To Succeed... Just Let Go

Yes, the title's a giveaway - this episode provides you with the simple instructions to achieve whatever you want this year or, even better, what's best for you - which, more often than not, is not the same thing!

We're talking, health, wealth, success, happiness, peace of mind, fitness, weight (there are some specific instructions in relation to weight loss), business, career, relationships, parenting.

All this in one episode?

Yes, because the solution to everything in life boils down to you living your's. Simple.

So, if you think you're stuck, that...

It's the year end and the start of a new year. All of which is actually irrelevant because any now is a new and unique moment where anything and everything can happen, where we create and recreate ourselves and our lives, our everyday lives.

So, in this episode, we have explicit instructions as to what you need to do to catapult yourself into the life that is best for you.

To fire that catapult, you need to pull back! Pull back from everything that you think you know about yourself and how the world works.<...

This episode is crammed with advice, suggestions and recommendations starting with - something that I haven't done in this podcast before - a load of reading recommendations.

And, after all my recommendations, I then advise you... not to read them!

Why? All the books in the world, all the science in the world doesn't matter - they're not going to change your life or your experience of it. You're the one from where change emanates.

So you start immersing yourself in all this material after you've taken your first steps on the road...

In this episode, we're exploring the sure fire things that will hold you back from getting what you want... trying and wanting.

Of course, both trying and wanting are, as we explore, thinking mind activities and, as such, are bound to throw a spanner in your works!

That's why we get into the detail of how to get the one real road-block to your happiness and success out of your way - your automatic way of thinking.

Along the way, we touch on the limited impression we have of ourselves in general, how...

We're exploring how our mind provides us with all the insight and inspiration that we need when it is liberated from the drag of automated, repetitive, ruminative everyday useless, toxic thought.

Whether it's while we sleep (that's why, if you have in important decision to make, you should always "sleep on it") or when we're in Flow (that's why we really do need to cultivate our experience of Flow in our everyday life), our intuitive mind, the real you knows everything that you need to know and do to create the kind of life that is best...

This week we're exploring personal relationships - from the one-to-one relationship we have or would like to have with our nearest and dearest to the often fraught relationships between parent and child, whether you're on or the other!

We're exploring relationship dynamics at the psychological level, whilst taking an all-important detour into the realms of quantum physics, bio-mechanics and bio-electricity.

But, most of all, we're looking at what makes a beautiful relationship and how your relationships can blossom and rise to levels that your thinking mind couldn't even begin to imagine.

In such...

Today we're teasing out what I mean when I say that we're at our best when we're not thinking.

Are we saying that we need to stop all thinking? What are different kinds of thinking? And can we think clearly when we're using our minds normally?

The answer to that last question above is a resounding "No" - and that's why we need to tease things out in this episode!

But we go further, we explore the nature of belief and what beliefs really are - an important exploration given that what we...

If you're using your mind normally, you really haven't got the first clue about what's actually going on.

You've no idea who you really are and you certainly have no inkling of what you could achieve or what's even possible and how easy, effortless, it could all be. If you're using your mind normally.

Now - and I actually mean right now - there is a different way. But, in order to encourage you to consider this other way, this episode explores, in psychological an neurological detail, how your mind is playing tricks on you...

As someone said to me a couple of days ago, "It's been far too long since you recounted a Normal Crazy People Story to us!" - they used to be a regular Thursday morning feature!!

So, this week, we start with a little adventure into what passes for the real world but is, in fact, a million miles removed.

But the stories with which this episode starts are told for a reason... we all tell ourselves stories. And, worse, generally speaking, we all believe the stories that we tell ourselves.

We embellish, we...

It's not some catchy title that I've simply slapped on this week's episode - it is a well-researched scientifically validated phenomenon... people in flow have more time than the rest of us.

More time to do just what they need to do, in just the right way, with little or no effort.

And the wonderful thing is that any of us - and that includes you - can experience this phenomenon and, like most phenomenon, it is phenomenal!!

However, using your mind that way you have been using it will never allow you...

How many times have I heard "Oh, I couldn't do that"; "I could never say that"; "What would people think of me if I actually did that?"

Basically, we all think that "Little Old Me" is not up to it. And, if we think that, we'd be right - on a variety of fronts.

First of all, if you think that something is unrealistic it is! If you think you can't, you won't.

More importantly, regardless of what you think "Little Old You" cannot and will not change your life or any aspect...

Are you in a comfort zone? How comfortable is your comfort zone? How uncomfortable would you feel if you had to step out of your comfort zone to do something - that you probably know you need to do - that, you think, requires a little but of courage?

The normal mind is stuck in an all too uncomfortable place which it thinks is OK because most people are in the same boat! That's why so many people tell me that they feel stuck... they are.

Or they think that they are - it's only...

First of all, a heads up - this Episode coincides with the launch of a series of Free Online Events that I'm hosting, starting Monday September 8th.

Sign up is now open - you can do that in the link in your podcast player.

And, if you're listening after the 8th., the whole series of events, video-based, live Zooms (available on playback) and downloads will be available online until September 18th.

OK - why is this week's Episode called Yes You Can? Because most people are constantly telling themselves... No You Can't!

The short answer to the question posed in the title of this week's episode is... "No"! But, like everything else in life, there's a longer answer - a longer one but a simple one.

This episode explores how to get what's best for you in life, starting right away - not what you want, not what you think you want, not what you've been struggling to achieve or do in or with your life... what's best for you.

And there's a world of difference.

As we explore here, we're leaving the world of...

Yes, this episode hasn't just got a checklist - it has an ideal checklist for your ideal life. A shopping list, if you will!

But that's not what this episode is about!!

We're going back to basics to remind ourselves of the importance, primary importance of what we all must do everyday so that everything on the checklist "falls into our lap".

What's that? Meditate. I know, you may be sick hearing it and you will be sick if you don't do it!

Here, I am emphasising the compelling reasons why...

After the reaction that I received to last week's episode, we're continuing our journey into the wonders of synchronicity or, in fact, the everyday nature of synchronicity when...

When what? How do we create synchronicity rather than hang around waiting for it to happen?

What is the secret to experiencing regularly occurring life-changing moments?

This episode, once again using my own personal experiences, provides the answer to these questions.

As a result, even though I've used my personal adventures to illustrate this and the last episode, it means that you now...

Many people have asked me to talk about my own experience of synchronicity or, should I say, the many synchronicities that I have experienced and acted upon and how they have been turning points in my life and, indeed, the lives of my loved ones.

So, this episode is full or examples of how synchronicity works in practice and what we have to do to facilitate their flow.

One of the key things that we explore is the need to express our intentions - we also explore the caveats that go with that!

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Yes, you have a heat-seeking missile at your disposal - all you have to do is allow your intuitive self point it in the right direction and... it will deliver what's best for you.

Perhaps I should have actually called this episode "How to Get What's Best for You" because that is exactly what it is about - step-by-step.

Actually, there are only two steps.

You may have heard me refer to what I call (and what my Program Owners know as) the "Two-Piece Jigsaw" - that's what we're talking about.

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There is precious little benefit in being totally focused in the quiet of your own private space first thing in the morning, if you're all over the place within a few minutes of encountering the inevitable... a normal crazy person!

So, this week's episode delivers precisely what the title promises.

We're walking through the day, one step at a time, from the moment you awaken to the time your head hits the pillow again last thing at night - with loads of practical little things that you can do that will lead to great changes...

Well, now... if you're not, for example, already a client or an online program owner, this episode could be the start of something new - what's been described as the "Deep Joy" of your life, right here, right now - regardless of what's going on around you.

A big promise? Yes, it is and, yes it is a promise. But it's not a guarantee - you've to make the little choice or two that I suggest in this episode.

Yes, we'll dance around how life can be a pain in the backside for so many...

OK, the title sounds a little bit like a well-known song - but so what, the world's a different place, you're a different person, when you want for nothing.

And, truth is, when you're "in the zone", you do want for nothing, you don't have a care in the world, all is well.

What a different world we'd live in if enough of us were in that state of mind because state of mind it is.

This episode explores, using Online Program Owners' personal experiences as evidence, how life changes, transforms beyond recognition...

Being anywhere other than here and now means that you're missing your life.

Thinking that you need to go back to the past to figure out how you've got to where you are or who you are (or could be) is, therefore, a waste of your time.

Or much, much worse - revisiting the past amounts to reliving the past and enabling your past weigh more heavily on your present.

The past is a foreign country and you do not want to go there.

So is the future! People think that...

This is an episode full of practical tips - quick tips that you can start putting into practice today - that will enable you immediately experience happiness, peace of mind and what one of my Online Program Owners calls "Deep Joy".

I present you with a choice: do you want to be happy or would you prefer worry, anxiety and stress? Do you want to live your life properly, like you mean it, in the moment or do you want to be buried in the world of thought?

No brainers! Or, as we explore, you...

Or, more importantly, the things that we can do for ourselves!

In this episode, by way of introduction, we explore the madness of the normal human condition, as a result of which, we impede ourselves, constrain ourselves, belittle ourselves and, indeed, do ourselves actual physical harm.

But, if you're the problem, you are also the solution. Or, to put it another way, if your thoughts are the problem, stop paying them attention. As simple as that.

Yes, the things that we can do for ourselves are far easier - to the point of...

What? You don't have an everyday life?

That's right and that's what this episode explores.

Nothing is as it seems to the thinking mind: from anger to stress, to jealousy to, well the very reality of the here and now.

As a result, we're normally caught in a reactionary loop where things go from bad to worse and "not so bad" is about as good as it gets.

Until you stop reacting. Yes, that is what this episode is about.

So, what strategies do you need to adopt? Short...

You'll learn exactly how to set your mind to achieve your goals, objectives, dreams and "perfect moments" in this episode.

And, once your mind is set, what you have to do to get there becomes effortless.

As you'll discover, you don't need to know what you need to do, it will become obvious what's best to do as you effortlessly dance through each day, like a ballerina, without putting a foot wrong.

The whole process rests on your expectations and, in this episode, we explain exactly what expectation actually is... and how to...

Well now, in Episode #213 we explore the essence of life, the essence of living life to the full.

We explore peace of mind and what I describe as "the flat calm of being", of not having a care in the world.

And, as you'll discover, it's all about perspective or, perhaps, not having one - now there's a thought!

Which leads us back into the world of thought - the world of not being, the world that only exists in the warped minds of those lost in thought... most of us.

...

Has it taken me until Episode 212 to explain the step-by-step actions and benefits of meditation?

Well, you'll have to listen to really find out but...

This episode explains the science of meditation - forget the spiritual or religious, we're talking hard science. And we're talking about the impact that an understanding of the hard science has on your understanding and experience of meditation and, more importantly, the very real an powerful impact meditation will have in the cut and thrust of your everyday life - very quickly.

We're talking weeks.

If...

Which is easier, to think about doing something, to annoy yourself that you're thinking about doing it instead of doing it, to get frustrated and, perhaps, even guilty that you haven't done what you know you need to do or... to just do what you need to do?

Which is easier?

You know that answer. What you don't know is that everything, other than doing what needs to be done, is the result of thought, your thought, repetitive thought, the thoughts that hold you back.

And, then, what you probably will not know...

Now there's a title!

This episode covers a multitude but, in essence, goes straight to the heart of why we, as humans, are losing our humanity or, as one scientist puts it, "losing our soul".

This hasn't got an awful lot to do with Artificial Intelligence. Instead, it's got to do the "Knowledge" or the accumulation of what passes for knowledge.

In essence, it's all about how thinking divorces from reality, how thinking distances is from our true nature, how accumulated thought - including the 70k thoughts that are swilling around in your...

Everything bad in your life comes from thought. You need to not think. I didn't say that you need to stop thinking, I said that you need to not think. And there's a difference, a huge difference and it is the difference that will transform your life.

No more "I don't think that I can do that". No more "I think I wouldn't get away with saying that". No more "What will other people think of me". Too much thinking.

We're at our best as human beings when we're not thinking - when we are...

Yes, we're talking about family in this episode: family relationships, dysfunctional families, family feuds, normal crazy people behaving... normally!

We could come at it from the perspective of sibling rivalry, parental shortcomings - something we recently explored in The Age of Adolescence - or the so-called "Developmental Niche". But, forget all that, we need to look at it through the knowledge that you already have from listening to this podcast.

In short, we address how to navigate your way through what, for many (even if they won't admit it by papering over the cracks) is...

You may not like what you hear in this episode for over 90% of illness is a result of lifestyle choices - in other words, most illnesses are self-inflicted.

Of course, like everything else in life, the great news is... if you're the problem, you're also the solution.

And this episode explores how this actually works in practice. More than that, it provides you with the one simple step that we can all take towards a happier and healthier life.

We explore the interplay between genetics - often the lame excuse that normal crazy...

This is an episode about being a good parent. Being a good parent starts with being a loving person, a person that loves oneself. Actually, being a good parent is simply about... being.

In this episode, we explore development psychology, what happens during the third year of our lives, what parents, entirely unwittingly because they're not properly present, do to their children... obviously being completely unaware of it.

We explore adolescence - not the Netflix series although what happens in the Netflix series provides a useful foil for the subject matter of this episode. We...

This episode goes beyond caring in a variety of different ways.

First of all, most people don't care about themselves first of all! You are the most important person in your life and, if you don't care for yourself, you're in no position to care for anyone else.

Not just that, if you don't care for yourself, you're currently missing and will continue to miss your own life.

But we go further beyond caring in this episode because, it's only when you literally "go beyond caring" that all that's best starts flowing for...

Well, actually, this episode is about so much more than that!

Manifestation is grossly misunderstood, dare I say it, grossly... mis-sold.

You are already good at "manifesting" - because, not only can everyone do it, everyone is manifesting - all of the time.

It's just that most people - unaware "normal crazy people" - are manifesting what they don't want!

So, what is manifesting? How can you manifest what you actually want? Or, more to the point and better again, how can you manifest what's best for you?

All...

Everything that's wrong in your life comes from thought. All good things flow, when you're in flow.

In this episode we explore how people get stuck, how they can be paralysed by fear to the point of panic, how people end up by putting themselves in the nearest cardiac unit.

For example, the physical effects of stress are very real indeed but the root cause is imagined - an automatic flurry of thoughts that tigger all the wrong things to happen in your body.

A mind that is ill at ease creates a...

This episode starts by exploring the feelings and sentiments of a bruised and battered leadership team - and their discovery that they had something to celebrate.

Life throws us curved balls every day. For most (read "Normal Crazy People"), the automatic way in which the thinking mind reacts only magnifies life's everyday challenges, making dealing with them all the more difficult.

For starters, in this episode, we celebrate coping. When we cope with a challenge - or, to put it in proper terms, when we rise to a challenge and deal with it - we...

Imagine investing your attention, focus and energy in what you don't want to happen.

You don't need to imagine - it's something that comes naturally to the normal crazy mind - it's called worry.

And only an idiot would go there. But, we're all idiots until we take responsibility for what's going on in our head and take control of our state of mind.

In this episode, we explore how thinking leads to over-thinking, how wondering leads to worrying, we explore the delusional dangers of positive thinking and, obviously, we consider the detailed...

You don't find flow, nor peace of mind... they find you.

In this episode, we explore how to allow this happen - it is, as the very title of this whole podcast would suggest, a process of letting go.

Before we get into that, though, we explore what flow is, in actuality, in practical terms and we explore the nature of peace of mind and its implications.

We learn that, with peace of mind, comes an understanding, an experience of not having a care in the world. And we learn that, with flow...

This episode's title holds true, whether you're a normal crazy person or someone who has taken responsibility for your own state of mind.

What's going on within creates what you achieve and experience - it has nothing to do with anyone else but you.

If you're a normal crazy person, your everyday life is the result of a mass hallucination, a mass hypnosis driven by programmed, patterned, repetitive thought, which leads to a programmed, patterned, repetitive life - no wonder, when using our minds this way, we feel stuck, fearful of change and stressed (and...

I really don't like the title of this week's episode because we're talking about so much more...

First of all, we bust a few productivity-boosting myths: like you should do the (apparently) important things first or you should do the task you'd prefer not to have to do at all before you do anything else; like you should have a "To Do List" or have a plan or, God help us, an Action Plan; like multi-tasking, otherwise known to cognitive psychology as trying to half do a load of things badly simultaneously. Ah... Myths!

More...

Another misleading episode title - because there's nothing that you need to boost!

Self-esteem is about how you think about what you think about who you think you are. How many steps removed are we from reality?

It's only our "Conceptual Self" that thinks it needs bettering, buttering-up, bolstering. The various tips that you'll find online about boosting your self-esteem are thoughts about thoughts.

And, as we know from previous episodes, we are at our best when we are not thinking. We are when we are not thinking.

So, do we...

Actually, the title of this week's episode is a little misleading - after all, why do you need to deal with something that, in reality, isn't there.

Yes, whilst everyday life is full or pressure and challenge, stress is imaginary, in the mind of the beholder.

That doesn't make stress any less life-destroying, literally. Everyday stress kills, like death by a thousand cuts. Everyday stress damages the cardiovascular, digestive and immune systems - but not, not ever, beyond repair.

You can choose to rid your life of stress today - you don't even...

Regardless of your individual circumstances, there is one thing that I know you're looking for (because everyone's looking for it)... peace of mind.

Now, before we go any further, I do know some people who are not looking for peace of mind because they've already found it - they're owners of The Psychology of Success Online Program. You'll find details of that in the link in your podcast player!

Anyway, back to this episode. When you experience peace of mind, even for a moment, everything changes because your perspective is altered and, once experienced it...

We're talking about real success and happiness in this episode - we're talking about the real you and how different that is from the person that you think you are, the personality that fits you like a glove.

We're talking about how to balance work and life, how to rid your life of stress, effort and worry. We're talking about living your life on your terms, your way.

But we're not just talking about it - this episode provides both the instructions on how to do the right things in the right way at the...

What does happiness mean to you? What does success look like? How would it feel to be living your life, your way, to the full?

Do you need to answer these questions? You certainly shouldn't exercise your mind in thinking about them!

In this episode, we explore how we need not define happiness and success, how we need to know what it's like to feel it and how, when we do feel it, even if only for a glancing moment, do we sustain it.

Yes, living your "best life" - an awful expression...

As is often the case, I sat down to record one episode and an entirely different episode emerged... it's called being in flow!

So, whilst the above title is spot on, I explore a variety of ways in which we normally try to succeed or excel, which simply do not work - or worse set us up for disappointment or failure - as an introduction to the last ten minutes of this episode when... you get exactly what it says on the tin!

What does that mean? You're getting simple instruction in proper meditation. You're...

Well, now - there's so much in this episode!

We debunk the idea that you can get more out of life by working harder, not smarter. You don't have to work at all.

We get to understand your life's purpose. Yes, I already know it!

We deal with the confusion created by too many apparent bright ideas and we understand how, when we take our foot off the gas, we accelerate.

Yes - the whole process, the flow of synchronicities, the abundance of real-life, everyday results, everything accelerates when you ease...

There's so much in this episode: from reflecting on how you react or how you've noticed that you're less prone to reaction, to considering how you say and do what you might previously have been coy about saying and doing; from how your doing mind looks after you, does things for you to how your automatic mind does things to you.

We explore the hows of looking after your moment-to-moment behaviour, allowing yourself make the right choices and decisions and being agile to get the most out fo the moment.

And we highlight the significance...

Which of the above three words is bad?

In this episode we explore and explode some of the myths about goal-setting and, then, how get a feel for what is best for you.

Yes, I did not say what you "want" - we can have so much more out of life than we think we want.

We investigate how, in clearing your mind, everything becomes clearer: your own self-worth, your perspective of reality, the things that are most important to you and what your heart truly desires. Big stuff, the stuff that a...

You never know when you're going to learn something new, just like we can never anticipate having an Aha Moment - if we could it wouldn't be an Aha Moment!

And we never know who's going to teach us - learning comes from the most unlikely places.

In this episode we explore signs, signposts, opportunities and synchronicities - all easily spotted, embraced and followed... when we are present.

Are we talking about "presence of mind" - much more than that. Are we talking about "mindfulness" - well that's just a means to an...

One of the most difficult things in life to say - and, in not saying it, a rock on which we so often perish... "NO".

We get into so much trouble by not saying what needs to be said because we're afraid.

What will others think of us? We'll debunk that nonsense in this episode!

How could I get away with saying that? We'll deal with this too.

And, then, of course, we'll explore how life is so much simpler and easier - to the point of effortless - when we...

There's so much in this episode: from love and self-love to unconditional love, from being busy-busy-busy to... doing nothing.

Doing nothing: giving yourself the mental and spiritual space to experience clarity of mind, presence of mind, an ability to effortlessly do and say the right things and, most of all, a deep understanding of what your big dreams might be.

Yes, we're following on from last week's episode when we started exploring the necessity to "dream big dreams" - a necessity because, if you don't, you're missing out on the grandeur of your own life.<...

What does peace of mind mean to you? How about being carefree, how would that feel? How will we know how to dream big dreams if we don't know what it would feel like to know that we don't have a care in the world?

Well that, amongst plenty more besides, is what we explore in this new episode of To Succeed... Just Let Go.

One key theme running through this episode can be summed up like this: you are at your best when you're not thinking.

Not thinking is the key to...

Yes, once you get the hang of making the right choice, your new life takes on, quite literally, a life of its own.

In this episode we're exploring peace of mind and how to experience it.

And it is all about... experience - the great thing being, once you experience it, you can never un-experience it.

Peace of mind means: health, happiness, effortlessness, living "your best life", without a care in the world.

Like some of that?

The recipe is here and, actually, there are only two ingredients. How...

You are not who you think you are. Your deeply held expectations and beliefs about yourself have nothing to do with who you really are.

You are not your personality. You are not your so-called Conceptual Self - as we say in this episode, this fact is confirmed by the word "conceptual" - you are not a bundle of misconceived concepts, you are something far grander.

Imagine the power that you have within when you consider that people in their 70s, meditating for the first time, can meditate themselves neurally younger, reverse cognitive decline...

Oh, we're so good at coming up with "reasons why not":

That would be unrealistic - I can't see how that could happen - that's never going to work for little ol' me!!

All nonsense created by the normal thinking mind that is designed to ensure that your life does not change.

This episode use practical examples - case studies if you like - of how to let all your excuses and obstacles... just evaporate.

This is, if ever there was one, a How To episode.

Are you really your own worst enemy? Are you the one that's always getting in your own way? Is your daily life like an obstacle course?!

Would you, join two-thirds of my audience (you need to listen to the episode!) and what would that say about the extent to which you are or are not in the driving seat of your life?

In this episode we explore how we can, to quote a client "leave the old world of thought" behind. I explain just how effortless the whole "process" is.

And we explore...

All was well until thought crept over the fence and destroyed our experience of life!

All thinking leads to over-thinking. All thinking is flawed. And all flawed thinking leads you to thinking that you are flawed.

Flawed and undeserving, little in comparison to how grand you really are.

Using our mind that normal way, we sleepwalk through our lives, missing... everything but experiencing effort, struggle, stress and frustration.

We simply need to let our thoughts pass by.

Then, we experience reality as it is. We experience ourselves as we...

All too many people meditate without know why they need to meditate.

Yes, meditation is a necessity. If you don't take control of your own state of mind you will continue to miss your own life.

In this episode, I explain exactly how this happens automatically and we explore the implications.

Those implications are numerous and, at its most fundamental, they are the reasons why it is so difficult to give up bad habits, lose weight, make money, enjoy yourself as your self.

In these 30mins, I hope, I will impress...

We're all have a pretty good idea of what we don't want in our everyday lives. But goals are not things from which you run away!

No... goals are things we run towards - it's how we best set our mind to achieve anything and everything that our heart desires.

In this episode we explore exactly how to do that and, more importantly, we explore how our doing mind then goes about enabling that which our heart desires "fall intou our lap".

So, forget about what you don't want in your life; forget...

You don't need to push nor do you need to struggle. You don't need to wonder when what your heart desires will fall into your lap. It will happen in its own good time.

Yes, life's a lot like comedy, it's all about... timing!

When you're in flow, you will discover the right information in the right way at the right time; you will hear things at just the moment that they mean the most to you; your Perfect Moments will "fall into your lap" at the perfect moment (otherwise they wouldn't be perfect moments!).<...

What strategies do you need to adopt for changing your life or any aspect of it?

What plans to you need to create to take the right action that will lead you to achieve your goals?

Well, you're in for an eye-opener in this episode: strategies and plans are what normal crazy people create to end up... in the same place!

You need neither strategies nor plans to transform your life and every aspect of it. In fact, there's only one thing that you need to change and that change will enable you...

Yes, there's only one lifestyle choice that you need to make - after that you're restructured brain will take you in hand and make all the moment-to-moment choices for you effortlessly.

That means you'll start acting - a world away from how we normally only automatically react.

That means you will transform every aspect of your life: your health and wellbeing, your financial freedom, your success and happiness.

What's that one lifestyle choice? Well, if you're a regular listener, you may well already know. If you're not, it's time to find out!

We've talked about how important it is to forget the past - with a view to living in the present.

But what about the future? Surely you need to think your future through, figure it out, have a plan. No!

Forget about the future too.

Because the only place that you can live your life is in the here and now. Your future will be created by what you do and how you do it in the here and now.

And, when you do turn up to and tune in to...

So many people think that revisiting it will enable unpack who they think they are and, then, move on. So many people want to revisit it but end up reliving it.

And, even without the aid of a psychoanalyst, you must understand that the normally-minded way of "operating" means that we are, in effect, reliving our past every single day - every Groundhog Day - and, in the process, missing every single day of our lives.

No... today is the day that you decide "I'm leaving my past where it belongs... in the past".

We're moving our conversation along - from how we deal with so-called normal crazy people to how we create and build the kind of relationships that enrich our lives and, indeed, the lives of those around us.

We're talking about meaningfully touching other people's lives by discovering our own!

This is one of the most joyful parts of the adventure that we explore in this Podcast and it starts with those who are closest to us.

In this episode, we explore how you discover your true self, how, through liberating yourself from your...

OK, so you're working on yourself (you are, like the rest of us, a work-in-progress) and you're discovering more about your inner power and how presence transforms everything.

And, then, you come down out of the little ivory tower in which you were meditating at 7.00am in the morning and are slapped across the face by the simple mathematical fact that you're pretty much only going to be confronted by normal crazy people today.

How do you deal with that? How do you deal with them? How do you handle other people?

Well...

Discard your "To Do" List and start doing the important stuff - the stuff that your thinking mind would never conceive putting on a To Do List.

Yes, today we're talking about you being the right person, in the right place, at the right time, doing just what you need to do to achieve what you want... and doing no more.

In this episode, I explain why so many people have said to me, over the years, that the best things in life seem to "just happen" or it feels like the good stuff in...

This episode follow on from last week's - #168.

Here, I explain exactly how trying in built-in to our way of normal thinking - it's a fundamental evolutionary flaw. I explain this with practical everyday examples.

We then explore how to stop trying. I do this step-by-step - again with practical examples.

When you stop trying, you start doing just what you need to do and you do it in the right way, at the right time... effortlessly.

I explain the discipline required to do this. But it's not the kind of...

The one thing that will stop you getting what you want is trying too hard.

Or we could put it another way: the one thing that will stop you getting what you want is thinking that you have to try hard. Or... thinking at all because, as we all already know, all thinking leads to over-thinking and we end up suffocating the life out of ourselves.

So, let this episode be an adventure for you into the world of how this works for real people... I'm using plenty of examples in this episode about how...

Oh yes, this episode is a how to episode!

Learn how to make the right choices and right decisions by... learning how to choose in the first place.

You see, the normal mind cannot make choices - the choices are made automatically by the brain's Autopilot. The normal mind cannot take action - it's always in automatic reactive mode.

So you can't choose to be in flow until you re-learn (yes, you already know how to do this) how to make the choice and take the action to experience Flow.

Once...

How much easier would life be if you could stop the nonsense of thinking that you need to work hard to be a success?

How much more effortless would your daily workload be if you could be in what athletes call "the zone", while you're working?

How much more fun would life be if you only did what you needed to do, in the right way, at the right time... and forget the rest?

Well, in this episode, you get a blow-by-blow account of how to work smarter. You get the step-by-step guide...

We're off on an adventure in this week's episode... the adventure that you will experience when you change your expectations.

We "live" according to our expectations: our expectations of ourselves and how the world works. And, for the normally-minded individual, that means that we always live down to our expectations.

And that's not living at all.

And because it's a scientific fact that we only perceive and achieve according to those hard-baked in-build expectations, nothing is ever going to change in your life - until you change those expectations.

First and...

Actually, the title of this week's Episode should be "Who's Hindering Who?"

Yes, this week we take a tour into the realms of madness, crushed dreams and lost lives. Seriously.

And I don't apologise for the blunt delivery of this week's message - because we're talking about a matter of life and death... your's.

We're exploring the fact that there are two of you and the one of you who makes the most noise doesn't actually exist - although it sure feels as if they do.

They make so much noise...

This episode covers a multitude! The sad fact that we (normally) miss our own lives and don't even know it; the need to "follow the process" and, indeed, trust that process to deliver, as it has done for so many people.

Deliver what? Well, the life you'd love to live.

Yes, we explore how to meditate properly so that you experience the moment, so that you experience yourself and your true essence, so that you turn yourself on, turn up to your own life and live it like you mean it.

In a...

There's a short answer to the question that's the title of this week's episode - but it needs a little explaining.

So... there are a number of really important take-aways in this week's episode that, for starters, explore how we should feel about our past or, should I say, our lost years, the years in which our life passed us by because we hadn't turned up to it!

There's a detailed explanation of what the mainstream media call mindfulness - something that most commentators (and, for that matter, teachers) know precious little about.

...

A practical session that explains how we get in our own way. As a result, we're annoyed, frustrated, anxious, stressed, worn down and out.

At bottom, we're annoyed and frustrated with ourselves. And it's all because of thinking because... all thinking leads to over-thinking.

The alternative is breathtaking - an alternate reality (which happens to be the real one as from the one you think you're living in) where you just do what you need to do in the right way, at the right time, effortlessly.

Yes - this episode does exactly what...

We're going back to basics in this episode - because we all need to remember why we need to meditate.

Like anything else in life, if you don't know why you're doing something, what ever you're doing becomes so much more difficult - to the point where you'll give it up as a bad lot!

So, we explore the unfortunate side effects of the survival of the fittest - the brain that evolution has lumbered us humans with. We explore how it works against us and how it stops you changing your life or any...

We're talking about stepping outside your so-called comfort zone in this episode - you know, the one in which you feel safe but you know to be, at the very least, uncomfortable.

In fact, without taking control of what's going on between your two ears, without taking responsibility for your state of mind, that comfort zone is more like a prison cell. Seriously.

In this episode, we cover what happens when you walk out into the world that your thinking mind thinks is not there, what you will discover, first of all, about yourself and...

We're in between the Christmas festivities and the New Year - often a time for reflection. So, in this episode, I'm telling you not to reflect!

Instead, I have a suggestion for you that is far more interesting, one that will offer you the opportunity to get to know yourself in a way that may just fully jolt you into the realisation of your own inner power.

Effectively, I'm suggesting an exercise in awareness - the root of understanding and being. My suggestion will enable you take a giant leap forward even if that is...

We travel into your inner world in this episode because everything that you think is going on in the so-called real world is created within.

That means that you create your own annoyance, frustration, anxiety, loneliness... you name it, you're doing it to yourself - repeatedly.

So, if you want to experience peace of mind, that journey starts within. That's great news because it means that that journey can start right here, right now.

It means that all you have to do is deliberately decide to experience flow in the moment. Even the...

It's an expression used frequently by my clients and Online Program Owners - "it feels as if things just fall into my lap".

In the same vein, they regularly talk about things "occur" to them when they are not thinking about what to do or how to do it, when they are not thinking about worries, problems or challenges, when they're not thinking at all.

I've been asked "How do I let what I need fall into my lap?" This episode answers that question.

Whether it's work, business, health, fitness, relationships or dancing...

Here we have a practical walk-through what it means to have all good things just "fall into your lap", what it means to live the life you'd love to live like "it just happens"; how to be "the best version of you" and how synchronicity actually works... in practice.

We can talk about the science (we often do!), we can explore the concepts in detail (we often do that too!) and we can discuss the everyday practical how-to steps to "living your life to the full".

But what matters is... Results. Without practical results, why...

Now, there's an interesting title for this week's episode - words that the normal mind would consider defeatist! And, as we'll discover in this episode, words have power.

So, why are we exploring such anti-aspirational language? The answer is, of course, that we're not! Because I'm not using language in the way in with language is normally used.

So, this week, we take further steps on the adventure of a lifetime that progresses one step at a time, one now at a time. An adventure of experience and insight into who you really are, what...

There's a wrestling match going on in your brain's cockpit - and the Automatic Pilot needs to be defeated... your life depends upon it!!

Yes, this week we're talking about something beyond the scope of the normal crazy mind, beyond the scope of a mind-on-auto: conscious deliberate choice.

Conscious deliberate choice leads to the kind of conscious deliberate action that will change your life.

And it is a lot simpler than it sounds because you only need to get used to making one conscious deliberate choice on now at a time - it's...

Generally speaking, people don't know what they're talking about when it comes to focus.

I say "generally speaking" because it's 96% true - because normal crazy people cannot focus. Evolution wired the normal brain for something else entirely... survival.

That means that your brain is not wired to achieve your goals. It's not wired to enable you live the kind of life you'd love to live. It's wired to keep you in the box that you think you've been in since you were young and impressionable.

But that is not what this episode is...

Or, actually, this episode is about liberating yourself from the prison of created by your own thoughts.

In this episode we explore right and wrong, good and evil and, when you reflect upon it, you will realise that these are choices with which everyday life confronts us. Say the wrong thing and you throw fuel on the fire, do the wrong thing and dig yourself into a bigger hole. Everyday stuff!

But your life is made up of everyday stuff - for better or, if you're using your mind like a normal adult, for worse.<...

Here's the paradox - to just let go you need to take control.

So, in this episode, we explore what "taking control" means: scientifically (we explore cognitive psychology, neuroscience and the phenomenon of neuro-plasticity); with real-life examples (I've three important short stories) and with clear instruction (that explain exactly what we're talking about and how to do it).

For example, did you know that you cannot focus as a normal adult? Did you know that you cannot set your mind to achieve your objectives until you have experienced what it is like to be focused...

Wherever you are in life right now, however you feel about your life or any part of it... it's all of your own making.

Too many people blame someone else for their current perceived predicament: my parents, my siblings, the way I was bullied at school, how I was abused, my boss, "the system".

No! If you feel stuck, stressed, frustrated, fat, thin, an under-achiever... you're to blame, it's your fault.

But, as you'll discover in listening to this week's Episode, actually we're neither talking about fault nor blame, we're talking about responsibility...

Even though we explore bullying, parenting, peace of mind and success in this episode, all these things (and your ability to do and achieve effortlessly) all boil down to whether or not you are in Flow.

We could put that in a variety of different ways, all of which will give you, for startes, some insight into what we're talking about in this episode.

Are you clear and present now? Are you enthusiastic right now? Are you motivated? Are you turned on (we talked about this over the last couple of episodes too - and...

Actually, this episode should be entitled "How and Why to Meditate Properly and What to Expect"... because this conversation covers all that and more.

We lay to rest some of the nonsense around meditation - that there's one right way to do it - so many traditions have their "one right way" you could become not just totally confused but disillusioned with the whole notion!

I provide practical tips in how to sit, what to focus on, how long you should meditate for and when to do it.

More importantly, we pick up...

The answer to that is an obvious "No"... you change your life yourself.

But, as people who have worked with me over the last (almost) 28yrs will know, I can provide the signposts! And, if you're ready to follow the signposts, you're going to go on an amazing adventure - one your thinking mind couldn't even begin to imagine.

So, as we get together again, in Episode 146 - after a short break - we're exploring what changing your life actually means, what you need to do and how you will feel.

Yes, we...

Success is effortless when you know how. That's a fact borne out by every single client or Online Program owner with whom I've worked who (to quote many a Program Owner) has "followed the process".

When we follow the process, when we make the right choices, we completely alter our experience of the here and now. When we get into the habit of making the right choices, it doesn't just "grow on us", as someone said to me recently, it grows in us. Because the neural pathways we use when making the right choices, themselves, grow and...

In this episode, we race through a variety of different strategies that people use to make themselves "sound more interesting" and feel more important... from labels, to stories, to lies - to lies that normal crazy people actually end up believing!

There's obviously a grand purpose to this because, as you'll hear, there's a grand purpose to your life... your purpose in life is to be you. Because you are grand.

And your grandeur changes your life, your world. The moment you feel it, the moment you know, everything changes. And that means that you...

In this episode, we're talking about fear - because it's hardwired into us!

Fear of failure - weird one, really, because normal crazy people are serial failures; fear of being different; fear of change and, indeed, being afraid of your own shadow (you should be!).

But, most interestingly, we explore fear of success. I'll say no more, I don't want to steal my own thunder but... there are strong evolutionary reasons for this one!

And, even more interestingly, we explore how there is no fear. It's just like stress, a figment of the...

I was going to call this episode "Great Expectations" - and, when we delve into the psychology of it all, you'll understand why. But let's cut to the chase: you live and experience your life according to your beliefs. What you believe colours and filters everything.

That means, until we take the piece of equipment between our two ears and remake it, what passes for our life will be coloured, filtered and poisoned by beliefs that hold us back, what we commonly call "self-limiting beliefs".

Because our moment-to-moment experience is dictated by our beliefs, wouldn't...

"Ah sure I'm only human" as a client said to me a short while ago. "I still react to situations, but not in the way I used to".

What had happened in the meantime? He had embarked on the adventure of self-awareness and self-discovery and, in the process, discovered that, at times, he is super-human.

In a world where our brain developed in a lowest-common-denominator way, we need to rise above the madness - you don't have to look far to come to the same conclusion as I have - we live in a world...

We're unpicking the real-life client story from our last episode to ensure that we understand and can act on the two key take-aways that, together, ensure that you can effortlessly allow your life move forward towards your ideal life, encountering many perfect moments along the way, by doing what it takes to follow the signposts offered to you by opportunity and synchronicity.

The key take-away from this week's episode is that your life is entirely of your own making.

This is true regardless of whether you're a normal crazy person or following a process of...