Parenting Today's Teens

Today, Mark tackles real questions from parents who are in the trenches with their teens. From navigating the challenges of adoption with children who have struggled for years, to conversations around sexuality, substance use and the whirlwind of teen relationships, this episode dives deep into the tough scenarios so many families face. Mark offers practical wisdom and heartfelt encouragement for building stronger relationships with your teens — even when times are hard.

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Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how respect is foundational to a peaceful, healthy home, and it must be intentionally taught and modeled by parents. Mark explains that many teens struggle with respect because they don’t feel respected themselves, making it essential for parents to examine their words, reactions and expectations. Even in disagreement, families can maintain unity by committing to mutual respect, clear boundaries and consistent consequences. When parents lead by example, they create an environment where relationships can thrive rather than descend into chaos.

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Listen today as Mark Gregston reflects on a generation that pursued “peace at all costs” and avoided conflict, often weakening relationships instead of deepening them. Drawing on Galatians 6:9, he reminds parents that true, God-given peace doesn’t eliminate struggle — it carries us through it with hope. Even in the darkest family crises, perseverance, engagement and faithful investment matter more than immediate results. Don’t grow weary in doing good; if you don’t give up, God promises a harvest on the other side.

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For many teens, the drive to fit in or feel worthy can shape almost every decision they make. Beneath the surface, those struggles often trace back to deep questions of value, trust and belonging. Today, Mark sits down with two Heartlight residents who each share their journeys through perfectionism, insecurity and the desire to be loved. For Emily, her struggles with anxiety and perfectionism started as early as 7 years old. She talks about feeling pressured to perform in every aspect of life, often seeking validation from others at the expense of her own well-being. Tune in for honest conversations...

Join Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd today as they discuss the powerful opportunity parents have to shape their teens’ hearts and direction through intentional one-on-one time. Mark reminds parents that the teen years are brief, and busy schedules can cause us to miss moments we may later regret. Regular, judgment-free time spent listening, asking questions, and showing compassion builds trust and makes parents a safe place for their teens. That influence can guide teens toward wisdom, faith and purpose for the rest of their lives.

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In this Q&A episode, Mark dives into some of the most sensitive questions parents are facing right now. Addressing tough topics like puberty and sexual development, Mark offers practical insights and relatable anecdotes drawn from his years of experience working with teens and families. You’ll also hear thoughtful advice on managing changing family dynamics — like what to do when your college student moves back home, how to make family time meaningful across different age groups and when it's time to seek outside help for your teen. Whether you’re facing big challenges or just looking for everyday parent...

As a new year begins, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur encourage families to pause and have honest, grace-filled conversations with their teens. This is a powerful opportunity to listen to what your teen hopes will be different and to offer a fresh start rooted in relationship, not control. By focusing less on surface issues and more on the heart, parents can strengthen connection while gradually giving teens more responsibility and freedom. A new year doesn’t require perfection — just intentional steps, patience and grace as growth unfolds over time.

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Mark Gregston reminds parents that many frustrating teen behaviors are actually normal parts of adolescence and part of how kids learn to grow into adulthood. Understanding what’s normal can lower anxiety and help parents respond with patience instead of panic. At the same time, Mark urges parents to recognize clear warning signs that signal deeper trouble and require immediate action. When parents know the difference, they can stand firm, seek help when needed and trust God to meet them in the hard moments of parenting.

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Family relationships aren’t always easy, and sometimes the toughest struggles can lead to the strongest connections. On today’s episode, Mark sits down with two young women at Heartlight who have walked through dark seasons of conflict, self-doubt and destructive choices. Their journeys show that while pain and misunderstanding can create distance, there’s hope for rebuilding trust and closeness at home. Together, Mark and the teens discuss how healing happens one conversation at a time — and how families can grow even stronger after weathering life’s storms together.

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On today's episode, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur remind parents who feel overwhelmed by a child’s struggles — whether addiction, pregnancy or deep emotional pain — that their situation is not hopeless because God has promised hope. They share how Parenting Today’s Teens has been a beacon of hope for nearly two decades, walking alongside families at the end of their rope. Through personal stories and a special guest, they emphasize that healing is a marathon, not a sprint, and that God can bring restoration even when the outcome seems impossible. Families are encouraged to hold on, trust Go...

Today, Mark dives into some more pressing challenges parents face today — from transitioning your parenting style as kids grow, to managing teens’ phone usage and tough issues like household rules for 18-year-olds. Drawing from real listener questions, Mark discusses how to foster safe and open communication and find the balance between structure and relationship. If you’re struggling with tech boundaries, curious about when to loosen the reins or just want practical strategies for making your home a training ground for wise decisions, this episode is full of relatable advice and encouragement!

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Merry Christmas! The holidays can unite families, and grandparents play a unique role in setting a warm, meaningful tone for those gatherings. Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur explain that grandparents offer heritage, perspective, commitment and a lived-out example of grace that teens deeply need — not through lectures, but through presence and love. They encourage grandparents to create restful, joyful environments by sharing stories, planning simple activities that spark connection and making space for one-on-one moments. Ultimately, the goal is to build memories that make kids and grandkids feel valued and supported.

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Join Mark Gregston as he talks about how Luke’s account of Christ’s birth highlights a powerful idea often overlooked. Mark explains that modern adolescents live with unprecedented exposure to uncertainty — from social pressure and information overload to global crises — which fuels anxiety, confusion and experimentation that can pull them away from what they’ve been taught. Parents cannot eliminate the world’s chaos, but they CAN become a steady place of certainty by showing consistency, connection and clear values. When moms and dads provide that grounding presence, they help their teens navigate uncertainty with confidence rather than fear.

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What happens when teens feel unheard at home? This week, Mark talks with two Heartlight teens, who bravely share their battles with depression, insecurity and the search for real connection. Beneath struggles with anger, risky choices or even isolation, both young women's stories reveal a powerful theme: Teens desperately need their parents to truly listen — not just jump into problem-solving or judgment. Honest conversation, open minds and small acts of understanding can make all the difference for hurting teens. 

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Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how parents often hold tightly to control out of fear, but doing so can stunt a teen’s ability to develop maturity and self-control. Mark explains that healthy independence requires gradually transferring responsibility from ages 12 to 18 so teens can practice decision-making before they leave home. When parents micromanage, teens may rebel or make reckless choices just to prove they’re in control, whereas purposeful, age-appropriate freedom paired with consequences builds wisdom. Ultimately, giving teens increasing control prepares them to become responsible, grounded young adults.

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In today's episode, Mark dives into some more pressing questions from parents who are struggling with their teens and young adults. From addressing severe outbursts and substance use in a high-functioning autistic teen, to knowing when it’s time to seek psychiatric help, Mark offers practical advice and empathy for families in crisis. The episode covers issues like adolescent depression, parent-child conflict and the impact of unresolved teen issues in adulthood. Mark emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, acting with love, and the power of community and counseling, all with a message of hope for families navigating the bumpy ro...

Listen today as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss the reality that Christmas often brings conflict rather than peace, especially in families with struggling teens. They emphasize that parents must rise above the chaos by extending grace, offering love when it’s least deserved and avoiding the pressure to create a “perfect” holiday. Instead of withholding gifts or withdrawing emotionally, they encourage parents to affirm the relationship, set healthy boundaries and give teens space to regroup when expectations feel overwhelming. Ultimately, Christmas is an opportunity to model God’s grace — loving and moving toward our kids even in the mid...

Mark reflects on the lessons he’s learned as a parent and grandparent, emphasizing how small, consistent conversations build trust and open the door for deeper, life-shaping talks with kids and teens. He shares how both positive and negative voices shaped his own life, and how a handful of wise, older mentors profoundly influenced him through simple but powerful statements offered over time. Mark highlights qualities these mentors modeled and explains how their steady presence helped form his character and calling. He encourages parents and grandparents to embrace this same role, becoming consistent, life-giving influencers who listen well, speak tr...

Every teen's journey is shaped by a search for identity — a need to take ownership of their life, make choices and discover who they truly are. Today, Mark sits down with two young women from Heartlight who share their struggles to find themselves amid high expectations and family dynamics. Both wrestled with rebellion — not just for rebellion’s sake, but as a way to carve out their independence. Their stories show how the process of self-discovery is rarely straightforward. Now, away from home, these young women are learning what it means to make healthy choices and grow on their own te...

Families in crisis often feel overwhelmed, isolated and “at the end of their rope,” but Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur remind parents they are not alone and real help is available. They explain that teen struggles are usually signs of deeper issues — not parental failure — and that progress often comes through small steps, strengthened relationships and seeking support. Parents are encouraged to focus on connection over control, admit they don’t have all the answers, and reach out for community or counseling instead of trying to carry the burden alone. Ultimately, this season is temporary — change is possible whe...

In today's episode, Mark Gregston dives into some of the toughest questions parents face with their teenagers today. From encouraging faith in a 17-year-old son who resists reading the Bible, to setting boundaries with a 19-year-old daughter living at home and finding the balance when communicating with college-aged children, Mark offers practical advice rooted in real-life experiences. He explores the impact of shaming, the challenges of parenting twins with different levels of maturity and how to maintain healthy relationships — even as families navigate new dynamics.

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Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur explain that effective discipline flows out of a healthy relationship, not anger or authority alone. Parents often lean too far into being either “tough” or “tender,” but teens need a balanced blend of strength, gentleness, listening and compassion. True authority comes from connection, not control, and the goal is to reflect God’s character — firm when necessary, but tender, patient and relational at heart. Mark encourages parents to examine their own reactions, seek honest feedback, and pursue counseling if needed so they can model the calm, balanced strength their teens require.

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Mark Gregston shares how unexpected setbacks — including getting fired — became the catalyst for founding Heartlight Ministries and beginning a lifelong “journey to genuineness.” As he reflects on rejection, pride and unresolved personal issues, he encourages parents to consider how their own wounds and blind spots may be influencing their parenting. Mark urges moms and dads of struggling teens to start by looking inward, examining motives, addressing past hurts and embracing authenticity — before focusing on their child’s behavior. Ultimately, he reminds parents that self-reflection and healing can lead to a more grounded relationship with their teens.

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Navigating the teen years can sometimes mean facing invisible walls — barriers of isolation, anger or uncertainty about how to let others in. Today, Mark sits down with two young men from Heartlight who share honest accounts of what shut them off from their families and peers. For Harry, the struggle was with isolation and the challenge of making real-world connections after a hard move and ongoing depression. For Jacob, mounting anger and hurt from family wounds led him down a path of rebellion and risky choices. What ties their stories together isn't just what pushed them away — it's how they...

Today, join Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lefleur as they discuss setting boundaries for your family. They explain that healthy boundaries start with understanding what each child truly needs and tailoring rules by age, maturity and individual challenges — not just enforcing control for control’s sake. Mark and Courtney emphasize focusing first on relationship, then building clear expectations, household boundaries, and rewards that encourage responsibility and independence. Ultimately, they advise parents to adjust their approach as teens grow, and create a home that offers structure, peace and a place of rest for their weary souls.

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Today, Mark Gregston fields real questions from parents grappling with the challenges of guiding older teens toward adulthood. Drawing from decades of experience, he addresses issues such as fostering independence in 17- and 18-year-olds, setting boundaries with troubled teens, navigating the complexities of homeschooling, and providing support for teens with depression and anxiety. Mark offers practical advice on when to let natural consequences unfold, how to motivate teens who lack drive, when to intervene and the importance of clear expectations.

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Many teens today grow up believing they’re owed privileges and constant attention. Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how this entitlement is fueled by parents doing too much for them. Mark encourages moms and dads to shift the conversation — focusing not on criticizing selfish behavior, but on helping teens grow in independence, responsibility and real-world readiness. By setting new expectations and saying “no” when needed, parents help their kids mature rather than stay dependent. Ultimately, breaking entitlement is a gift that prepares teens for healthy relationships, future jobs and adult life.

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Teens today are growing up in a world of online communication, constant negativity and shallow “expert” voices — leaving them hungry for real connection and honest guidance. Mark explains that parents often miss what teens truly want because they react to behavior instead of the deeper needs behind it. The nonstop criticism and shallow praise of social media make teens sensitive to correction and blind to needed truth. He urges parents to deepen relationships, engage face-to-face and speak truth in love to help their teens grow into grounded, responsible adults.

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Many parents notice their teens acting out — whether through rebellion, risky choices or shutting down — but what’s driving those behaviors is often a deep pain kept out of sight. On today’s episode, Mark Gregston sits down with two Heartlight residents who both reveal how hurts from their past, like adoption struggles, family loss, confusion and unmet expectations, shaped their choices and relationships. Both teens share how their journey at Heartlight is helping them face what’s beneath the surface, reconnect with family and begin real healing. 

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Listen in as Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why teens might “spin out of control." They explain this can happen when they can’t manage life within the boundaries of home, which can lead to disrespect, dishonesty, risky behavior or shutting down emotionally. Mark explains that these patterns are often a cry for help, revealing deeper struggles teens can’t navigate alone. Parents are encouraged to recognize early warning signs, adjust home structure with clear expectations and seek outside support when needed. Above all, teens don’t actually want their lives to fall apart — they need intervention, guidance and a rest...

Today, Mark dives deep into the real-life struggles facing families — from navigating a teen’s anxiety, depression and drug use, to managing explosive anger and the challenges of motivating older teens to take responsibility. Mark also shares some insights for parents of special needs children and discusses the importance of adapting parenting styles as culture rapidly shifts. Whether you’re seeking support for a teen in crisis, wondering if Heartlight is right for your child, or simply trying to foster deeper relationships, this episode provides heartfelt guidance and practical next steps.

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Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur unpack why gratitude can be difficult for teens, especially during the holidays when entitlement and cultural pressure rise. They explain that real thankfulness grows over time through modeling, conversations, boundaries, and opportunities to work and give. Building a thankful heart takes patience, but it strengthens teens and prepares them for adulthood.

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Join Mark Gregston for a devotional from Joel 1:3 as he explains why teens need wisdom, not just information. Through Scripture and a personal story, Mark shows how young people crave meaningful guidance over quick answers or disconnected facts. He encourages parents and grandparents to share their own experiences, speak truth in love and engage in intentional conversations. When adults lead with authenticity and vulnerability, they offer a legacy that lasts. 

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When teens act out, it’s often a sign of much deeper issues at play. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston chats with two more Heartlight teens, including Daniel, a student who shares his journey from spiraling into drugs and depression to finding hope and healing. Daniel opens up about the pressures at home, the struggle to escape overwhelming feelings through getting high and the long road to reconnecting with his family. Through the support of caring staff and counseling at Heartlight, Daniel is learning to rebuild relationships and reclaim his future.

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Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how listening is one of the most powerful ways parents can build connection with their teens. Many families struggle with communication because parents talk more than they listen — often teaching, correcting or giving opinions instead of asking thoughtful questions. Teens who don’t feel heard will seek that attention elsewhere, so parents must make intentional time to listen without judgment or interruption. Mark encourages parents and grandparents to show genuine interest and remember that one of the greatest acts of love is truly listening to your teen’s heart.

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In today’s episode, Mark dives into some of the toughest and most relatable dilemmas families face: transitioning your parenting style as teens leave for college, navigating disagreements with your spouse over parenting strategies and the complexities around busy teen schedules. He also tackles challenging topics like helping teens through the aftermath of divorce and understanding — and celebrating — the sometimes obsessive fandoms that provide comfort to young people. Don't miss this episode!

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Adopted kids often enter adolescence with deep questions about identity, belonging and why they were given up — even if they cannot consciously remember the trauma. As they shift from concrete to abstract thinking in their teen years, feelings of loss, abandonment and being “different” can surface more strongly. Parents can help by listening without judgment, talking openly about feelings, staying connected and offering long-term patience — knowing these issues often take years to resolve. Adoption is a beautiful gift, but parents must understand that their child sees the world through a unique lens, and that compassion and presence are critical.

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Today, Mark shares how perfectionism in ministry once nearly burned him out — and how many parents unknowingly pass that same pressure onto their teens. What parents intend as encouragement is often interpreted by teens as never being “good enough.” Instead, he urges parents to model honesty, grace and vulnerability — reminding kids that only Jesus is perfect. Strong relationships, not seeking perfection, are what truly shape a teen’s heart.

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Many families wrestle with discipline, hoping rules will keep their teens on track — but sometimes, those boundaries end up building walls instead of bridges. On today’s show, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens who share honest reflections on the struggles that come when discipline overshadows relationship. For Austin, creative discipline systems left him angry and distant from his family. Both teens describe how their families reached a breaking point — and how healing began once understanding and connection took the place of strict rules. 

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Listen as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss the benefits of Heartlight and the program's relational approach to residential counseling. Heartlight is designed to help teens change from the inside out. Mark and Courtney describe how true transformation happens through trust, restored relationships, consistent presence and addressing the heart issues beneath behavior — not just behavior modification. They emphasize that Heartlight surrounds teens with staff who engage, observe, walk with them in real time and help them heal. The goal is that lasting change continues even when they go back home.

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In today's episode, Mark Gregston dives into listener questions about navigating consequences, teen privacy, anxiety, complex faith and identity issues, and the challenges of connecting with teens who shut down. Through the lens of adolescent development, Mark addresses how parents can become part of the solution — rethinking their own responses while helping teens learn to make wiser choices. From tips on fostering deeper relationships with reluctant teens to navigating cultural shifts and family dynamics, this episode is packed with actionable advice and compassionate perspective.

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Teens have always sought attention, but today’s social media culture amplifies it — often leading to risky or inappropriate behavior when their emotional needs go unmet at home. Mark Gregston urges parents to look beyond the surface and understand the motivation behind their teen’s actions, offering connection rather than constant correction. By setting healthy boundaries, rewarding positive behavior and helping teens find constructive outlets for attention, parents can guide them toward healthier self-expression. Ultimately, consistent love, time and affirmation from mom or dad can satisfy a teen’s deep desire to be seen and valued. 

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Listen today as Mark Gregston reflects on a listener’s concern that his ministry doesn’t mention Jesus often enough, using it as a reminder that faith should be lived out, not just spoken. He points to 1 John 3:18, emphasizing that what we do speaks louder than what we say. Mark cautions parents against being overly critical, reminding them that even well-intentioned words can damage relationships with their teens. True spirituality, he concludes, is expressed through actions of love, encouragement and integrity that reflect Christ living within us.

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When life gets tough, teens often find themselves searching for answers in the middle of their struggles — but sometimes, clarity takes time and patience. In today’s show, Mark sits down with two young men from Heartlight who open up about how their pain — whether it’s broken relationships, anger or loss — has shaped their journey. One teen, Malcolm, reveals how his parents’ divorce left him feeling abandoned and lost, leading to anger and acting out, but also pushing him to grow as a father to his own young son. Out of hardship, these young men found new purpose and hope for...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur discuss the difficult but essential topic of teens’ exposure to pornography. They emphasize that nearly all teens — boys and girls — will encounter it due to its widespread availability online, making open, shame-free conversations at home vital. Curiosity is often the first motivator, but ongoing exposure can distort a teen’s understanding of intimacy and lead to deeper struggles. Parents are encouraged to respond with grace rather than shame, set healthy boundaries, create accountability and maintain ongoing, honest discussions to guide teens toward truth and purity.

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Today, Mark Gregston tackles the complex challenges that parents face with their teenagers, from navigating shifting moods and sarcasm to coping with bullying, anxiety and trust issues. Mark offers practical advice rooted in real-world insight — helping parents distinguish between harmless wit and harmful disrespect, support teens dealing with bullies and rebuild trust with kids who struggle with honesty. Whether you’re parenting a headstrong teen or trying to balance boundaries after divorce, this episode is packed with relatable stories and heartfelt encouragement. 

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Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lefleur explore the process of guiding teens from dependence to maturity through three stages — teaching, training and transferring. Mark explains that parents must shift from simply instructing their children to giving them hands-on responsibility and freedom to make mistakes, allowing them to grow into capable adults. The three emphasize that when parents fail to release control, teens become frustrated, dependent and disconnected from their peers. Together, the hosts encourage parents to trust their teens, model maturity and intentionally plan how to pass on responsibility so their children can thrive independently.

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Listen in as Mark Gregston reflects on how today’s teens struggle to distinguish “true life” from the filtered world of social media. He explains that constant exposure to idealized images and comparisons fuels loneliness, anxiety and low self-worth. Mark encourages parents to help their teens critically evaluate online content, ask “Is this real?” and maintain perspective by balancing social media with genuine relationships. Ultimately, he urges families to teach discernment, set boundaries and foster affirmation at home so that teens find their value in truth, not digital illusions.

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It's important to remember that the struggles we see on the surface of a teen's life may have roots a lot deeper than we realize. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two young women from Heartlight, who bravely share their journeys through family conflict, feelings of abandonment, and battles with depression and self-harm. Both teens faced pain stemming from fractured relationships at home and the challenge of opening up to the people who wanted to help. As they work through the healing process at Heartlight, the teens describe how learning to be honest, accepting support and rebuilding tr...

When parents discover their teen’s inappropriate behavior, it’s important to respond with calmness and perspective rather than anger or shame. Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur emphasize that mistakes are a normal part of adolescence and can actually become opportunities to build stronger relationships if handled with grace and consistency. Parents should focus on teaching lessons, setting clear boundaries and maintaining the relationship — not reacting out of shock or disappointment. As Mark shares from personal experience, the goal is to keep consequences firm but relational, reminding teens that they are loved even as they face the re...

In this episode, Mark Gregston tackles some more of the toughest, most heartfelt questions sent in by listeners. From managing frustration and anger as a parent, to navigating complex family dynamics like custody battles and divorce, Mark shares practical, compassionate advice. He also addresses concerns around screen time, gaming rules and the challenges grandparents face when supporting teens struggling with gender identity. Drawing on decades of experience working with families, Mark offers actionable strategies and a reminder to lead with empathy and relationship first.

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Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how parents can wisely talk about politics with their teens. They emphasize that while politics can be divisive, parents shouldn’t avoid the topic — teens need guidance to think critically and biblically rather than absorb culture’s extremes. Parents should model respectful dialogue, listen more than lecture and allow their teens to process differing views without fear of rejection. The goal isn’t to control their beliefs but to keep relationships strong and create space for open, grace-filled conversations.

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Today, Mark Gregston explains that parents must look beyond their teen’s behavior to understand the deeper heart issues driving it. Drawing from Proverbs 3:21–24, and a moving story about a past Heartlight student, he illustrates that a child’s anger or rebellion often masks pain, loss, or a longing for love and value. He reminds parents that all behavior — good or bad — is the visible expression of invisible struggles. True connection happens when parents respond with wisdom, empathy and grace, addressing the heart rather than merely correcting the behavior.

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Every troubled teen has a story that goes much deeper than their behavior shows. Behind acting out, running away, or self-destruction, there's often a world of private pain and confusion. Today, Mark Gregston sits down with two teens from Heartlight whose journeys reveal how struggles like addiction, grief and low self-worth can drive choices that seem shocking to outsiders. For one young lady, a long battle with eating disorders and drug use hid her feelings of worthlessness. Tune in for honest, hopeful stories about facing pain head-on and starting over — one step at a time.

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Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how many parents lose their personal identity by becoming overly consumed with their children’s lives. While involvement is vital, Mark emphasizes that parents must maintain balance — nurturing their marriage, friendships and personal interests so their sense of purpose isn’t tied solely to parenting. They remind us that when a parent’s entire focus revolves around their kids, it can create pressure for teens and strain the family dynamic as children get older. Mark encourages moms and dads to pursue hobbies, friendships and “me time” to protect their mental, emotional and relation...

In this episode, Mark Gregston draws on over three decades of experience to tackle the questions parents are most desperate to have answered. From navigating trust issues after years of monitoring a teen’s tech usage to finding healthy ways to motivate an unenthusiastic senior, Mark offers down-to-earth advice rooted in real-life stories. Whether you’re dealing with curfew battles, shifting relationships or a teen stretching toward adulthood, this episode is full of practical tips to help deepen your relationship with your teen. 

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Sexual abuse leaves deep scars that affect a teen’s safety, relationships and self-worth. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd share both personal and ministry experiences, emphasizing how abuse creates lasting feelings of loss, shame and confusion. Parents are urged to respond without blame or anger, instead creating a safe environment where their child feels valued and heard, while seeking professional help when needed. Ultimately, healing comes through compassion, support and trusting God to create good out of brokenness.

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Today, Mark Gregston reflects on Matthew 11:28–30, emphasizing the need for homes — especially grandparents’ homes — to be places of rest and refuge for weary teens. He contrasts lifeless or overly rigid environments with welcoming spaces where kids feel safe, accepted and free to be imperfect. Mark encourages grandparents to design a warm setting, create a positive atmosphere, establish clear but loving rules and foster open conversations. By doing so, they can provide their grandchildren with a sanctuary of love, laughter, and grace that refreshes both body and soul.

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So much changes when teens and parents start talking — and really listening — to each other. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight students who open up about the struggles that kept them silent and the pain that came from not feeling heard at home. Both share how a lack of open communication fueled their anxiety, rebellion and sense of isolation. Now, through counseling and new experiences, they're learning the value of honest conversations in healing relationships and rebuilding trust.

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Divorce deeply impacts teens, often leaving them with feelings of abandonment, loss, guilt and confusion. Mark Gregston explains that many teens internalize divorce, believing they were the cause or feeling like life will never return to normal. These unresolved emotions can manifest in isolation, grief and strained relationships. Parents can help their teens heal by spending intentional time with them, affirming their love, listening without judgment, avoiding blame and working cooperatively with their ex to provide consistency and stability.

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In today's Q&A episode, Mark addresses heartfelt questions from parents and grandparents facing the everyday struggles and big transitions that come with raising teens. From navigating financial support for adult children choosing different paths, to dealing with rebellious behavior, loss and the complexities of blended families, Mark offers seasoned advice grounded in empathy and real-world experience. Whether you're wrestling with house rules or grappling with grief, this candid episode is packed with insight for every parent walking through changing seasons with their teen.

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of preparing your children for adulthood before they reach their late teens. Parents should gradually give their children responsibility — encouraging jobs, decision-making and independence — so they don’t become dependent adults living at home without purpose. Mark warns that too much provision can quickly turn into enabling if parents continue to do everything for their kids, which keeps them from developing life skills. Instead, parents must set expectations, create boundaries and guide their teens toward maturity so they are ready to thrive on their own.

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Listen in as Mark Gregston shares a personal story and scripture to illustrate the importance of perspective. While he complained about having the worst seats in the house at a concert, his granddaughter reminded him they were actually the best because you could see everything. He connects this lesson to parenting, emphasizing that many teens today lack perspective and rely more on peers than parents. Mark encourages parents to engage relationally, understand their teen’s world and offer wisdom that gives the “big picture” rather than just criticism — helping kids navigate life with clarity and hope.

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Running away isn’t just about escaping home — it’s often a sign of deeper issues beneath the surface. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens who share what led them to leave home and the pain that fueled their choices. Through candid conversations, both young ladies reveal the impact of unstable family dynamics, the pain of isolation and the courage it takes to face their struggles head-on. Listen in as we unpack what’s really going on when teens run away — and how caring adults can help them find their way back.

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Join us today as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LeFleur explore whether dating is right for teens. The three discuss how dating can provide valuable opportunities for teens to learn social skills, understand the opposite sex and begin shaping their ideas about future relationships. While parents often worry about issues like trust, influence and premature sexual involvement, the hosts emphasize the importance of staying connected, setting healthy boundaries and guiding conversations without shaming the natural desire to date. Ultimately, they encourage parents to see dating as a normal part of growing up and to use it as an...

In today's episode, Mark tackles some more of the toughest questions that parents are facing in today’s world. From navigating strict parenting styles and the ongoing battle over technology, to addressing issues of identity, sexuality and peer bullying, Mark offers practical advice rooted in decades of experience working with teens and their families. He also shares insights on setting boundaries around phone use, responding to substance use and handling conflicts that can arise between parents when it comes to disciplining their kids. Check it out!

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore why listening is one of the most powerful tools parents can use with their teens. Teens don’t always need more lectures — they need safe spaces where their voices matter. When parents ask questions, stop correcting and truly listen, teens feel valued and are more willing to open up. This atmosphere of understanding not only strengthens the relationship, but also builds a foundation of lifelong trust and influence.

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Mark Gregston shares the most effective way to influence a teen — by spending intentional, consistent time together. He encourages parents to set aside weekly one-on-one moments starting around age 13 to build trust and open communication before conflict arises. These times should focus on listening, creating a safe space and being authentic, not lecturing or correcting. Over time, these consistent connections lay the foundation for deeper conversations and lasting influence during the turbulent adolescent years.

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Every teen faces pressures, but some feel compelled to hide behind a mask — covering up pain or anxiety with risky behaviors or a perfect facade. On today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens whose struggles took them down very different paths, but revealed their deep need for acceptance and authentic connection. For Santana, it was tough to take off his "mask." Despite always presenting a friendly face, he struggles with bottling emotions and the fear that being vulnerable — even with his parents — would mean losing their love. Now, he reflects on the power of unconditional love and the...

Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore how parents can guide teens away from foolish choices and toward wisdom. Teens often repeat negative behavior when the pleasure outweighs the pain, so parents must set consequences strong enough to spark change. But it’s not just about stopping foolishness — teens also need positive direction and opportunities to grow. When parents help their kids see the rewards of wise choices, they equip them for adulthood with responsibility, respect and maturity.

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In this episode, Mark Gregston takes on some of the most pressing and sensitive questions parents face in their journey with teens. From handling a daughter's unexpected relationship choices to supporting adopted children with behavioral challenges, Mark offers practical advice grounded in wisdom, empathy and experience. Listeners will find guidance on balancing discipline with understanding, opening lines of communication about difficult topics, and — most importantly — loving their teens unconditionally through every struggle. Tune in now!

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why it’s essential for parents to live out their core beliefs while raising teens. Parents need to know which values are nonnegotiable and hold firm, while also allowing flexibility as their children grow and form their own perspectives. Conflict is inevitable, but it can lead to meaningful dialogue and deeper understanding when handled well. The key is moving from lectures to conversations, listening carefully, and discerning when to bend and when to stand strong.

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Today, Mark highlights the danger of perfectionism in ministry, parenting and life. He shares how early experiences working under a demanding pastor led to burnout, a strained marriage and the constant pressure to perform. He connects that same perfectionist mindset to parenting, where children often misinterpret well-intentioned encouragement as criticism or impossible standards. He reminds us that parents aren’t God — our kids need authenticity, grace and relationships built on love rather than demands for perfection.

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Behind every rebellious act or risky decision, there’s often a story of shame that teenagers carry alone. Shame can trap teens in a cycle — fueling destructive behaviors and pushing them further from the people who love them most. In today’s episode, Mark welcomes two young men from Heartlight, who bravely open up about what drove them to self-medicate, rebel and run from home. Through honest reflection and support, both of them are learning to embrace their imperfections and rebuild trust with their families.

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Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss a difficult but very important topic: teen suicide. Mark emphasizes that parents must pay close attention and listen more than judge, watching for sudden withdrawal, changes in sleep/eating, talk of hopelessness or social posts that sound like a cry for help, as these behaviors must be taken seriously. Teens need safe chances to speak honestly and should be encouraged to reach out rather than hide pain. Mark offers parents practical ways to intervene immediately when warning signs appear and encourages ongoing communication and regular check-ins to build trust and strengthen the...

In this episode, Mark Gregston dives into some of the most pressing questions parents and grandparents are facing with their teens today. Drawing from decades of experience, he addresses critical topics like suicide prevention, maintaining respectful relationships with teens, and setting healthy boundaries during dating and social situations. Mark also shares personal reflections on grandparenting, the importance of healing from our own pasts and how to foster open, genuine communication with teens. With practical advice and real-life stories, this episode equips listeners with wisdom and encouragement for building deeper, healthier relationships with the teens in their lives. Listen now!<...

Mark Gregston joins Wayne Shepherd to discuss the dangers of teen substance abuse and how parents can respond. Mark emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, seeking counseling and keeping teens engaged in healthy activities — while also allowing natural consequences to take their course. Most of all, he reminds parents to continue showing love through the struggle, offering support when it’s needed most, even when it’s hardest to give.

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Today's devotional on 2 Peter 1:12 emphasizes that the foundation of parenting is listening and maintaining strong relationships with your children. Mark Gregston reminds us that life is short, and embracing its brevity helps us focus on what truly matters — our impact on those closest to us. True legacy is not found in achievements or recognition, but in the love, influence, and wisdom passed down to children and grandchildren. Even when kids make poor choices or hold different beliefs, maintaining a relationship and unconditional love gives parents the chance to guide and shape their hearts.

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Every family faces seasons where connection feels out of reach, especially with teens wrestling for independence or struggling to find where they belong. In this episode, Mark sits down with a couple of Heartlight residents who open up about the challenges behind their conflicts at home. Sixteen-year-old Joey shares how his adoption and early family experiences left him questioning his place, often pushing others away even as he longed for connection. Both teens reflect on the importance of breaking down walls — whether built by hurt or by habit — to find healing with their families.

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd highlight the steep rise in teen depression and suicide, with more than a third of teens reporting persistent sadness. They note depression can be hard to spot and may show up as isolation, sudden changes in sleep/eating or school, risky behavior, substance use or self-harm. Parents should make steady, deeper conversations a priority, take any talk of dying seriously, and involve medical and counseling support when needed. Bottom line: Trust your gut, intervene early, and keep teens engaged in care with clear boundaries and compassionate support.

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In this episode, Mark Gregston tackles complex questions that listeners have been asking about their teens. He offers practical wisdom — rooted in empathy and real-world experience — on everything from setting boundaries around teen dating and managing entitlement or technology use, to addressing self-harm, family conflicts and challenging ideological phases. Mark also discusses the importance of open communication, self-reflection and pursuing relationship over control, while exploring the emotions that often drive parenting responses. Whether you’re a parent, grandparent or caregiver, this episode offers hope and actionable advice for building stronger, more connected relationships with the teens in your life.

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Few fears are greater for parents than a teen who runs away. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why teens take this step — what they might be running from or toward — and how parents can respond with love, grace and open conversation. They also share how reunions can become moments to rebuild trust, listen without judgment and create a home where teens feel safe and valued.

If your family is struggling, Heartlight Ministries may be able to help. Visit heartlightministries.org to learn more.

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Today, we join Mark Gregston for a devotional drawing from James 1:19. Parents and teens both experience anger when their desires clash, but unchecked anger damages relationships. He explains that anger often signals deeper issues, like a teen’s longing for control, acceptance or attention, rather than just surface-level conflicts over curfews or clothing. He encourages parents to step back, observe what’s really driving their child’s frustration, and respond with calmness and curiosity instead of control or shame. Focus on their heart — rather than just their behavior.

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It’s not uncommon for today’s teens to feel lost — drifting through life without a sense of purpose or direction. In this episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight residents who both share how a lack of motivation and connection led them into trouble. Fifteen-year-old Peter opens up about struggles with motivation, trust issues after his parents’ divorce, and how falling in with the wrong crowd led to depression and substance use. He’s honest about what it feels like not to have life “figured out” — a feeling so many teens quietly carry. 

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Join Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd as they discuss the importance of teaching teens financial responsibility. They note that far fewer teens work today compared to past generations, which can lead to entitlement and a lack of financial management skills. Parents often enable dependency by providing too much, when instead they should gradually reduce financial support and encourage work, saving, giving and wise spending. Helping teens manage money early not only prepares them for adulthood but can also prevent future struggles in marriage and life.

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In today’s episode, Mark Gregston tackles questions from parents on motivating teens who are losing steam before graduation and supporting neurodivergent kids struggling with screen time. He also shares insights on staying connected with teens making tough choices and finding hope in the midst of family crises. Whether you’re feeling lost, frustrated or simply in need of fresh perspective, Mark offers guidance on shifting from control to connection, creating safe spaces for honest conversations and focusing on relationship over behavior. Tune in for encouragement, real talk and actionable advice to help you connect more deeply with your teen...

In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how sibling rivalry is a common challenge, fueled by differences in personality, comparisons, unequal attention and the push for independence. While conflict is normal, it becomes destructive when parents compare children, show favoritism, or allow anger and criticism to go unchecked. The key is for parents to guide arguments toward resolution, ensure each child feels valued and invest time.

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Parenting is about far more than discipline, survival or raising kids toward independence — it is ultimately rooted in relationship. When parents invest time and care into building genuine connections, small issues are more easily resolved, wisdom is received and children feel valued. Rules, achievements and clean rooms matter less than showing up consistently with love, empathy and presence. Strong relationships with children and grandchildren leave a lasting influence, shaping their character, faith and future far more deeply than tasks or accomplishments ever could.

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The fear of rejection can shape a teen’s choices in powerful and sometimes destructive ways. In this episode, Mark Gregston talks with two young ladies from Heartlight, who share how their desire to fit in and be accepted led them down difficult paths. Whether it’s constantly changing who they are to please different people, or battling feelings of abandonment that began long before Heartlight, both young women explain how the longing to be liked and the fear of being left out fueled their struggles. Today, they're finding the courage to face their fears and embrace authenticity.

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of building resilience in teens including the ability to bounce back from mistakes, setbacks and stress. Mark explains that overprotecting children can prevent them from learning how to handle conflict, disappointment and criticism, leaving them unprepared for real life. Instead, parents should gradually “loosen the reins,” allowing teens to face challenges and take responsibility. By moving from a teaching model to a training model, parents help their teens develop maturity, strength and the resilience needed to thrive in a challenging world.

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In today’s episode, Mark Gregston addresses the real-life challenges parents of teens face, including vaping, bullying, video games, emotional struggles and the balance between connection and correction. He offers practical wisdom along with thoughtful answers on privacy, technology and parenting in a constantly changing culture. Whether you’re navigating tough conversations or working to build more honesty and trust at home, this episode is packed with encouragement to strengthen your relationship with your teen. Listen now!

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Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur explore why school is about much more than academics — it’s the training ground where teens learn to build relationships, handle challenges and grow in character. While grades matter, the lessons learned through sports, clubs, friendships and even discomfort often have an even greater impact on a teen’s future. Parents are reminded to look beyond report cards and focus on guiding their teens to grow socially, emotionally and spiritually through their school experiences.

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Mark Gregston reflects on his lifelong love of animals and tells the story of his llama, Tony, whose decline became a lesson in parenting. In the midst of trying to save Tony, Mark faced harsh criticism from a bystander when what he really needed was help, not judgment. He compares this to how teens often experience their parents — hearing constant correction and criticism instead of encouragement and support. Mark emphasizes that while good intentions are there, judgment pushes kids away, but truth shared with love and relationship draws them closer.

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Every struggling teen has their own story, but many share a deeper need: to be truly understood. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight residents who have learned the power of opening up about their struggles. One young woman reflects on navigating feelings of abandonment and shame from her adoption and how talking about it is transforming her perspective. The other, Sam, describes her journey from frequent outbursts and social isolation to discovering how respecting others — and herself — can lead to genuine connection.

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Join Mark Gregston, Courtney Lafleur and Wayne Shepherd as they discuss how teens are bombarded with opinions from social media and culture — but what they truly need is perspective rooted in wisdom and experience. Parents can create a safe space by sharing life lessons, biblical truth and honest reflections, guiding their teens to think, ask questions, and grow in character and faith.

If you are in a tough spot with your teen and struggling, join Mark for a weekend in Texas, October 2-4, designed specifically for parents. Visit familycrisisretreat.com to register.

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In today’s episode, Mark Gregston tackles some of the toughest questions sent in by parents, ranging from anxiety over grades and skipping school to concerns about dating, lack of motivation in college, strained relationships with an absent parent and even the discovery of pornography on a teen’s phone. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the real issues behind teens’ behaviors, keeping communication open and setting healthy boundaries while maintaining unconditional love. With personal stories, practical advice, and an emphasis on maintaining a strong parent-teen relationship, this episode offers real-world wisdom and encouragement for parents seeking to guide their...

In this episode, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur explore how counseling can be a life-changing tool for teens — not just those in crisis. They discuss why unresolved struggles during adolescence often resurface later in life with even greater consequences. Proactive counseling can offer hope, healing and a brighter future for the whole family. Tune in to hear practical advice for helping your teen open up, finding the right counselor and building trust in a safe, supportive environment.

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In today’s episode, Mark Gregston reflects on the true treasures in life and how parents and grandparents can leave lasting legacies for the next generation. Drawing on biblical wisdom, poignant family experiences and the story of a cherished friend, Mark challenges us to invest our time and resources where our hearts truly are — our relationships. He reminds us that memories, love and shared experiences far outweigh any material possessions we might pass on. Tune in for inspiration on making the most of every moment and giving your best to the ones you love, today.

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Sometimes, the hardest moments in a teen's life are what finally reveal the need for real change. On today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight residents who share their journeys through deep struggles — including negative thought patterns, depression and feeling disconnected from family. Eighteen-year-old Jake discusses his battles with substance use and isolation, along with the eventual turning point that came not from punishment, but from a moment of compassion and honest conversation with his family.

Is the Heartlight residential program the right choice for your struggling teen? Find out more today at heartlightministries.org

When teens won’t open up, building trust takes time and consistency. Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur stress creating a safe, judgment-free space where kids feel valued. Casual, agenda-free conversations about everyday topics are a great starting point. Parents should invest in the relationship without pushing for quick results, letting connection develop before addressing deeper issues. Over time, this trust allows teens to share openly, knowing they’ll be heard without fear of criticism.

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