Chelsey exposes the hollowness of self-help mantras and explains why “I am enough” just doesn’t cut it without a biblical foundation. You’ll learn why it’s not about finding your truth, becoming your best self, or repeating fluffy phrases—it’s about anchoring yourself in who God actually says you are.

This is your permission slip to stop striving and start abiding. Let’s burn the counterfeit and root ourselves in Truth that sets us...

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In this raw, honest, and Holy Spirit-led episode, Chelsey takes you behind the scenes of a chaotic game night turned spiritual revelation. From parenting breakdowns to a face-first fall at the gas station, she shares how God used the everyday and the unexpected to uncover deeper truths—about spiritual warfare, gluttony, control, and walking in the Spirit.

Chelsey unpacks the power of spiritual fasting (and the pitfalls of doing it with the wrong heart), the difference between surface conflict and deeper battles, and how to stop waging war against the wrong en...

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In this episode, Chelsey Holm introduces EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) through a Kingdom lens—offering a grounding, Spirit-led practice for regulating your body and reconnecting to God's truth.

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In this episode, Chelsey invites you into a sacred conversation that echoes the cries of so many high-functioning, emotionally exhausted women: Who is holding space for me?

Through real stories, honest reflections, and personal breakthrough, she reveals what’s really going on beneath the surface for the “strong ones” who have been carrying too much for too long. From suppressed grief and generational wounds to emotional disconnection and numbness, Chelsey walks you through the first step toward healing: feeling safe enough to feel again.

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What actually makes a husband attractive? It’s not the abs, the income, or even the honey-do list. In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks the real secret: a man relentlessly pursuing God. When husbands lead from the overflow of intimacy with the Father, everything changes. Chelsey also speaks directly to wives—challenging them to surrender fully to God, support their husbands’ divine roles, and trust the Holy Spirit’s work in their marriage. This episode will reignite your vision for a holy, healthy, purpose-driven partnership rooted in God’s design—not culture’s compromise. Duration: 00:14:42

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You can’t build a thriving marriage with one foot out the door. In this episode, Chelsey calls out the 3 silent killers that sabotage commitment, connection, and the restoration God wants to do in your marriage. From casually keeping divorce on the table, to being surrounded by voices that tear down instead of build up, this is the wake-up call many couples need. If you’re serious about going all in, this episode will help you burn the boats and fight for your marriage with fresh fire.

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing all the right things” but still stuck—resentful, exhausted, numb, or disconnected—this episode is for you. Chelsey Holm goes deep into the truth no one’s saying loud enough: it’s not your mindset. It’s your nervous system. Your survival patterns. Your body remembering past pain and running the show—even when your life looks “fine” on the outside.

In this raw, faith-rooted episode, Chelsey unpacks the personal moment that exposed her own stress response and introduces the SAFE Framework—a too...

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In this raw, off-the-cuff episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks the powerful transformation that took place at the recent High Level Husband & High Level Wife couples retreat. With nine couples in the room—some on the brink of divorce and others just drifting—walls came down, vulnerability took center stage, and marriages were reoriented around God’s mission. Chelsey shares what it looks like to stop painting over a crumbling foundation and instead let the Holy Spirit be the wrecking ball.

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This one’s for the wife who’s striving, surviving, and secretly wondering if she’s the problem. You’re doing all the things—reading the books, saying the prayers, holding it together—and still feeling lost, tired, and unseen.

In this episode, I want you to know:
 I see you. I get it. I’ve been there.

But I love you too much to leave you there.

We’re talking about what it means to move from self-reliance to surrender, from high-functioning anxiety to holy peace. Be...

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You can’t pray for peace while living in chaos.

This episode isn’t just for wives—it’s for both of you. For the successful but emotionally immature husband who thinks leading means controlling, and for the broken wife who’s been stuck in survival, trying to hold it all together.

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For a long time, I believed if I could just be what he wanted—fun enough, relaxed enough, “cool wife” enough—we’d feel connected again.

So I performed.
 I drank when I didn’t want to.
 Went places that broke my heart.
 Said yes when my nervous system was screaming no.

I was surviving, not living.
 And it created a false sense of connection that left me buried in shame and exhaustion.

In this episode, I’m getting real about:

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After a long pause and a whole lot of growth, I’m back behind the mic—this time with more fire, more freedom, and a whole new focus.

In this first episode of the new season of The Chelsey Holm Podcast, I’m sharing why I stepped away, what’s been stirring in my heart, and where God’s leading this next chapter of conversations. Spoiler alert: we’re going deep—into marriage, motherhood, identity, nervous system healing, real intimacy, and faith-rooted restoration.

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In this episode, Chelsey shares insights from her coaching practice, focusing on the transformative power of inner child work and emotional healing. She discusses the importance of addressing root issues rather than just symptoms, the challenges of navigating personal growth in a society that favors instant gratification, and the courage required to face one's inner struggles. Chelsey emphasizes the role of faith and the Holy Spirit in the healing process and invites listeners to consider joining her High Level Wife program for deeper personal development.

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In this episode, Chelsey discusses the barriers that hinder wives from flourishing in their marriages. She identifies three main barriers: misaligned priorities, unresolved inner work, and cultural noise. Chelsey emphasizes the importance of recognizing these barriers, aligning priorities according to biblical principles, and addressing past wounds to foster growth. She encourages listeners to invite the Holy Spirit into their transformation journey and commit to consistent actions that lead to significant changes in their lives and marriages.

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In this episode, Chelsey Holm explores the concept of being a high level wife, emphasizing the importance of personal authority, emotional control, and the impact of marriage on family dynamics. She shares her personal journey and the challenges faced in her marriage, highlighting the need for intentional actions and community support to thrive as a high level wife.

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In this episode, Chelsey Holm shares her personal journey of growth and transformation, emphasizing the importance of spiritual alignment and the creation of safe spaces for women to share their struggles. She discusses the significance of understanding the nervous system in emotional healing and how this knowledge can empower women in their relationships and personal lives.

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In this conversation, Chelsey Holm shares her transformative journey guided by faith, focusing on personal growth, coaching, and the importance of nurturing relationships, particularly in marriage. She discusses the shift from self-reliance to divine fulfillment, the power of community, and the significance of prioritizing relationships. Chelsey emphasizes that true happiness comes from a deep relationship with God and that marriages can be redeemed through faith and intentional effort.

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In this conversation, Chelsey Holm shares her journey of personal growth, self-worth, and faith. She uses the metaphor of gardening to illustrate her struggles with self-care and the importance of nurturing oneself. Chelsey discusses the subconscious decisions we make based on our perceived worth and how these choices impact our lives. She emphasizes the need to confront fears that hold us back from growth and the importance of trusting God's plan during life transitions. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to find fulfillment through a deeper understanding of their worth in God's eyes.

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In this conversation, Chelsey Holm shares her transformative journey of paying off $50,000 in debt and the deeper emotional and spiritual insights she gained along the way. She discusses the impact of inner beliefs on relationships, the importance of vulnerability, and how her faith in God has guided her personal growth. Chelsey emphasizes the need for authenticity, community support, and the ability to navigate challenges as opportunities for growth. She invites listeners to join her in a new program focused on embodiment and personal development, highlighting the importance of living from a place of...

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In this conversation, Chelsey Holm emphasizes the importance of rejecting the need for permission in various aspects of life. She discusses how seeking validation from others can silence one's true voice and hinder authentic self-expression. By embracing one's identity and purpose, individuals can live abundantly and impact others positively. The conversation explores themes of self-doubt, the power of presence in worship, and the necessity of inner work to achieve lasting fulfillment and eternal impact.

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In this conversation, Chelsey Holm explores the complexities of personal growth, self-reliance, and spiritual discernment in the context of entrepreneurship. She reflects on her journey of self-discovery, the importance of aligning with God's will, and the potential pitfalls of new age practices. Chelsey emphasizes the need for emotional awareness, the significance of seeking godly counsel, and the responsibility of guarding against spiritual influences, especially as a parent.

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