IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
By: Ben Pugh
Language: en-us
Categories: Kids, Family, Parenting, Education, Self Improvement, Society, Culture
This podcast will help parents of teens keep life's struggles as a teen, and as a parent of a teen, in perspective. Parents will learn real tools to help them help their teens. They will learn how to build a rock solid relationship with their teen so they will have a powerful impact and a positive influence on their teen's life.
Episodes
The Hidden Cost of Controlling Your Teen
Jan 08, 2026"Send Ben a text"
Do you ever feel like the harder you push, the more your teen pulls away?
You’re trying to help—but it keeps turning into lectures, power struggles, or shutdowns.
In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective, Ben speaks directly to dads who feel stuck between caring deeply and controlling too much. Using simple sports coaching examples, he explains why control creates short-term compliance—but long-term problems.
You’ll learn how to shift from fixing and forcing to coaching and supporting.
This isn’t about being...
Why Your New Year’s Goals Fail Every Time
Jan 01, 2026"Send Ben a text"
Every January, parents set big goals.
And every February, most of those goals are gone.
In this episode, Ben explains why New Year’s goals fail every time—and what actually works instead.
The problem isn’t willpower.
It’s not motivation.
And it’s not that you’re doing something wrong.
Most people start with what they want to do.
Real change starts with who you want to be.
You’ll learn why identity matters more than goals, why h...
Duration: 00:20:36What A Christmas Carol Teaches About Parenting Teens
Dec 25, 2025"Send Ben a text"
What if your teen isn’t the problem?
In this Christmas episode, Ben shares a powerful lesson from A Christmas Carol. Scrooge wasn’t a bad man—he was a wounded one. The same is often true for parents. When teens trigger us, it’s usually a sign that there’s healing work to do inside ourselves.
This episode will help you parent with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—starting with you.
Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?
Discover the hidden patterns that are kee...
Duration: 00:26:50Let Go of Holiday Chaos by Building Better Traditions
Dec 18, 2025"Send Ben a text"
The holidays can feel busy, loud, and stressful — especially when you’re parenting teens. Many parents try to fix this by setting big goals or New Year’s resolutions, but those don’t usually last.
In this episode, Ben Pugh shares a better way.
Instead of chasing goals, Ben talks about building simple traditions and habits that help you become the parent and person you want to be. These traditions aren’t about forcing family fun or controlling your teen. They’re about creating more calm, meaning, and peace —...
Duration: 00:27:40Your Teen Can Hate You… and You Can Still Have a Great Relationship
Dec 10, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them.
Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something they both share. But that’s not how it works. You have your own relationship with your teen, and your teen has their own relationship with you—and they’re not the same.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why your teen’s thoughts and feelings are NOT your job
• Why trying to make your teen like you actu...
The Parenting Update You Didn’t Know You Needed — Until Now
Dec 04, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why parents get stuck repeating the same patterns even when they’re trying to “do better,” and how a surprising back injury (and some AI wisdom) revealed the deeper truth about how to change.
You’ll learn why your old emotional patterns keep pulling you back, how to spot the warning signs of a parenting “flare-up,” and the one update that instantly improves how you show up with y...
Duration: 00:44:25The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your Thanksgiving
Nov 27, 2025"Send Ben a text"
The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving is amazing… until it’s not.
Family drama. Stress. That one uncle. The comments you wish you didn’t hear.
But what if ONE mindset shift could help you enjoy the day instead of surviving it?
In this quick Thanksgiving special, Ben and Cortni talk about the real secret to gratitude — not the cheesy, forced kind, but the kind that changes your emotions fast.
Inside, you’ll learn:
Why gratitude is a choice (not a feelin... Duration: 00:18:43How to Be the Parent Your Teen Actually Learns From
Nov 20, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Identity is your hidden superpower as a parent.
In this episode, Ben shares a powerful story from the football field about getting out of the victim mindset, redefining his identity, and modeling the exact behavior he wanted to see in his players — and how the same principle can transform your parenting.
You'll learn why your teen doesn’t need a perfect parent… just one who leads with connection, clarity, and consistency.
If you’ve been feeling stuck or unsure how to help your teen, this episode will help you...
Duration: 00:24:29How to Motivate Your Teen Without Pushing Them
Nov 13, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Ever tried to push your teen to change… only to have them push right back? You’re not alone.
In this episode, Ben breaks down why trying to force your teen to change almost always backfires—and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop pushing, start leading, and model the kind of growth you actually want to see in your teen.
Ben shares real-life examples (including a story about a stubborn horse) to help you see how pressure creates resistance, and how leadership creates inspiration.
If you...
Duration: 00:22:36When Your Teen “Stops Caring”… Why That’s Actually a Win
Nov 06, 2025"Send Ben a text"
When your teen suddenly “stops caring” — about school, sports, church, or even family — it can feel like everything’s falling apart.
Maybe they used to try hard, follow rules, and keep you happy.
Now, they’re unmotivated, moody, or even defiant.
Most parents panic at this point.
But what if your teen’s “not caring” isn’t a breakdown… it’s actually a breakthrough?
In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack why your teen pulling back might mean they’re finally learning to think for themselves — and why that’s a good thing. Yo...
Duration: 00:36:15How to Help Your Teen Find Their Spark
Oct 30, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Every teen has a spark inside them—something that makes them come alive.
But too often, they get lost trying to be who the world wants them to be.
In this episode, I talk with my good friend Arthur C. Woods, author of SPARK for Emerging Leaders. He shares simple ways parents can help their teens discover who they want to be, not just what they want to do.
We talk about:
👉 Why purpose matters more than perfection
👉 How to help your teen take ownership o...
You’re Not in Control of Your Teen (and That’s the Best News Ever)
Oct 23, 2025"Send Ben a text"
You’re not in control of your teen—and that’s actually the best news ever.
In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into what happens when parents try to control their teens and why it almost always backfires. Drawing from the book Leadership and Self-Deception, they unpack the idea of “being in the box” and how it shows up in family life.
You’ll hear real stories about morning workouts, teenage excuses, and even tacos—all tied to one powerful truth: you can’t control your teen, but you ca...
Duration: 00:29:04The Thing That Is Secretly Wrecking Your Relationship with Your Teen
Oct 16, 2025"Send Ben a text"
You love your teen. You try to help. You want things to get better.
But what if you’re accidentally doing something that’s quietly sabotaging your connection?
In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack one of the most powerful ideas from Leadership and Self-Deception—the hidden mindset that keeps parents and teens stuck in conflict, frustration, and blame.
You’ll learn:
👉 What “being in the box” really means (and how it shows up in your family)
👉 Why trying to “fix” your teen often makes things worse
👉 The self-dec...
Stop Trying to Fix Your Teen — Fix This Instead
Oct 09, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Most parents secretly wish their teen would just change — listen more, argue less, clean up, do homework, be respectful, etc.
But here’s the truth:
👉 You can’t change your teen.
👉 You can only change you.
In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack one of the most powerful parenting principles of all time — “Be the change you want to see.”
You’ll learn:
Why trying to “fix” your teen backfires every timeHow to stop giving away your powerThe difference between victim and hero parentingWhy awarene... Duration: 00:36:54Why Your Teen’s Confidence Crumbles (and How to Fix It)
Oct 02, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, I break down the difference between false confidence—the kind that’s tied to wins, grades, or outside approval—and foundational confidence—the kind built on preparation, effort, and real experience.
Many teens (and parents) ride the emotional rollercoaster of false confidence. One good play or test score, and they’re on top of the world. One mistake, and it all crashes down. The problem? Mindset and “positive thinking” alone can’t hold up under pressure.
True, lasting confidence comes from stacking bricks—daily act...
Duration: 00:23:24Why ‘Good vs. Bad Parenting’ Is a Dangerous Myth
Sep 25, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you ever wonder if you’re a “good” parent… or fear that you might be a “bad” one? You’re not alone. Many parents live under the weight of these labels, and it can feel heavy and confusing.
In this episode, Ben Pugh explains why “good vs. bad parenting” is a dangerous myth. These labels pull you into comparison, chasing approval, and trying to prove yourself to others. The truth is, parenting isn’t about being “good” or “bad.” It’s about being intentional, living your values, and connecting with your teen.
You’ll learn...
Duration: 00:22:45This is the ONE Thing to Help Your Teen With Resilience
Sep 18, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Is your teen struggling? Do you ever wonder how to help them bounce back?
In this episode, I share the ONE thing that makes the biggest difference in building resilience. You’ll hear real stories from my own life, from parents I’ve worked with, and from teens who have faced tough moments.
We’ll talk about:
Why struggle is not failure but growthHow your response shapes your teen’s resilienceThe simple shift that helps your teen handle hard thingsYou don’t have to fix your teen. You...
Duration: 00:34:11From Phillies Karen to Parenting Power: The Lesson Everyone Missed
Sep 11, 2025"Send Ben a text"
What does a viral “Phillies Karen” baseball moment have to do with your parenting? More than you think.
In this episode, I break down the Phillies Karen story—not to pile on or cancel—but to show you how outrage, mob mentality, and cancel culture are distractions that rob you of real parenting power.
You’ll learn:
Why cancel culture is contagious (and so is compassion)How herd mentality creeps into your parenting without you realizingWhat the Phillies dad’s choice actually teaches us about conflict, love, and characterSim... Duration: 00:25:39Your Teen Sees the Real You—So Why Hide Behind Fake Parenting?
Sep 04, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Your teen knows when you’re being real… and when you’re not.
In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about “fake parenting” and why it pushes teens away. Teens don’t need a perfect parent. They need the real you.
You’ll learn:
Why fake parenting kills connectionHow to create a 10-word vision statement to guide youWhy focusing on what you want works better than focusing on what you don’t wantA simple gratitude hack that makes parenting easierWhen you show up as your true self, your teen...
Duration: 00:35:57How to Simplify Parenting by Fixing Just Two Problems
Aug 28, 2025"Send Ben a text"
How to Simplify Parenting by Fixing Only Two Problems
Parenting often feels overwhelming—like you’ve got 117 things to fix at once. But what if the secret to real change wasn’t fixing everything… but focusing on just two?
In this episode, Ben shares how a lesson from football and his time as a high school principal transformed into a powerful parenting principle. You’ll learn how to:
Identify the two core problems driving most of the chaos at homeStop wasting energy trying to fix all 117 little iss... Duration: 00:31:28Stop Parenting for Approval—Your Teen Needs the Real You
Aug 21, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you ever catch yourself parenting for the approval of others—your neighbors, your parents, or even your teen? The truth is, people-pleasing doesn’t build connection. It creates distance.
In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack why parents often hide behind “masks” of who they think they should be—and how that keeps them from real connection with their teens. You’ll hear powerful stories from sports, parenting, and coaching that reveal why authenticity always wins.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
Why people-pleasing hurts your rel... Duration: 00:28:47Busy But Not Burned Out: Why Overwhelm Is Optional
Aug 14, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you ever feel like you’re running on empty?
Like life is just go, go, go — and you’re burning out?
In this episode, Ben shares how he went from stressed and overwhelmed to calm and confident. You’ll learn why overwhelm is a choice, and how to stop wearing busyness like a badge of honor.
Get ready for simple tips that will help you slow down, be present, and enjoy your life — even when it’s full.
🎧 Listen now and start feeling less stressed today.
...
Duration: 00:27:10One Thing Will Help Your Teen Perform Under Pressure
Aug 07, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Is your teen nervous when it really matters? Do they freeze, overthink, or doubt themselves when the pressure’s on?
In this episode, I’ll share the one powerful thing that can help your teen show up with confidence — even in high-stress moments. Whether they’re an athlete, artist, or academic, this tool will help them stop focusing on what they can’t control and start performing like the person they want to be.
This one shift changed everything for a teen athlete I coach. And it can help your teen...
Duration: 00:24:00How to Change Your Teen with This One Trick
Jul 31, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Is your teen yelling, arguing, or just pushing all your buttons?
In this episode, I’ll show you the one trick that can change everything: modeling the behavior you want to see.
You’ll learn how to:
Stop mirroring your teen’s bad behaviorEscape the controlling parent trapLead with calm, confidence, and purposeTurn blowups into powerful teaching momentsYou don’t need to be perfect—you just need to show up with intention. Let’s dive in.
Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?
Di...
Duration: 00:25:31Raising Brave Kids in an Anxious World
Jul 24, 2025"Send Ben a text"
What do you do when your child is too scared to go down the big slide?
In this fun episode, I talk with my 10-year-old son about a moment when he felt nervous—and how he learned to be brave. We share a simple trick his mom taught him that helped him face his fear and turn anxiety into excitement.
You’ll hear real stories, lots of laughs, and a powerful lesson you can use with your own kids.
🎧 You’ll learn:
Why anxiety and excitement feel the... Duration: 00:14:263 Books That Will Transform the Way You Parent
Jul 17, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about 3 powerful books that changed the way they parent. These books helped them let go of control, build better relationships, and become the parents they want to be.
Ben shares why he avoided one of the books at first—and how it ended up being a game-changer. Cortni tells stories about how these books helped her stop stressing and start showing up with love.
You’ll learn:
How to stop trying to control your teenWhy it’s never too late to change... Duration: 00:35:533 Simple Steps to Break Free from Distraction
Jul 10, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Are you too distracted to parent the way you want to?
In today’s episode, we’re talking about something that’s affecting all of us—parents, teens, and even younger kids: distraction. From endless scrolling to binge-watching, the world is louder than ever. And it’s keeping you from being the parent you want to be.
But here’s the good news—there’s a way out.
I’ll share 3 simple steps to help you break free from distraction and start building the kind of discipline that brings connec...
Duration: 00:30:295 tips for Better Communication with Your Teen
Jul 03, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Tired of getting one-word answers or total silence from your teen? You're not alone. In this episode, Ben and Cortni share five simple tips that will help you open up real conversations and build a stronger connection with your teen—without pushing, prying, or lecturing.
Whether your teen is super chatty or totally closed off, this episode gives you tools to build trust and real connection.
What You’ll Learn:
✔️ What NOT to do when trying to talk to your teen
✔️ How to spot the topics your...
Raising Teens in the Age of AI: Friend or Foe?
Jun 26, 2025"Send Ben a text"
AI is everywhere—your teen’s phone, their schoolwork, even their social life. But is it helping them grow... or making things harder?
In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive into how artificial intelligence is shaping the way teens think, learn, and connect—and what that means for you as a parent.
Is AI your parenting ally or your biggest challenge yet?
🎧 Tune in to learn:
The surprising ways teens are already using AI (for better or worse)Why AI isn't the real problem—and what isHow to he... Duration: 00:37:01One Coaching Call Changed My Life—No Joke
Jun 19, 2025"Send Ben a text"
When Howie came home early from his mission, he felt lost, embarrassed, and stuck in a victim mindset. But everything started to shift after just one coaching call. In this episode, Howie shares his powerful story of learning to own his choices, escape the shame spiral, and take back control of his life.
Whether you're a parent of a teen who's struggling—or a young adult trying to figure life out—this episode will help you see how much can change when you stop playing the victim and start leading your life...
Duration: 00:38:18Why Real Transformation Starts Within—Not Out There
Jun 12, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Are you tired of trying to fix your teen—or anyone else in your life? In this episode, Ben Pugh and fellow coach Marika Humphreys share a powerful truth: real transformation doesn’t happen “out there.” It starts inside YOU.
Through real stories and personal examples, they explore why peace, confidence, and clarity come when you stop managing others and start becoming the parent, partner, or person you want to be.
Whether you're parenting a teen, caring for a loved one, or simply trying to grow, this episode will help you...
Duration: 00:53:50Is AI in the Classroom a Threat or Tool?
Jun 05, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Should we ban AI in schools, or teach our teens how to use it? In this episode, I share why banning AI is short-sighted and how you can help your teen use it responsibly, ethically, and safely.
🎧 You’ll Learn:
Why banning AI hurts more than it helpsHow AI is like the modern calculator3 ways to help your teen use AI wiselyWhat AI means for your teen’s future job👨👩👧👦 Be the guide, not the gatekeeper.
Let’s talk about raising confident, tech-savvy teens.
🔗 Book a free consult: benpughcoa...
Duration: 00:35:12Stop Lying to Yourself With Your "Good Reasons"
May 29, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you ever say things like, “I don’t have time,” or “I’m too tired”? These sound like good reasons… but they might just be excuses.
In this episode, I talk about how we lie to ourselves with “good reasons” and how that keeps us stuck. I share a real story about a teen who came home early from a mission and felt like he had to explain why. You’ll learn how to stop making excuses, take control, and show your teen how to do the same.
We’ll also talk abou...
Duration: 00:25:23How to Break Free from the Victim Mindset
May 22, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you ever feel stuck, like life is just happening to you? In this episode, we talk about the victim mindset—what it is, how to spot it, and how to break free from it.
You’ll learn simple ways to take control of your thoughts, shift your mindset, and be the kind of parent your teen needs. We share real stories, helpful tips, and easy tools you can start using today.
If you’re tired of blaming, complaining, or feeling stuck, this episode will help you feel more powerf...
Duration: 00:31:15Is Your Teen Out of Control? There’s Still Hope
May 15, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you feel like your teen is out of control? Are they angry, acting out, or even kicked out of school?
In this episode, I answer a message from a listener named Jodi. She’s a therapist who is worried about her niece’s 13-year-old son. He has ADHD and ODD and was just expelled from school. Now the family is thinking about sending him to a troubled youth camp.
I’ve been there. I got suspended from school as a teen — and it didn’t ruin my life. I share my...
Duration: 00:44:43Forget Flowers—This Is the Gift Moms Really Need
May 08, 2025"Send Ben a text"
This special Mother’s Day episode is all about giving yourself a gift that matters: self-love. Many moms feel guilty and think they’re not doing enough. But what if the best gift this year is kindness to yourself?
Ben talks about how to stop the negative self-talk, how to feel better about being a mom, and how to show yourself the unconditional love you deserve. You’ll also hear a fun, simple idea for a Mother’s Day gift...
Duration: 00:27:56Why We’re Addicted to Being Anxious
May 01, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Why are we so addicted to being anxious? In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into how anxiety has become a crutch for so many of us. They talk about why we let worry take over our lives and how to stop it from controlling us.
You’ll learn about secondary gain—the hidden way anxiety gives us a "benefit"—and why it keeps us stuck. Ben shares personal stories about tough love, coaching, and how embracing discomfort can help us grow stronger. Cortni gives tips on parenting and te...
Duration: 00:25:55Your Teen Doesn’t Actually Hate You
Apr 24, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Does it feel like your teen wants nothing to do with you? The truth is, they don’t hate you—they actually want to connect with you, even if they don’t show it! In this episode, we dive into why teens act distant, how parents can misread their behavior, and the simple changes you can make to build a stronger bond.
We’ll talk about how your beliefs about your teen might be affecting your relationship and why connecting through shared values is so important. You’ll also hear real-life examples...
Duration: 00:23:47Secrets To Thriving With Independent Teens
Apr 17, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you have a teen who wants to do things their own way? You’re not alone! In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about what to do when your teen becomes more independent and starts making choices you don’t always agree with.
You’ll learn:
How to set healthy rules and boundariesWhy it’s okay for your teen to have different values than youWays to stay calm and loving, even during tough timesHow to connect with your teen, even if they push backBen shares real stories, fun mome...
Duration: 00:29:20Help! My Teen Made a Big Mistake
Apr 10, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Help! My teen made a big mistake! What now?
In this episode, I’m answering a heartfelt question from a parent who feels stuck after their teen made a big mess of things. If you’ve ever worried that your family is falling apart, this one’s for you.
We’ll talk about how to handle tough teen choices, what to do when parenting feels hopeless, and how YOU can lead your family toward growth and healing. Mistakes don’t have to be the end of the story—they can be the s...
Duration: 00:30:435 Teen Challenges and How to Solve Them
Apr 03, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we talk about 5 common challenges teens face and how to help them overcome these struggles. From trying to fit in to dealing with distractions, we share simple tips and solutions that can make a big difference.
You’ll learn how to:
Help teens focus on what matters most.Build discipline instead of chasing motivation.Overcome excuses and take action.Parents, this episode will help you connect with your teen and support them in becoming their best selves. Teens, if you’re listening, these tips can help you...
Duration: 00:30:35Unlock Your Teen’s Hidden Motivation
Mar 27, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Is your teen struggling to stay motivated? You’re not alone! In this episode, we explore how to unlock your teen’s hidden motivation. 🎙️
Learn why their motivation is outside your control, how your own thoughts and actions can inspire them, and practical tips to help them find their drive. We’ll also dive into using positive incentives, understanding their values, and letting them learn from natural consequences.
Plus, we’ll share fun stories, simple advice, and ideas to make parenting more enjoyable for you and your teen. If you’ve ever w...
Duration: 00:24:08Simple Ways to Boost Teen Confidence
Mar 20, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Helping your teen feel more confident can be tough, but it’s not impossible! In this episode, we talk about simple ways to boost teen confidence.
We’ll share three common mistakes parents make that can hurt their teen's confidence—like fixing their problems, comparing them to others, or trying to control their decisions. Then, we’ll give you tips on how to empower your teen, believe in them, and help them build confidence on their own.
Whether your teen struggles with school, friendships, or just believing in themselves, this epi...
Duration: 00:25:36How to Know if My Teen Needs Coaching
Mar 13, 2025"Send Ben a text"
How do you know if your teen needs coaching? What if it’s actually YOU that could benefit the most? In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive into how to tell who in your family might need extra support and why starting with yourself can make the biggest difference.
We’ll talk about:
Signs your teen might need coaching.Why coaching only works when it’s wanted.How your own growth can inspire your family.Parenting on the same team vs. the same page.Ben also shares tips on settin...
Duration: 00:30:01The Secret Your Teen Won't Admit: More Connection
Mar 06, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Does it feel like your teen doesn’t want you around? In this episode, Ben Pugh reveals a surprising truth: your teen actually wants more connection with you! Even when they push you away or say hurtful things, they’re secretly craving your love and attention.
Ben explains why teens act this way, how it’s tied to their development, and what you can do to build a stronger relationship. Say goodbye to the myth that teens hate their parents and learn simple ways to reconnect today.
In this episod...
Duration: 00:12:47How 3 Decisions Improved My Parenting Forever
Feb 27, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, I’m sharing three decisions that completely changed the way I parent. These simple choices helped me build a stronger relationship with my teen, let go of stress, and become the parent I’ve always wanted to be.
You’ll hear about:
The #1 book that changed my perspective on parenting.Why letting go of control can actually help your teen.How creating a parenting identity makes parenting easier.Parenting doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Tune in to learn how these three decisions can make parenting simpler...
Duration: 00:22:39How to Empower Your Teen Effectively
Feb 20, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Are you trying to empower your teen but feel like you’re losing control as a parent? In this episode, Ben Pugh and co-host Cortni talk about how to empower your teen effectively while keeping your own power.
We’ll share simple tips and real-life examples to help you:
Ask the right questions without overthinking.Handle “I don’t know” and “I don’t care” responses.Let your teen make decisions and learn from their mistakes.Stay confident as a parent and model the behavior you want to see.Parenting teens...
Duration: 00:31:02How to Create a 10-Word Vision Statement
Feb 13, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we’ll teach you how to create a 10-word vision statement to guide your parenting! A vision statement helps you stay focused on being the parent you want to be, even during tough times.
Join Ben and his co-host, Cortni, as they break down the simple steps to create your vision statement. You’ll learn how to reflect on your values, question your parenting identity, and build stronger connections with your teen.
Ben and Cortni also share real-life stories, tips, and tools, including how quiet time (and...
Duration: 00:28:58Creating a Vision for Better Parenting
Feb 06, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Are you the parent you’ve always wanted to be? In this episode, Cortni and I talk about how to create a clear vision for better parenting. We share personal stories, lessons from our own childhoods, and tips to help you reconnect with your parenting goals.
Learn about the power of a 10-word vision statement—a simple tool that can guide your parenting, help you avoid common struggles, and strengthen your connection with your kids. Whether you want more structure, better communication, or just a fresh start, this episode will give you...
Duration: 00:11:35Let Go: Focus on What You Can Control
Jan 30, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Do you sometimes feel stressed about things you can't change as a parent? In this episode, Ben Pugh and Cortni talk about how to feel better by focusing on the things you can actually do something about. They share simple tips and real stories from other parents who learned to worry less.
You'll hear about parents just like you who found ways to have better relationships with their teens. Ben and Cortni explain how letting go of things you can't control can make parenting feel much easier.
In this...
Duration: 00:30:01Shifting Perspectives for Better Parenting
Jan 23, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we explore how shifting your perspective can transform your parenting experience. Using a real-life example from a high school basketball game, I dive into the difference between perception and perspective—and how both affect the way we see and interpret our teen’s behavior.
Learn how emotional attachments, biases, and desired outcomes shape what we see and how we respond. I’ll share simple strategies to question your perception, model empathy, and strengthen your connection with your teen.
Discover how seeing the world through a clearer lens c...
Duration: 00:21:50Want Responsible Teens? It All Starts With You
Jan 16, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, Ben discusses the critical role parents play in teaching responsibility to their teenagers through personal example. He explores the contrast between victim and hero mindsets, explains why many parents struggle with expecting more responsibility from their teens than they demonstrate themselves, and provides practical strategies for creating a culture of accountability at home. Learn how to break free from the blame game and empower your teens by modeling the responsible behavior you want to see in them. Ben shares personal experiences, recommended books, and actionable steps to help parents become...
Duration: 00:19:47Rewriting Your Story with Marci Owen
Jan 09, 2025"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, Ben talks with Marci Owen about how our minds get programmed and how we can change that programming. Here are the key points they discuss:
Main Topics:
How past experiences shape how we think about ourselvesWhy it's important to notice patterns in how we act and thinkWays to change unhelpful beliefs about ourselvesThe power of being kind to ourselves when we make mistakesKey Stories and Examples:
Marci shares her story about struggling with math and how it affected her confidenceBen talks about learning to... Duration: 00:48:54IMPACT Interview: Self-Love and Subconscious Patterns with Marci Owen
Jan 02, 2025"Send Ben a text"
Join me for an insightful conversation with Marci, an advanced certified trauma-informed life coach who specializes in helping Christian moms cultivate self-love and confidence. In this powerful episode, we explore how early life experiences shape our behaviors and discuss practical strategies for personal growth.
We'll dive into:
• Why self-love isn't selfish - it's essential for effective parenting
• How subconscious patterns affect our daily lives and relationships
• The impact of early life experiences on our nervous system
• Ways to recognize and change limiting coping mechanisms
• The importance of self-awarene...
Stop Holding Yourself Back
Dec 25, 2024"Send Ben a text"
As we get close to the end of 2024, it's time to think about our lives and ask ourselves: are we stopping ourselves from being the best we can be? In this episode, we talk about how our goals and dreams are all connected, and how the choices we make in one part of life can change other parts too.
We'll talk about:
• Seeing the places in your life where you might be holding yourself back
• How goals and dreams that seem different are actually connected
• The power of being the...
Let's Make Parenting Teens Simple with Connection and Empowerment
Dec 19, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you tired of complicated parenting advice that leaves you feeling overwhelmed? In this eye-opening episode, we explore how to simplify your approach to parenting teens by focusing on two essential elements: connection and empowerment.
Despite being more "connected" through social media than ever before, many teens feel deeply lonely and disconnected from their parents. Learn why trying to control everything in your teen's life might be pushing them away, and discover simple strategies to build authentic connections with your teen.
You'll learn:
• Why complicated parenting strategies often fai...
4 Principles for Parenting Teens
Dec 12, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we dive into the four key principles of effective parenting that can help you navigate the challenges of communicating with your teen.
We explore detaching from your teen's outcomes, opening communication, being willing to roll with the punches, and letting your teen be responsible for their own consequences.
Learn how to create a safe space for your teen to discuss their actions, set clear boundaries, and empower them to make better choices.
Tune in for practical strategies to implement these principles and foster a...
Help! My Teen Refuses to Go to School
Dec 05, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we talk about a tough problem many parents face: when a teen refuses to go to school. We look at a question from a mom in a parenting Facebook group. She shares her struggle with her 15-year-old son, who won't go to school and gets angry when she takes away his phone.
As parents, it's easy to feel like we can't do anything in these situations. But the key is to focus on what we can control, not on trying to change our teens. We talk about using...
Duration: 00:23:30IMPACT of Life Coaching: A Teen's Journey
Nov 28, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this special Thanksgiving episode, we're joined by Ben Stefan, a former teen client who shares his powerful journey with life coaching. Over the past five years, Ben has experienced significant improvements in his emotional well-being, relationships with family, academics, and sports. He discusses specific tools and mindset shifts that have been game-changers, such as focusing on what's within his control and avoiding the victim mentality. Tune in to hear how life coaching has made a lasting impact on Ben's life and gain insights on fostering positive relationships with your teen.
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The BIGGEST Mistake Parents of Teens Make
Nov 21, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Do you want to know the biggest mistake parents of teens make? It might surprise you! Many parents think it's things like yelling at their teen, trying to control them, or being too friendly. But the biggest mistake is actually trying to change their teen instead of focusing on being the kind of parent they want to be.
In this podcast, we talk about how to be the parent of your dreams. First, you need to know what kind of parent you want to be. Then, you should do a daily...
Duration: 00:17:10The Wheel of Life: A Simple Tool for Better Parenting
Nov 14, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Life with teens is like a constantly turning wheel - sometimes you're on top, sometimes you're underneath. In this powerful episode, learn how to use these natural ups and downs to become a better parent.
You'll discover:
• Why some moments with your teen feel easy while others feel impossible
• How to use the good moments to prepare for the challenging ones
• A simple way to practice being your best parenting self
• How to stay calm when parenting gets tough
• Why your teen's behavior isn't always about you
Plus...
Duration: 00:18:43How to do a Daily Parenting Debrief
Nov 07, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Want to become a better parent? Just like athletes watch game tapes to improve, parents can look back at their parenting moments to get better too! In this eye-opening episode, we'll introduce you to a powerful tool called the 'parent debrief.'
We'll explore:
• What a parent debrief is and why every parent needs one
• Two different ways to do a debrief (by yourself or with your teen)
• How to turn tough parenting moments into opportunities for growth
• Ways to strengthen your relationship with your teen
• Common mistakes...
How to Reset your Parenting Thermostat
Oct 31, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Think of your parenting style like a thermostat - it's set to run at a certain temperature no matter what. In this eye-opening episode, we explore how these 'parenting presets' work and, more importantly, how to change them.
We'll cover:
• What parenting presets are (using a simple thermostat example)
• How to spot your own parenting patterns
• Four simple steps to change your parenting auto-pilot:
Perfect for parents who find themselve...
Duration: 00:23:00The Problem with “I KNOW!”
Oct 24, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Ever told someone 'I know, I know' when they try to help you? We all do it - but this simple phrase might be stopping us from becoming better parents.
In this eye-opening episode, we talk about:
• What happens when we think we already know everything
• How to spot when we're stuck in the 'I know' trap
• Why being curious is better than being sure
• Simple ways to try new parenting ideas
• The big difference between knowing something and actually doing it
Using real stories and sim...
Duration: 00:24:01Blame Culture and How to Foster Responsibility
Oct 17, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the pervasive blame culture and its detrimental effects on personal growth and relationships. Through two compelling football stories, we explore how blame, complaining, and making excuses can lead to a disempowering victim mentality.
Key points covered:
The impact of blame culture on team dynamics and personal performanceIdentifying signs of the victim mentalityThe importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and outcomesHow to empower others by focusing on what's within their controlPractical strategies for coaching teens to be responsible and proactiveThe power of... Duration: 00:22:39Parenting and "Self-Deception" - A book review
Oct 10, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this eye-opening episode, Ben introduces the game-changing book "Leadership and Self-Deception" and explains why it's his top recommendation for parents struggling with their teens.
Discover:
Why this book is a must-read for anyone seeking to improve family relationshipsThe concept of "being in the box" and how it affects your interactions with your teenHow self-deception can sabotage your parenting efforts without you realizing itReal-life examples of how this book has transformed relationships, including Ben's personal experienceAn alternative book recommendation, "The Anatomy of Peace," for those who prefer a different approachThe... Duration: 00:18:24You are the Secret Ingredient
Oct 03, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this empowering episode, Ben challenges the widespread belief that there's a magical, external solution to parenting struggles. Discover why you already possess the wisdom and strength to be the parent your teen needs.
Learn about:
The societal conditioning that leads parents to seek external solutionsWhy relying on "experts" can sometimes undermine your parental instinctsThe power of recognizing yourself as the hero in your parenting journeyReal-life examples of parents tapping into their inner wisdomStrategies for trusting your parenting instincts and decision-makingHow to access and utilize your unique "parenting superpowers"...
Duration: 00:14:29Stop Shielding Your Teen from Failure
Sep 26, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common parental instinct to shield teens from failure. Discover why allowing your teen to experience setbacks is crucial for their personal growth and future success.
Learn about:
The societal pressures driving parents to protect teens from failureWhy failure is a vital component in developing resilience and life skillsThe unintended consequences of constantly "fixing" things for your teenReal-life examples of how overprotection can backfire, including a local sexting scandalStrategies for empowering your teen to face and learn from their mistakesThe... Duration: 00:17:08The Most Powerful Relationship You Can Build with Your Teen
Sep 19, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you struggling to connect with your teenager? In this insightful episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, tackles the widespread issue of parent-teen disconnection and offers a transformative approach to rebuilding your relationship.
Discover why the disconnect between parents and teens is so common and learn about:
The societal and cultural factors contributing to parent-teen disconnectionWhy focusing on conflicting values widens the gap between you and your teenThe power of identifying shared values to strengthen your relationshipA step-by-step process for building Values-Based RelationshipsReal-life examples of how this approach has transformed... Duration: 00:19:02Parenting Myth: It's My Teen's Fault Our Relationship Is Bad
Sep 12, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you caught in the trap of blaming your teen for your parenting struggles? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common myth that your teen's behavior is responsible for how you parent.
Discover why this belief is not only disempowering but also prevents you from becoming the parent you aspire to be. In this episode, you'll learn:
Why blaming your teen for your parenting issues is a dead-end strategyHow to shift from reactive parenting to intentional parentingThe power of taking responsibility for your own actions... Duration: 00:09:31Stop Trying to Change Your Teen and Empower Them
Sep 05, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you frustrated by parenting advice that promises to make your teen obey or trust you? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, a former foster parent and experienced coach, challenges the myth of teen control and offers a transformative perspective on parenting.
Discover why trying to control your teen is counterproductive and learn about:
The T-Chart of Control: A simple tool to identify what's within your influenceThe Consequence Quadrant: A powerful framework for discussing outcomes with your teenReal-life examples of parents shifting from control to empowermentPractical strategies to let go of... Duration: 00:18:56Building Better Boundaries with Better Consequences
Aug 29, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you a parent struggling to set effective boundaries with your teenager? In this eye-opening podcast, Ben, a former high school principal and experienced parent coach, reveals how you can transform your approach to boundaries and consequences, leading to a more harmonious relationship with your teen.
Ben introduces a powerful tool called The Consequence Quadrant, which challenges the common misconception that consequences are all about punishment. He explains how parents often fall into the trap of relying too heavily on negative, enforced consequences, and shares a more balanced and empowering approach.<...
Duration: 00:19:57#1 Reason Parents Struggle with Teens!
Aug 22, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you feeling like you're on the "struggle bus" with your teenager? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the single most significant factor causing friction between parents and teens worldwide.
Drawing from my experience coaching parents across five continents, I reveal why traditional parenting advice often misses the mark. You'll discover:
Why focusing on changing your teen's behavior rarely worksThe surprising truth about screen time and video gamesHow to shift your perspective from controlling your teen to empowering yourselfThe power of defining your parenting identity... Duration: 00:19:467 Back to School Secrets for Parents and Teen!
Aug 15, 2024"Send Ben a text"
As the school year kicks off, are you and your teen feeling overwhelmed? In this episode, we're uncovering 7 little-known secrets that can transform your back-to-school experience. Drawing from years of experience as a parent, foster parent, and former high school principal, I'm sharing insights that have helped countless teens and families navigate the challenges of academic life.
We'll explore why school failure doesn't equal life failure, how to prioritize your relationship with your teen, and why it's crucial to be aware of pro-school bias. You'll learn about the irreplaceable role of...
Duration: 00:28:55Impact Episode Rewind: Daily Habits for Parenting Success
Aug 08, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this powerful episode rewind, we dive into ten game-changing daily habits that can revolutionize your parenting approach and strengthen your bond with your teenager. These practical, actionable strategies will help you navigate the challenges of raising teens with confidence and purpose.
We'll explore:
Setting daily intentions to guide your parentingCommitting to genuine connection with your teenEmbracing present-moment awareness in your interactionsManaging your mindset for better parenting outcomesCultivating trust in yourself, your teen, and the parenting processLetting go of what you can't control to focus on what you canThe importance... Duration: 00:18:28How to BE the Change You Want to See in Your Teen!
Aug 01, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this eye-opening episode, we challenge the common parenting instinct to fix, change, or control our teens. Instead, we explore a transformative approach that puts the power of change right where it belongs - with you.
We'll dive into:
• Why trying to fix others, especially your teen, backfires
• The cultural trap of attempting to control others
• How shifting your attention to self-improvement can transform your family dynamics
• The profound impact of 'being the change you want to see'
• Real-life examples of how personal growth catalyzes change in others<...
Generational trauma
Jul 25, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this thought-provoking episode, we challenge common misconceptions about trauma and empower you to take control of your healing journey. Discover why there's no need for 'trauma police' and how understanding trauma as programming can be a game-changer.
We'll explore:
• The personal nature of trauma and why comparisons are futile
• Two crucial aspects of trauma that are often overlooked
• How generational trauma manifests in everyday life
• The empowering perspective of viewing trauma as programming
• Why YOU are the key to healing your own trauma
Learn why...
Duration: 00:24:28IMPACT INTERVIEW Rewind: Let Go of What You Can't Control
Jul 18, 2024"Send Ben a text"
This week, we're turning back the clock to bring you one of our most beloved episodes. Get ready to revisit a fan favorite that had everyone talking!
Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?
Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.
Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.
Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.
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Duration: 00:49:24Attachment Decoded: What Your Teen Really Needs from You
Jul 11, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Join us as we dive deep into the often misunderstood world of attachment disorders. In this eye-opening episode, we'll separate fact from fiction and explore the real impact of attachment issues on both teens and parents.
Discover why healing your own wounds is crucial before attempting to address your teen's challenges. Learn practical strategies to navigate the complex emotions that come with parenting a child with attachment difficulties, including:
Giving your teen the benefit of the doubtFinding self-love and appreciationReprocessing past hurtsLetting go of expectationsWhether you're dealing with...
Duration: 00:36:35Simplifying Parenting: Mindset, Skillset, and Habits
Jul 04, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you a parent who feels like you're constantly overcomplicating things when it comes to raising your teenager? In this insightful podcast episode, Ben, a parenting expert and coach, shares his perspective on how to simplify your approach by focusing on three key areas: mindset, skillset, and habits.
Ben explains that parents often fall into the trap of creating elaborate rewards and punishments to control their teen's behavior, much like how workplaces implement unnecessary rules. However, he suggests that there's a better way to support your teen's growth and development.
<... Duration: 00:30:35My Teen's on My Last Nerve! Now What?
Jun 27, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you finding yourself at your wit's end with your teenage child? Do their actions and behaviors push you to the brink of frustration and disappointment? If you've ever thought, "I can't stand my teen," then this podcast episode is for you.
In this raw and honest conversation, Ben, a parent and expert in emotional intelligence, shares his personal experiences and insights on navigating the challenging emotions that come with parenting a teenager. He offers a fresh perspective on taking responsibility for your own feelings and provides practical steps to develop...
Duration: 00:26:053 Secrets to Make Summer Funner!
Jun 20, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you ready to make this summer the most unforgettable one yet for you and your teen? In this exciting episode, join Ben as he shares his top tips and strategies for creating a summer filled with laughter, adventure, and bonding experiences that will leave a lasting impact on your teen's life.
Discover the power of a fun summer and how it can help your teen build confidence, define their identity, and forge meaningful relationships. From empowering your teen to take charge of their own adventures to stepping out of your...
Duration: 00:25:355 Ways you're Modeling for your teens
Jun 13, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you unintentionally modeling behaviors that may be holding your teen back? In this eye-opening episode of the podcast, Ben Pugh reveals the secret most parents miss when it comes to influencing their teenagers: your teen may not be listening to you, but they are watching you!
Discover the five crucial areas where your actions speak louder than words, and learn how to become a positive role model for your teen. From handling stress and managing emotions to treating yourself and others with respect, your behavior sets the standard for your...
Duration: 00:18:057 Strange Things IMPACTFUL Parents Do Differently Part 2
Jun 06, 2024"Send Ben a text"
🙋♀️ Ready for the second part of our game-changing series on what impactful parents of teens do differently? In this episode, we're diving into three more powerful strategies that will transform your parenting journey! 🌟
First up, these parents know how to focus on what they CAN control, instead of stressing about what they CAN'T. 🎯 They use a simple but effective tool to shift their energy and attention to where it matters most. Want to know what it is? Tune in to find out! 😉
Next, we'll reveal the secret weapon that these parents use...
Duration: 00:20:247 Strange Things IMPACTFUL Parents Do Differently Part 1
May 30, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you ready to elevate your parenting game? 🚀 Well, buckle up, because we've got a two-part series that's going to introduce you to a whole new way of thinking about parenting! In this episode, we'll unveil four of the seven things that parents who make a real impact do differently. From finding joy in unexpected places to prioritizing something that might surprise you, these parents have cracked the code to creating a strong bond with their kids. 🔐 And wait until you hear about the fourth thing - it's a total game-changer! 🎮 Feeling intrigued? Come back...
Duration: 00:20:49How to Improve Your Mental, Emotional, and Physical Health
May 23, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Ready to boost your teen’s health without losing your mind? Tune in for a fun, quick guide to improving mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Discover why a simple walk, gym time, or even a pillow fight can make a difference. Learn the secrets to better sleep, whether it’s sleeping in or taking a nap.
Find out why eating protein, fats, and staying hydrated are crucial. Understand the importance of high-fives and hugs, and how showers and bubble baths can bring mental clarity.
Boost your emotional inte...
5 Minutes to Better Connection with Your Teen
May 16, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we 're talking about a powerful, yet simple, habit that can transform your relationship with your teen in just 5 minutes a day.
Discover how practicing gratitude reflection can shift your focus from conflicts and challenges to appreciation and positivity. By taking a few moments each day to acknowledge three things you're grateful for about your teen, you'll foster a more positive mindset, reduce stress, and build a stronger emotional connection.
This habit not only enhances your relationship with your teen but also empowers you to become th...
Is Your Teen Fitting In or Belonging with Teen Life Coach, Lindsay Law
May 09, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Join me and guest coach, Lindsay Law as we explore the journey of self-love and acceptance in teenagers.
In this insightful episode, we delve into the crucial role of parental support, the distinction between belonging and fitting in, and the empowerment of teens to embrace their authentic selves.
Discover practical insights and valuable tips to foster a positive environment for teen self-discovery and growth. Tune in to unlock the keys to nurturing confident and resilient teens.
benpughcoaching.com/205
Are You Caught in the Parent T...
Duration: 00:39:36My is Teen Viewing Porn. Now What?
May 02, 2024"Send Ben a text"
When it comes to discovering your teen viewing pornography, approach the situation with humor and confidence rather than panic.
Focus on open dialogue and empowerment rather than fear. Encourage your teen to separate pornography from solo sexual activity, potentially breaking the habit.
Above all, provide support without coercion, respecting your teen's autonomy and readiness for help, while setting boundaries and offering resources in a supportive manner.
Full show notes: https://benpughcoaching.com/204
Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?
Discover the...
Duration: 00:35:13Rights and Privileges for Better Boundaries
Apr 25, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this podcast, we're tackling the difference between rights and privileges. It's a biggie, especially since many teens (and adults!) are a bit fuzzy on the distinction.
I'll share insights from my own family life, like how dinner together is non-negotiable (yep, no skipping meals!), but dessert? That's a privilege. And let's talk about earning privileges—like staying out late with friends, which my teens have to work for by being responsible.
But sometimes, rights can turn into privileges, like when we had a foster child needing extra support.
<... Duration: 00:26:22Need Advice About Boundaries?
Apr 18, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Are you tired of the endless battle with your teen over boundaries that seem to go nowhere? Well, guess what? There's a light at the end of the boundary tunnel, and it's not a freight train of frustration!
If you've been struggling to set boundaries effectively or if your teen seems to have a PhD in boundary-breaking, fear not! I've got just the remedy for you. Join me for an awesome FREE workshop where we'll dive into the art of boundary-setting like never before.
No more futile attempts a...
3 Reasons Parents & Teens Hate Boundaries
Apr 11, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Today's episode is all about boundaries with your teens. It can be tough, right? But here's the thing: you're not alone in this struggle.
I've been hearing from a lot of parents who are feeling overwhelmed by the constant battle of setting boundaries with their teens. And honestly, I get it. It's hard to strike that balance between authority and understanding.
But here's the good news: there's a better way to approach boundaries with our teens. It's not about control; it's about collaboration.
Join me for some...
Duration: 00:30:05How to Set Better Boundaries
Apr 04, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, we're diving deep into setting boundaries with your teen. We're all about making sure these boundaries aren't about control, but instead, they're all about empowering both you and your teen.
Here's what we're gonna cover:
No Control Games: We're not here to control our teens. We're here to guide them. Let's understand that our teens are on their own journey, and that's totally okay.Guidelines, Not Dictates: Boundaries? They're more like guidelines, not hard and fast rules. It's not about saying, "You can't... Duration: 00:28:42How to Get Out of the Victim Mentality
Mar 28, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Join us in this episode as we dive into the complexities of the victim mentality and how it affects not only us but also our teens. Host Ben Pugh unpacks the intricacies of this common human condition and provides valuable insights into understanding and transcending it.
Learn why the victim mentality is a natural part of the human experience and how societal influences can exacerbate it. Discover the telltale signs of being stuck in the victim mentality, and gain practical tips on how to transition to the empowering hero mentality.
<... Duration: 00:29:15Forget What You Know about Parenting Teens
Mar 21, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Here are some key takeaways from todays episode.
1. Admitting Ignorance is Powerful: Acknowledging when we don't have all the answers opens the door to learning and growth in parenting.
2. Unlearn Old Beliefs: Let go of outdated parenting beliefs that no longer serve us or our families. Questioning what's not working is the first step towards positive change.
3. Explore New Options: Parenting isn't one-size-fits-all. By exploring new approaches and solutions, we can find what works best for our unique family dynamics and...
5 Tips for a Healthy and Happy Parent/Teen Relationship
Mar 14, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Hey everyone! Today we're diving into how we can build better relationships with our teenagers. I'm thrilled to be here to share some insights I've gathered about connecting with teens. You know, it might surprise you, but even though teens sometimes act like they're not interested, they really do want to connect with us parents!
So, I've got five killer tips to help us moms and dads get closer to our teens. First up, let's make spending time together a blast! Whether it's playing games or going on adventures, having fun to...
Duration: 00:25:53What We're Getting Right About Teen Screen Time
Mar 07, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In today's podcast, we're talking about screen time for teens and what we're getting right.
Teens really value their screens—they're not just for fun but also for connecting with friends and learning. And while it's important to be cautious about screen time, we don't need to ban it completely. Setting boundaries together with your teen is key, and what works for one family might not work for another.
Instead of fighting against screens, why not find ways to make them work for your teen? And let's set a go...
Duration: 00:29:53What We're Getting WRONG About Teen Screen Time
Feb 29, 2024"Send Ben a text"
Hey there! Today, we're diving headfirst into the myths surrounding teen screen time. From the belief that all screen time is inherently bad to the fear-driven data shaping our perceptions, we're unpacking it all.
Join us as we challenge the status quo and explore how to navigate the digital landscape with a fresh perspective.
Get ready to reframe your thinking about screens and teens!"
Full show notes: https://benpughcoaching.com/192
Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?
Discover the hidden patterns...
Duration: 00:29:55"Bad" Parenting and How to Repair Your Relationship
Feb 22, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, I'm diving deep into the idea that those imperfect parenting moments we all have aren't actually roadblocks – they're chances for us to strengthen our bond with our teens. I'll share some personal stories and lessons that have really hit home for me, showing just how powerful vulnerability and owning up to our mistakes can be in building trust with our kids.
We'll talk about practical ways to make things right after a slip-up, like waiting for the right moment to apologize and being open about our struggles. Plus, I...
Duration: 00:23:396 Simple Steps to Empower Your Teen
Feb 15, 2024"Send Ben a text"
In this episode, parenting expert Ben shares invaluable insights on empowering teens in today's challenging world. Drawing from his experience as a foster parent, high school principal, and parenting life coach, Ben outlines six simple yet powerful steps to help parents foster independence, resilience, and confidence in their teens.
From finding mentors to engaging in empowering conversations, Ben emphasizes the importance of trusting teens and allowing them to take ownership of their actions and decisions. By challenging conventional parenting norms and encouraging open dialogue, parents can build stronger relationships with their...
Duration: 00:32:20